Marriage & Divorce - 8 August 2006

Almost 1 yr ago, I called the man I consider my one true love to find out what had happened to him. I did a little searching and was not able to find a "wife" anywhere so I called. The moment we connected almost 9 yrs later, he and I realized that we were still completely in love but now what?
We were both in marriages that were not happy, married for all the wrong reasons. He had a child and so did I. We decided to keep talking (looking back on this, god, I know that was a bad move but had no choice... this guy is it for me). We engaged in an intense emotional affair and have talked for hours about the time when we can be together and live our life together.
His wife knows about me... She found a txt message months ago and he promised not to talk to me again. But then he told me that he would never let me go and so we continued. This is without a doubt the man I am meant to be with.
I think she discovered us again, what should I do?

2006-08-08 23:55:14 · 15 answers · asked by LovingMichael 1

hey i been with my boyfriend for almost a year we are getting married and i am 11 weekss preg with his baby, and i can't trust him.. we broke up for about 2 hours and he slept with a little s*ut...who pretended to be my friend, and i asked my boyfriend if he ever slept with her and he said no, and the next day he told me he has be lying to me and he did, he had the balls to tell me at least... and i DON'T wanna leave him and I know I'm dumb for not.. but I love him so much and he's really all I have, everyone tells me how pretty i am i can get whoever i want and i don't want anyone else.. some of my boyfriends friends tell me i should not trust him on how he acts around other females, and my friends tell me about stuff they hear about, i don't know if they are starting rumors or what, i have enough trust issues with him already, and how can i tell him that? i ask him about what i hear and he gets mad. and should i still believe whatever he says?

2006-08-08 23:53:34 · 7 answers · asked by kmkgirl 1

The girl you married was not the one for you...years later you find the ONE for you...is it too late

2006-08-08 23:51:08 · 9 answers · asked by Sanjay B 1

hey i been with my boyfriend for almost a year we are getting married and i am 11 months preg with his baby, and i can't trust him.. we broke up for about 2 hours and he slept with a little s*ut...who pretended to be my friend, and i asked my boyfriend if he ever slept with her and he said no, and the next day he told me he has be lying to me and he did, he had the balls to tell me at least... and i DON'T wanna leave him and I know I'm dumb for not.. but I love him so much and he's really all I have, everyone tells me how pretty i am i can get whoever i want and i don't want anyone else.. some of my boyfriends friends tell me i should not trust him on how he acts around other females, and my friends tell me about stuff they hear about, i don't know if they are starting rumors or what, i have enough trust issues with him already, and how can i tell him that? i ask him about what i hear and he gets mad. and should i still believe whatever he says?

2006-08-08 23:44:58 · 19 answers · asked by kmkgirl 1

I just want to know.. will there be enough penetration in doggie style?

2006-08-08 23:25:51 · 13 answers · asked by Trying to be spiritual 1

She has never trimed or shaved her pubes before, we been married 9 yrs.....she loves oral but the hair makes it hard to preform. I have asked her to shave before , she called me a pervert. Any ideas??

2006-08-08 23:25:04 · 39 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1

my mom and step-dad got maried 7 years ago
they thinking of geting a divorce would all da properetys go half half or wat would happen?
1 house was bouild befor the marrieg and 2 after they got married.
i know it sounds mean meh asking about how much who gets but $$ is life and it sucks tnx for ur time people.

2006-08-08 23:24:41 · 6 answers · asked by jas_slo 1

I am wondering if it is too good to be true? My fiance and I are so happy right now, I've been married one other time and it was nothing like this. Could we be too happy?

2006-08-08 23:24:03 · 6 answers · asked by barbara_taylor17 2

Now I feel regretful for my action , wish to get her back & she refuses cause of the punches I gave her ,I love my son & daughter too much & of course I love her, what can I do ?

2006-08-08 23:17:55 · 14 answers · asked by sorinam_att 1

Just lately my husband + I have taken a lot of knocks in our relationship. I can't recall anything good he's said to me lately and he picks on me constantly on how I prep food, or where I may leave something, or won't give a straight answer to even a routine question of what's on for work today. I feel he is punishing me as we haven't agreed on an issue of argument, but it is critical to find a truce or this distance between us will widen. I have offered many compromises on the argument issue but am being blanked on that, or compromise not good enough.

I am frightened to ask what's going on with us as gentle attempts to do so before (carefully chosen words to not fall into the nagging trap!) have made him push me away even further. I am very torn up inside and weight plummeting for the worry of it. I told him this too + he seems not to care. I think we have a lot going for us and a beautiful 6m baby but have lost our way. How can I reach him that we're in danger here?

2006-08-08 23:17:00 · 22 answers · asked by sweetpeachmummy 2

She is wonderful girl. We decided to get engaged within only one week while I was spending my vacation in Palestine 2 months ago where my father’s family live and we signed the marriage contract to get the process of getting her visa moving faster. I’m American doctor and I started my pediatric residency by my arrival to the US. I became very busy as my schedule was too crazy. And I believe if I have to spend the rest of my life with someone I want to have time to get to know them. And I don't have the time right now. So we broke up a week ago. The last thing I got from her was as below. Kindly you read it patiently and tell me what to do. I am extremely frustrated with how things are and I don’t know how to make it up to her.
“I know things get so bad lately by the process of contract dissolution. It was converted to families’ conflict which was easily to be avoided if your father just waited until you and I had chosen to end it in a civilized way. I know you don’t care about the way my family and I want it to be. But you should realize that this will cause a big problem to me and to my family too. In here we agree to sign the marriage contract while we realize very well that we choose the person we want to spend the rest of our life with and this is not a stupid thing. For me, I know exactly the general aspects I want in the person I want to be with so it wasn’t difficult to know enough about your personality during the short time I saw you before engagement and then the other things that I’ll detect will be treated because any other bad things I may detect could be easily treated for me as the general good things were existed indeed. And I thought the same you were thinking as you were very enthusiastic for my personality and attitudes that I thought gave you good idea about me to choose to sign the contract so as to be the first step to get married. I didn’t know that it is normal for you to end the contract whenever you want, and I still couldn’t imagine that your excuse was because I got angry when you fell asleep and when you didn’t respond to my phone calls that night while I was burning that may be something bad happened to you. I just wonder if all engaged people break up just because one of them gets angry at the other! You know also this is a culture which makes me in a very bad condition to be insulted and rejected by my fiancé. I do not want to tell you about the pain and the heartache this caused to me because I know you do not care about it at all, but I just want you to know that this would make the people here to ask for a long time what happened and what things got you to reject me like this. Unfortunately I made a bet on this relationship in front of myself, my family, my friends and all the people here. I had overconfidence that I finally did the best for myself. Yes I was mistaken. My fault was that I followed my sense, my heart and my imagination. Okay I was disappointed then and I spent a very bad time that made me sick at home for days ago as I couldn’t understand how you decided that we would never carry on this relationship, I always believe there must be a terrible thing should make us to break up as we couldn’t find any other solution to solve our problem.
My illness and sadness made my family got angry from you and your family. They tried to do their best to make me refreshed again. My parents said a lot of things about Allah willing and about the best things that Allah wrote for us. I believe this is not your or my willing. This is what Allah wants us to do. He wanted us to get engaged for reasons I still don’t realize and he also wants us to break up now. But finally I can’t forgive the game was played with me. I understand what you said that you didn’t know that it would make this terrible situation to me. And it is not my fault that your family here and your father over there didn’t tell you about these things and they didn’t tell you about your obligations after ending the contract, and I can’t understand how your father did not tell you about all these obligations that are normally related to the contract signing. He is from our town, so he surely knows about all these things and when he called your family here to end the contract, he must have been realizing that this will hurt me a lot and this will affect my social status, my reputation and my family name.
You remember the jealous people who tried to make us upset after our engagement. They started to send me some messages to say: hey…hard luck… you lose the bet!
Well finally I don’t care about what people said but my family do. My parents said that if I forget the pain they will never forget how their daughter was suffering and getting the hard insult and pain in front of their eyes!
May be you did not mean to hurt me, may be you did not mean to cause me this pain… but unfortunately this was happened. I need long time to overcome the misery and sadness, I need long time to retrieve trust in my sense and in my feelings… also it needs long time to trust people again. All these things will take time to be cured. And this is because of you whether you accept this fact or not.
All my family and my friends ask me not to forgive you and they do pressure on me to take the money written in the contract… this is not to compensate what happened to me because money will never cure the wounds this thing caused within me. They ask me to do because this is the only way I have now to punish you!
But this is not my way to punish people who hurt me. I don’t punish them by taking their money.
May be you will be so angry to give me the money that you did not know you will pay if you choose the divorce. And you insist that this is a sin to be done according to your readings about Islam. But I wonder if you read something about playing with others’ feelings and reputations and if this is a sin or not!
I don’t try to play the victim role in here. I know it was also my fault to agree to get engaged that so fast way. I think we both were misleaded to this trap that your family here wanted you to get engaged to a girl form the toen to keep their hope that you could come to stay here some day. And may be this made your family over there to feel threatened of losing you after a while. May be you thought that I agreed to get engaged to you just to get out Palestine as well as to live the America dream. May be you finally thought that I hidden the information about the money in the contract just to catch you in a trap so as to force you to marry me. May be you think that I’m looking for your money now to spend them on myself and to be rich of! I still can’t forget how you insisted to insult me by saying you would send some money for me to purchase what I need… how terrible you are!
You will never understand how you hurt me… you will never understand what the pain you caused to me.
You only care about yourself and about your money… you only called me to ask why I should take money for divorce and this is what made my family to be more angry at you. But I still want you to be sure that I will never take any money from you. I just want to let you know that I’ll face some problem with my family for not agree to take the money but I only have the right to take them or not. So don’t worry about this. I promise I’ll do my best to end the contract without getting the money from you. This is the point I want you to be sure about. Firstly I have to convince my family that I don’t want to take the money as I do not have any plans to punish anyone. But you know I don’t want them to be angry with me for this… I just want them to keep on giving me their love and support during this difficult time and I don’t want to face any problems with them now… they believe that punishing you is the only way to retrieve my lost dignity and esteem. But please please please do not tell any one about this deal (especially your parents because I’m scared your father would do another stupid thing that will make me in a very bad condition in front of my family and that will make them keep their mind).
Other thing I want to talk about that I’ll send back the ring and the other gifts to your family here. Also I’ll send back you your 200$ that you gave me before you left. And if I miss any thing, let me know please. And if you have anything to say before ending this, just let me know. And please update me about the paper.
Take care of your self and good luck,”

2006-08-08 23:12:27 · 7 answers · asked by Heartache 1

2006-08-08 23:07:49 · 9 answers · asked by RRR 1

Hi to all,I have been married for 2 yrs.My husband thinks that a wife's duty is to clean the house,help the husband in all ways.I want a child badly.I have been pressurised by my in-laws and also by my own family since I m the elder one.I know baby making has to happen with relaxation and you must keep on trying.The thing is my husband hardly has sex with me,in a month maybe 3 times the most.He is such a workaholic.I really don't know what I can do.Sometimes I feel that he has no interest in family life.Pls give me some advice on what to do.Only sensible answers and if you have personal experiences that will also be great.

2006-08-08 22:51:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really want to jackoff to porn while chatting to a india woman online, would this be considered cheating?

2006-08-08 22:47:20 · 10 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1

1.Do you like to take control when you have sex with your husband?
2. Pls explain in few sentences what you like to do when you take control?

2006-08-08 22:44:54 · 8 answers · asked by Trying to be spiritual 1

2006-08-08 22:39:44 · 4 answers · asked by chocolate 1

i'm still in love with my ex girlfriend, i wished it never ended. Now i'm married going on 2 years and cant still get her out of my head. It was love at first sight with my ex, and she's gorgeous. I'm almost desperate to call her but she's also married and has 2 kids now also.... Should i just put a bullett in my head and save the heartaches for everyone..

2006-08-08 22:31:37 · 45 answers · asked by sin_m_067 1

2006-08-08 22:30:37 · 9 answers · asked by v.d 1

I have been with my husband for 5 yrs, but married two. I am 24 years old and we have two children together. A five year old and a 9 month old. I just found out that when he was in Seattle for work he cheated on me (while I was pregnant) and then cheated again earlier this year (April) after I had our daughter. We just purchased our first home together and have been living here two months. I am lost I am unsure of which way to turn. All of my family just moved out of state less than a month ago, so I have no one. And on Wednesday next week I am staring the best job in my life, so I really cant move, I dont know what to do. He has begged and pleaded with me and seems sincere but my heart wont allow it. I feel so hurt and emotionally abused , what should I do?

2006-08-08 22:26:24 · 11 answers · asked by Micah 1

2006-08-08 22:26:11 · 7 answers · asked by albo 1

I can write romantic letters like this one but my wife is illitrate what can i do?Letters,e-mails and sms are the best ways of expressing myself:

You are the love of my life. We have been so close, yet so far apart. No matter where my life takes me, my heart is set on you. Like a blossom growing, our friendship gets stronger everyday. feeling safe and closer to you makes a part of me happier than the other. You have become a part of my life and you will always remain in my heart forever.
There are no words to express the gratitude I feel in my heart that our hearts have come to dwell together, as one. You are my life, my heart, my soul. You are my best friend. You are my one true love. The day we met was fate. Our lives intertwining was fate. You are my destiny. I love you more today than I did yesterday, and I'll love you more tomorrow than I do today. Love is the only thing that makes life worth living. My love. With all my heart I am forever yours

2006-08-08 22:23:23 · 16 answers · asked by Omar 1

My wife told me to never talk to my bestfriend again. My wife is fat,white and lazy. My bestfriend is thin and attractive black woman, very sweet and understanding. I think my wife is being racist.

2006-08-08 22:16:49 · 5 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1

My husband has recently started smoking again and also has started drinking and going out to the bar almost nightly, even if he has to work the next day. And he gets a friend to always pay for it. I do not know what to do about this. I really don't like the way he is being. He doesn't help me around the house or spend time with me anymore. I tried to sit down with him and talk and he says he just wants to stay at a friends and see what happens. I am confused we were great until he met this new guy friend of his. I do not know if it is right of me to ask him to space away from the guy a bit for the sake of our marriage. I know he would say that i dont have the right to do that. But i truly believe that this friend is being a bad influence. Help

2006-08-08 21:48:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I came home from work early and my wife was in bathroom, she left the computer on. I went and sat down and read all the messages in the IM box. Saying I love you. He wanted to feel her breast and she couldnt wait until she saw him naked. He was saying he was preparing for a vacation in my home town. And how he just bought new boxers for her.

My wife is a big woman and has an iternet addiction , I asked her about this man and she said she was playing around and none of it was true or real. I think she is lying. I am angry......last time i had computer cord she broke my car window...what do i do? I cant sleep thinking about all the mess she puts me through.

2006-08-08 21:48:19 · 5 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1

When I was four years old I was brutally raped. My family fell apart not long after and I had been going along with life as if nothing ever happend. I never talked about it and I would deny nightmares. I told my husband little about the rape when we were together. I would not accept his love fully (feeling of being damaged). Anyways, I left him a few years ago and since then I had a baby with another man (single mother). My husband that would not divorce me, knows this. We started talking via e-mail again and he wants to rebuild our friendship. I feel so ashamed for everything that I have done (I love my child with all my heart though) and I am currently getting help to work through this issue, but I feel undeserving of his love, his friendship, but I owe him this, yes?

2006-08-08 21:47:52 · 10 answers · asked by Sequoia 1

i'm writing the "toast" i'm giving to my best friend since 3rd grade whose getting married this wk. should it be funny or touching?

2006-08-08 21:47:08 · 12 answers · asked by sparkloom 3

is this ok?

2006-08-08 21:39:35 · 11 answers · asked by Lothario 1

2006-08-08 21:33:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tell me your horror stories.
And where's the best place to meet a future mate?

2006-08-08 21:33:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-08 21:29:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous