Hi to all,I have been married for 2 yrs.My husband thinks that a wife's duty is to clean the house,help the husband in all ways.I want a child badly.I have been pressurised by my in-laws and also by my own family since I m the elder one.I know baby making has to happen with relaxation and you must keep on trying.The thing is my husband hardly has sex with me,in a month maybe 3 times the most.He is such a workaholic.I really don't know what I can do.Sometimes I feel that he has no interest in family life.Pls give me some advice on what to do.Only sensible answers and if you have personal experiences that will also be great.
2006-08-08 22:51:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have talked to him regarding having a baby.All he says is it will happen when it needs to happen.I do agree with that statement if he puts his effort to try.But there is no effort put in so hw can it happen.Is there another way to make him interested in sex life ?
2006-08-08 22:58:12 · update #1
Sorry guys I come from an Indian society,even if the parents step out the society will not.I m still answerable to them.You see if I try and I don't get pregnant,I don't mind.I can take it has fate but without trying when people ask me I really feel bad.
2006-08-08 23:00:04 · update #2
I have talked to him alot.I have explained things out.Tell him what I need but it still does not work.It really pulls me down.
2006-08-08 23:02:25 · update #3
U see my husband is workaholic,lets say his work finishes at 4pm he will stay back till 10 or 11 pm then only he will be back.He tries to do more then what he has to do in his job but in terms of marriage he has not done what he has to do.I m helping him financially by going to work.He does not seem to understand that I also have feelings.Even though sex is not the whole thing in marriage,its still a chapter we can't put aside.What can I do ? Sometimes frustration really makes me crazy becos of his undefinite answers and feeling that I feel I shld not be with him.
2006-08-08 23:17:19 · update #4
No experience at this sorry. Try to talk to him and tell him that you want a baby really bad.
2006-08-08 22:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by tormented_666_soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do, get it done! Having sex even 3 times most is OK. But arrange the timings in such a way that your system is ripe to be got pregnant with any of one occasion. The timings should be arranged in such a manner that your chance of the cause is not denied anyway. Rest assured, everything will be in its perfect order. A word of caution, no remotest idea of your intentions should be made aware to your hubby, based on the apprehension of him being not so serious in achieving the Target you set.
2006-08-09 06:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I´m sorry but if my husbands work finished at 4pm and he was coming home every night at 10 or 11 i would be very suspisious.
Especialy if u are not getting any sex.
My experiance of a relationship before my marrige is that if he is never home and doesn´t want sex then he is of having it with some one else. Sorry to be so blunt, but it just isn´t normal.
2006-08-09 06:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the only person can do the wonders , become a good cook and host , always present yourself fresh and clean , no signs of fatigue or tiredness , keep your house absolutely clean , no bad or stinking smell around , no complaint , no arguments , specially while serving food or when he is eating . Start going for morning walk together regularly . Try these and see the change , also make sure your bed room and toilets are spotless cleaned all the time .
2006-08-09 06:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband thinks you should be his mom. There is no simple answers to your questions.
You are having questions and problems at this point that you and your husband need to address before you two bring any children into this world. Together 5 years married 2 years and your sex consist 3 times a month at most. PROBLEM. Talk to your husband work things out. Tell you your sexual needs and ask him his. TALK TALK and when your really ready TALK.
2006-08-09 06:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i feel soooo sorry for ur situation, n wish i was in ur husband's place, but since i feel very dignified for a bold n open woman like u, i think the best way is to talk to him abt this serious issue... Lets be frank n accept this fact that if he doesnt comply with u n coordinate with u, he is not fit to be in such a divine relationship...
2006-08-09 06:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by aby_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is a driven man. It's a tendency for men to take their positions as providers seriously probably because of their own experiences in childhood i.e their dads did the same thing (my experience also- I work 60+ hrs a week). Anyway the key here is communication. Try to set aside a day with your husband and make it a day for just you two to reacquaint yourselves with each other and rekindle what brought you together. Also bring to his attention your desire for parenthood and also for you both to have a date night each week and stick to it. Do something different each week and make it enjoyable for you both. I hope you two are able to do that without getting caught in a rut and then you grow apart. I wish you luck and happiness.
2006-08-09 06:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey before you can bring a child into this world and into your life you must have a hold of it. What is required of you now is to step up to the plate so to speak and grow into the next phase of your life - FAMILY.
Take stock of yourself...you are WOMAN.... yes you clean the house because that is the way you want it CLEAN & TIDY.... Be pleased that you are wife.... it means that you are a respected woman. Sensually and gracefully with strength and fortitude... grow into womanhood... be in control of your home, stay attractive to your man...stay beautiful... stay strong and keep your faith.. Fulfill you roll and your duty to yourself - your womaness so that you can be the best mother woman and wife.
Your man will gladly come home to you if you grow into the beautiful woman you are meant to be... hope this has helped...peace
2006-08-09 06:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by lourdess777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Organise a weekend away sounds like you both need to regroup leave your mobiles and laptops behind even if its for one night it will help you reconnect.
Don't make the mistake of having a band aid baby that will only make things worse. Work out whats best for the both of you not your in laws
Good luck
2006-08-09 06:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a cheerleaders outfit to get his attention (high heels to). Tell him you want childeren, soon, and that he has to make time to be with you both sexually, and generally, and if he does you will reward him very very well. Then give him a(up to you :) Make sure the house looks nice, and dinners ready befor you do..
Note, you might want to check he actually wants kids afterwards.
2006-08-09 06:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by yeah well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋