I came home from work early and my wife was in bathroom, she left the computer on. I went and sat down and read all the messages in the IM box. Saying I love you. He wanted to feel her breast and she couldnt wait until she saw him naked. He was saying he was preparing for a vacation in my home town. And how he just bought new boxers for her.
My wife is a big woman and has an iternet addiction , I asked her about this man and she said she was playing around and none of it was true or real. I think she is lying. I am angry......last time i had computer cord she broke my car window...what do i do? I cant sleep thinking about all the mess she puts me through.
2006-08-08 21:48:19 · 5 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't trust her, you shouldn't be in a relationship. Trust is the main foundation of any love or even friendship. Anyway, I understand your situation, and I'm sorry about it. But, why can't she just be a woman, and not your "big" woman? It wasn't really a nessassary detail for your story.
2006-08-08 21:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Monique Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be feeling insecure because of her weight and just wanting some attention to see if she is still attractive to other men. Women have affairs for emotional reasons. Although women will have affairs for the same reasons as men, which is for something different, it happens less often. You, being a man, know that guy is going to say anything to your to try to get her to have sex with him. If you really want to know what she is up to, create a new chat identity and chat from work or a friends place with her. Make sure you get a picture of someone else to put on the identity but not someone she might know. Create this person to be in the same town as you live so there is the possibility of meeting. It won't take you long to see if she is up to no good.
2006-08-09 08:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with "internet addictions," are typically drawn to the idea that you can be anyone you want to be, you can send fake pictures to people and claim that they are of yourself, you can even use fake names, tell fake backgrounds, and it's all so believeable to the person on the other end, and they like you and they think you're funny or charming or smart. Sometimes, for people who don't feel attractive or interesting physically it gives them a chance to be liked for their minds. Sometimes for people who are shy or scared of social situations, it gives them a chance to slowly get to know people, with the added safety of ignoring them or turning the machine off when things get uncomfortable.
I'm guessing that your wife feels more comfortable online than with real people. It is clear that you make no bones about the fact that she's "big," and that can be hurtful to a person, whether they tell you so or not. To help you feel at ease, it's likely nothing really WILL ever come of her online romance, because she may be too scared to reveal her real self to this person, depending on what picture she painted for his imagination. However, there is a great chance that she is feeling more loved by these people than by you, and that eventually she will decide that she "deserves better" than what you're providing emotionally and/or physically for her.
My best suggestion would be to isolate her somehow from the computer for a couple days with something fun, try to reconnect with her, and help her realize that her real life is pretty darn satisfying and that the "characters" that she meets online are never going to provide the same human warmth.
That is, if you want to keep her. If you're looking for permission to get mad and get a divorce, youcould do that, too. In fact, I'm pretty sure that divorce lawyers love the "online affair" stuff. It happens a lot, and would probably be grounds enough.
2006-08-09 05:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by ohiogirlie74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has serious issues. It seems like she needs someone else's attention to feel good about herself. At any rate, cheating, whether online or not is still cheating and she definitely has problems. Tell her that her online cheating is causing problems for you and if she doesn't stop, then she's just being selfish and you should not be in this marriage.
2006-08-09 05:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her fat lazy azz and get a skinny woman, she will still do the same thing to you but at least she will look good doing it
2006-08-09 05:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋