Now I feel regretful for my action , wish to get her back & she refuses cause of the punches I gave her ,I love my son & daughter too much & of course I love her, what can I do ?
2006-08-08 23:17:55 · 14 answers · asked by sorinam_att 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
beg for her mercy
buy her wonderful gift & tell her how much you love her
remind her at wonderful time that u had toghether & u want those days back.
2006-08-08 23:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by behnoush_k_1976 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
She betrayed you for a reason! It does not mean she made a wise choice, however it may have been hard for you to handle and painful, that did not give you the authority to punch her!! If you did this once, I would say you will do it again, when in a fit of anger. Take anger management classes, practice the info learned and get on with your life! She made another choice to not get back with you!! There must have been problems with your marriage in the first place, it also could mean she is having her own issues, she could betray you again! Seek out help for you and she needs to get help for her issues.
2006-08-09 06:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your actions are definitely those to regret. can you blame your wife, for not wanting to take you back? you cannot control someone, by hitting them - that's abuse and it doesn't matter what she did. I know her infidelity made you angry, but maybe you should be focusing on "why" she looked to another for affection. sounds to me like you have some anger issues and maybe you need anger management. hitting your wife is not something to be taken lightly and saying I'm sorry is not enough.
If you really want to get your wife and family back, and there is any shred of hope - go into counseling. Let your wife see that you are making an effort. You both threw trust out the window and in my opinion you both need to talk to someone, if you still love each other and want to work on your marriage.
there is a lot that needs to be resolved and it takes the willingness of 2 people to do it. if she's ready to move on, than you need to respect that and continue to be a good father to your kids.
2006-08-09 06:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While your wife was wrong to betray you - hitting her and punching her is unforgivable.
If you loved her that much, you would never have raised your hand against her, it is too late now.... once a wife beater, always one... sorry, you effed it. A leopard can't change his spots.
I don't blame her for not wanting to get back with you, no one deserves to be beaten up, and no child should be raised in an abusive home.
2006-08-09 06:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Serve you right. Who do you think yourself to punch her ha? I bet even her parent also do not hit her so hard.
Loving someone is not using this method but to have a heart talk and ask her why she choose to betray you? Now, it seems everything is too late for reconcile coz once you have started to hit, there is no turning back. I'm a woman and I know what is she thinking.
2006-08-09 07:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need individual counselig to learn anger management and you two of you need counseling together. Women don't like to be used as a punching bag. You have a lot of learning to do to get your wife back.
2006-08-09 07:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Enroll yourself in anger management classes and learn to deal with your anger without hitting a woman. She should see a major change in you before you should even expect her to reconsider coming back to you. There is nothing that justifies a man hitting a woman. Shame on you.
2006-08-09 07:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want her back, you need to do alot to get her. First, go to anger management and IC for yourself, then go to marriage councelling for both of you. Obviously there is something missing in your marriage if she betrayed you. It will take a long time, but it can be done. Good luck.
2006-08-09 06:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by UmmFaisal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's absolutely right in staying away from you. Obviously there were problems, but you had no "right" to hit her.
Leave her alone. Get some anger management and parenting classes. Learn from your mistakes.
2006-08-09 06:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why would you hit a women??? tell her your gonna get help and that your very very sorry if she doesnt want to get back with you cause you hit her, then you should of thought twice before you made that move. what was it that she did that made you want to hit her did she cheat or what i need more and clearer info in order to help you out son.
2006-08-09 06:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU CAN SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES FOR YOUR ACTIONS. VIOLENCE IS NEVER OK. IT IS A TOUGH PENALTY, BUT MAYBE YOU WON'T REPEAT THIS AGAIN WITH THE NEXT WOMAN YOU FIND,
2006-08-09 08:00:21 · answer #11 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋