How can I make my wife cooperative to me & my family?

Question

I got married two years back. My wife always inspires me to live separately. My parents & other members were coperative to her but now they dislike my wife due to her talkative nature & complaining attitude. She left me two times & stayed with her parents. I and my family members broght her our home after many requests. But again she leaft our home quaralling with my mom & younger brother. She tells me over phone that if I sepatelely live then she will come to live with me. In fact, my parents are very old due to their age. They need good behaviour. In this situation I can not live with her seperately. My wife's parents also dislike my parents & my brothers. Please advice me how to modify my wife.

Answer 1

Modify your wife? Dude, you're out of your mind if you think you can modify her!!!

And why are you still living at home if you're married? Let your little bro look after your parents or check in on them once and a while!!

But move in with your wife in your own place!!

Aloha!

Answer 2

ohboy what a night mare.

You guys need to make up your minds. Do you want a happy married life? Or do you want to be misserable in this dysfuntional famliy....only to pass on this sort of behaviour to the next generation.

MODIFY wife? on now that strikes a nerve in women around the world. YOu need to support your wife and tell your parents to back off or they will NOT be in your life. She needs to say the same thing to her family. And then stick with it. It is a cause and affect thing.

Happines sometime is a choice.

Answer 3

Why does she quarrel with your relatives? Maybe she has a very good reason for quarreling and complaining. Rather than trying to "modify" her, you should try listening to her. Your parents are not the only ones who need "good behaviour", everybody does! Including your wife! Show her the resepect she deserves as your wife and try to come to a solution and compromise that works for both of you. Marriage is all about compromise from all parties involved.

PS: There is nothing wrong with being talkative! It comes naturual to women (and several men I know...)

Answer 4

I am assuming this is a cultural and/or traditional thing that your wife and you live with your family.

If you are devoted to your wife (as you should be) and she needs to live apart from your family to make the marriage work, then you may want to consider taking up residence with her alone. She doesn't need 'modification' - she needs her own space with you. You can try and find a place close to your parents so that you can live alone with your wife while still being close enough to your parents to fulfill any obligations you have to them.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Deal with it