The girl you married was not the one for you...years later you find the ONE for you...is it too late
2006-08-08 23:51:08 · 9 answers · asked by Sanjay B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to be happy and if you are sure that this other person is the one, then you need to go for it.
But I caution you to look carefully and be sure that it is not infatuation or excitment that you are picking up on. Excitement wanes after time, no matter who you are married to. But if you are truly not in love with your wife, you need to move on so she can find someone who is.
2006-08-08 23:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by LovingMichael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading any book on affairs and making a marriage work... and every one of them will caution you against going after the "one". She very well might not be this at all; a lot of other factors could be at play - lust, excitement about doing something sneaky, dissatisfaction with your current marriage...
But, if you're really in a loveless marriage, that isn't good either - although it all might look different a couple months from you.
My advice: wait it out! Absolutely NO sneaking around, because that's just wrong and dishonorable, and even if you didn't love your wife she still wouldn't deserve that. Flings can look pretty serious in the beginning but turn out to be nothing later, but marriage IS serious - so, I would urge caution.
Good luck to you!
2006-08-09 07:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cedar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how will u be sure that the girl u found years later is definitely the real love of your life? after a while it may seem that even she isnt the real one, then what will u do?
just learn to be satisfied with what u have.....since u seem to be married for many years already & life hasnt been tough for u, then just learn to love & live with your wife. grass always looks attractive on the other side. there always will be someone who seem to be the perfect one for u but loving someone & living with them maybe a different experience altogether!
2006-08-09 07:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing. when you married your first gal, u must have thought she was the one for u too. this is just called boredom. try to liven up your married life before running to a new flame love, that will eventually fade out just like it happened with your marriage.
another thing you should try. put yourself in your wife's shoes. how would you feel if she would leave you for another man?? pretty bad. right... i wish some people would just appreciate what they have. they will only know what it was worth when they have lost it...
and yes it is too late, because you have promised everlasting love and long life to another woman already. aka, ur wife
2006-08-09 06:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry on the life without disturbing present set up , and same time share all the information about you with your second one , if she still find you attractive , manage both as a real gentleman , do not ask first one to go out of your place .
2006-08-09 06:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you marry a girl you didn't love?
2006-08-09 06:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is just a feeling that comes and goes but true love is sticking with someone through everything.
2006-08-09 06:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by steven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go for real love, no holds barred
you live your life the way you wanted to!
go, you go for it
just do it
2006-08-09 06:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok times like these u hav to test them if the other gal is supporting u thru out thn i guess talk t ur wife n tell her wat u told us otherwise if this gal is only for luks or money or wateva she not for u
2006-08-09 06:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by cute gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋