Question for married women who are or were having an affair?

Question

If you are a married woman who is currently having an affair or has had an affair, what was the reason for you having the affair? Since women are the gender that are the more committed and are more family oriented and loyal, why did you have an affair?

Answer 1

It took a lot of thought, one of those big big pink elephants standing in the room that no one acknowledges but knows it's there. Like a lot of what the other women said it's when something is missing, after a long time of being together and by the fault of possibly both, things become routine and common. For me kind of like best friends living together you can talk have a great time hanging out or watching movies, taking care of the kids, but where is the romance the things that used to make you loose your breath "back in the day" the things that make you feel warm and sexy inside. I do remember trying a few things like lingerie and music, little things like that but didn't really know until recently (like within the last couple of days) that romance needs to be there or it will feel like a "roommate" situation. Marriage needs all the ingrediants, not just being there, talking and listening, jokes, laughes, hanging out because if thats all it is, think about it, it's nothing more than a friendship. The thing that seperates your husband from your best friend is the romance, the sensual times, the sexy little things, experimenting all of these things I think are needed. Keeping romance alive is as important as respect and trust.

Answer 2

Ive never cheated on my husband but i can still answer your question.. because well im a woman lol.. Most men cheat for physical reason.. the newness of something to conquer, Most women cheat because they have a void in them emotionally that needs to be met.. and usually when they feel at their lowest, some guy comes along actting like prince charming that will scoop her up and wisk her away into the sunset.. he's paying attention to her more so then the husband, listens to her when she's having a bad day, notices little changes she makes (new outfit, hair ect.) things her husband once upon a time did but now has seemingly forgotten to do.. Women need to feel as if they are the only woman in the world.. i mean when u get married to a man ur thinking hes marrying u because YOUR IT for him, no one else in the world does he want to be with.. but sooner or later, the newness, giddiness ect.. wares off, things become routine.. u soon feel like a maid and a babysitter, more then a wife and a woman.. and we need that, to feel wanted, desired, romance, attention, loved, ect, alot of men think as long as they bring home the money, and come home every night thats all they need to do anymore, then the wife ends up feeling neglected by him.. and so little prince charming is easy to come into the picture, and sweep her off her feet, make her feel things emotionally she hasnt felt in a long time.. and he starts appearing to be the BBD.. Bigger Better Deal..

So thats my oppinion on why women have affairs..

Answer 3

Married woman have an affair only when husband don't care and fulfill her wishes and desires in terms of respect, values, ethics, mentally, physically and sexually otherwise married woman can never dare to have affair under any circumastances. Moreover, if some one well kown and near to her who respects and if try to understand her worries just on humanity and symapthatically without any cause for self, this turns her desires into an affair which is ever lasting.

Answer 4

I did. I had an affair because I was unhappy with my marriage; I dont feel loved and I cant have intellectual converssations with my man. Then this guy was all too nice and affectionate (maybe just to get into me) and we talked about things, and we both have the same situation and so I told myself what the heck, maybe this will spice up my life but my husband knew about it, it was the worst time of my life. My husband's family tried to separate us but he doesnt want to. We're still together, because I owe it to him that he stood up to his family for me, but we always fight and the affair would always come up. I felt things got worst and knew now I made bad judgement. So my advise to those unhappy wives, divorce your husband instead of having an affair.

Answer 5

Because you guys think that if you married us you win somekind a Throphy and you can show it off when other people around but behind the close door you just leave it on the table and let it get dusty. But we are not stupid Throphy we have a feelings and needs too if you can't give it to us, there is alot of guys out there that more than happy to help us, life is to short so why not !! Shape up if you expect us to stick around if not we dont have problem to say bye to you!!

Answer 6

Well I am a man, but known to a friend who was having affairs with married women, I feel firmly in what "kimcutiekimsexy" has said.

Good answer "kimcutiekimsexy" at least you have the courage to say so. hats down for you.

Answer 7

i'd say if she would then she is rather lonely, bored, searching for a desirable new lover, and unattracted to her husband. Her husband is probable buried to his eyeballs in artwork so he ignores her, have been given to be superb buddies with the television, does not compliment her anymore, takes issues with no attention that she does for the enjoyed ones, placed on slightly weight, does not use that extreme high quality cologne he used to, lost that romantic way approximately him, under no circumstances takes her out, blah blah blah.... however the different married guy has one fault that yours does not and thats being a rat! confident new intercourse is tempting yet no longer nicely worth it. solid success

Answer 8

I cheated on my last husband because he always accused me of it and i got tired of being accused so i just thought i better not make a liar of him and started cheating. it was the best experience of my life and i dont regret it at all.............

Answer 9

Because he made me feel beautiful, intelligent and desireable.

Answer 10

well i do because my husband does not turn me on anymore.i just like other people.