My wife and I are getting a divorce. She keeps saying that this is the best way for us to find our way back to each other. She keeps giving me a sense of hope, as long as her parents are not around. I still love her and want to be with her. So am I?
2006-08-05 23:41:41 · 19 answers · asked by finis b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cant see how you will find your way like this ..honestly sounds like she wants to get away( for some reason ).but i say ask her why she thinks this,and see what she says .,and if she stills wants to..Then maybe give it a short time and see,, but im not sure i would wait to long if shes not trying ..Could be she wants to be with someone else.. something just is not right with this..but ive learned from past relationships not to trust to many people,and i know something isnt right when they come up with such crazy things as this ..be careful and guard your heart ,and take 1 day at a time and just see what happens......good luck
2006-08-05 23:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by sherr_ma_destiny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see what a divorce will help. The only case I know of where a divorce helped the relationship was an issue where the woman became ill and the insurance money ran out. They got a divorce so she could get medical assistance. Unless you have something like that happening, divorce is the END.
2006-08-05 23:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are fooling yourself. If your wife wanted to be with you, she'd do anything to stay with you. I can understand the pressure of the in-laws, but she could easily stop her parents messing in your relationship instead of divorcing you. You know what, move on, divorce your wife. But before doing so send her the right message - tell her that by divorcing her you are already moving on and that if she wants to find the way to you she has to do so before divorcing, otherwise you'll fly in the opposite direction. At leat she'll figure out that you are not swalloing her lies. She does not deserve you, so better to be alone that in bad company. Take care of your heart and go out with your friends to meet new people and a new woman.
2006-08-06 00:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes hun i hate to say it but sounds to me like your wife is just telling you what you want to hear so u will give her the divorce .. A funky pair of lips will always tell you what u wanna hear !! Sniff my heart really goes out to you .. I could maybe understand a temp seperation but a divorce No she is as good as gone she dont have no intentions on coming back to you ...Id let her know that you kno its over and that your moving on with your life if she goes thru with the divorce ..she sounds like a greedy selfish person and i think your better off WITHOUT HER!! Its her loss if she wants to let her parents come between her marriage if she is not willing to fight for you and give u the respect u want and need then in my opinion you needa let her go! Its not fair for you to put your life on hold for her selfish a$$ ..If you truly love this women try talking to her one last time b4 u go thru with the divorce make sure u let her kno how much u love her and want to be with her but also let her kno if she decides to go through with the divorce then there is NO COMING BACK! you deserve someone who is gonna love and respect you someone that wants your love and that will do anything in there power to keep it .. she will regret letting you go hun
2006-08-06 02:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing this to give you hope, probably. I suspect it's just cruel mind games. Divorcing to find your way back to each, is like improving your health by shooting yourself. Or, ridding the home of mice by setting the house on fire. IF your wife was interested in getting back together, she would stop divorce proceedings. Sorry.
2006-08-06 00:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never a way back to someone. She must still have some feelings for you through, as she is trying to let you down gently. She obviously has told her parents otherwise, as she gives you different answers when they aren't around. Sounds like time for you to move on.
2006-08-06 01:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by koffee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your just fooling yourself. Your getting a divorce and that usually means "the end". Some of us wish it didn't, but it does. Tell her to tell you the truth. Tell her not to give you hope if there is no hope. Tell her to be honest with her feelings and not hide behind her parents. The biggest, biggest mistake that is made in a marriage is to let family get involved in it. If she has done this, then your doomed.
2006-08-06 07:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get back together by being apart. She would be lying to you to let you down easy. Sure its misguided but thats probably it. If she does not want to work on it now how is that going to change apart. This is the reason for seperation not divorce. So yes, I think you are.
Just wondering, what does her parents have to do with it? Have they been poisoning the well. If she is doing this for them you will be better off without her.
2006-08-06 00:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who wanted the divorce? Let her go if she filed for it. She is keeping you on the back burner. Maybe she has someone else and doesn't want to completely let you go until she knows if the other one is going to work out. Let her go!!
If she listens to her parents still while she is married she needs to grow up and live her own life maybe next time you will find someone that is independent and doesn't need mommy and daddy around to help her make grown up decisions that she clearly isnt ready to make on her own.
2006-08-05 23:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kristi in Nevada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a divorce would help your situation. That's going allll the way. Why not just be separate for a while? Why go so far as divorce? You love her. Ask her.
Good luck.
2006-08-05 23:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by ic1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋