how can i ever trust my fiance again, i love him..?

Question

hey i been with my boyfriend for almost a year we are getting married and i am 11 months preg with his baby, and i can't trust him.. we broke up for about 2 hours and he slept with a little s*ut...who pretended to be my friend, and i asked my boyfriend if he ever slept with her and he said no, and the next day he told me he has be lying to me and he did, he had the balls to tell me at least... and i DON'T wanna leave him and I know I'm dumb for not.. but I love him so much and he's really all I have, everyone tells me how pretty i am i can get whoever i want and i don't want anyone else.. some of my boyfriends friends tell me i should not trust him on how he acts around other females, and my friends tell me about stuff they hear about, i don't know if they are starting rumors or what, i have enough trust issues with him already, and how can i tell him that? i ask him about what i hear and he gets mad. and should i still believe whatever he says?

Answer 1

You said you broke up with him. So you were on a break. No harm, no foul.

Answer 2

Did you mean 11 Weeks?
No matter what he says or does. He will never change. Things may get better for a little while. And then bam he brings home some form of a disease and there you are bringing an innocent child into all that. Do you really want to live that way ? How can you be sure he hasnt already contracted a disease? Is your supposedly friend the only one he cheats on/ cheated on you with? If he gets mad when you ask thats because he is trying to hide it all. Tell him to be honest with you and keep an open mind. If he still doesnt wanna tell you then tell him to "hit the road jack and dont cha come back no more" . You are women, You are strong, Remember that always and you wont have to have a man all the time. You can get by on your own. Your independent. Just like the song, When its all over get up and leave type deal. Do whats best for you and your child. Once a dog always a dog. He will not change because of the baby it will only get worse. It will happen more often and with a lot more people. He probaley didnt have the balls to tell you some one more than likely said if you dont then i will ... Follow your heart. But listen to your inner being and you will know what to do.. Most of all put the child first not yours or his needs.

Answer 3

It seems to me you are very young, even if that is not the case, if you make a choice to stay in this relationship then do not complain, it is so obvious he can not be trusted! You are how many months pregnant???? Better calculate again! Ok, sounds like you have already decided you only have him, well it may feel that to you , but you have YOU, which is more important and you can find help! Your self- esteem needs help, stay with him and it will become a crippling situation! Where is the respect you need to have for YOU! He is not respecting YOU! I suppose the people who are telling you about him, are trying to get you to open your mind and see what is happening! Love is NOT what you are feeling, it is much different than love, i think it is dependence/ co-dependence, insecurity, not thinking highly of yourself! You 're going to be hurt even more. Get help alone for yourself, search for the places in your area that can give you a support system, professional help. This situation will make you ill someday. I am sorry you do not see he is abusing you, and it will not stop, indeed, it no doubt will become worse. He is not all you have!!! Do you have friends? Family? Church? mental health clinic? Wishing you hope for the future and trust in God. We do not always get what we want,or what we think we need. Healthy choices are needed in order for you to not be in this anxiety, hurtful, situation!

Answer 4

First off you should either see a doctor about the 11 month pregnancy or contact "Ripley's Believe It Or Not", as the term for humans is 9 months.

Second, you need to learn to let gossip go in one ear and out the other.

Third, you need to know that accusing, whining and jealousy are very good ways to drive someone away from you. If you love someone you don't do those things. Only immature people who are insecure in themselves do those things and if you do you aren't ready for a relationship.

Answer 5

You need to read your question back to yourself and I think you already know the answer to what you should do - If someone else wrote this question what would you say to them?
It sounds inevitable really - I wouldn't want to be bringing a baby into this relationship it wouldn't be fair on the child and not to mention I know how hard it is to have your first child and how much it changes your life - you need someone who loves you and cares enough to help you - if he doesn't truly love you - he will be out of there when this baby arrives - it's way too much responsibility for someone like him im sure. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you broke up, you have to get over it, 1 hour 3 days 5 years.. the minute u say break, uve no control

Answer 7

how could anyone trust someone saying their 11 months pregnate when their is only 9 months to have a baby, answer that question 4 urself than thats ur answer

Answer 8

i suggest you not to waste your feelings on him.if you continue with him,you will be unhappy .if you want to be happy,just dump him and find new love.i know its hard.you are a gem,but this guy doesnt deserve your love.invest all your feelings on someone who truely deserves it.if you still dont wanna leave them,then give him another chance.but tell him that if he doesnt change his behavior or work things out for the better of your relationship then tell him that you will end up with him for sure.

Answer 9

ELEVEN months pregnant, huh? Well, if it takes 11 months to produce his child, I think you have bigger problems than his infidelity. I think he's probably from another planet. Seriously, sounds like a bad deal to me. I think you should forget about him.

Answer 10

For the seek of children, y not have an open talk with ur hubby again. lack of communication is norm the prob. talk and worked things out.