what is the best way to inform your spouse that u r having an affair?

Question

You r feelin guilty and not comfortable to go on with your life ...

Answer 1

you gotta be careful with this one. i got divorced for this reason. my wife admitted to having an affair while i was deployed and for me, it was a deal breaker. well, if your willing to cheat you have to be willing to suffer the consequences. i dont know if you still care about this guy your married to, itll change the way you coudl break the news. but if you love this guy or loved him before, you have to do it delicately. its gonna be painful no matter what, theres no 'good' way of telling someone you cheated on them, so be prepared for that. just be honest, and tell them why it happened and what you see happening now. if you want to reconcile, then you definitley have a long way to go. if not, tell him you think its best you go your separate ways. just be prepared for the backlash...hes gonna say some things to you that might hurt you because you hurt him...you have to put yourself in his place and realize what youve done. just be honest, thats the best advice i can give. good luck

Answer 2

There can never be a best way, an OK way, or anything but a lousy way to tell a spouse you are cheating. I'm tempted to say that as part of a suicide note it would show real regret, and not leave the spouse to decide IF there is a future to the relationship. I suppose the least lousy way would be to end the affair (Now) before telling the spouse. If you tell YOUR spouse, I really hope you sound more contrite than "felling guilty and not comfortable to go on with your life"

Answer 3

There is no such thing as the "best way of informing your spouse that you are having an affair". It does not exist!

You should first of all ask yourself what you want to do with your life? You want te save your marriage? Do you want a divorce?

If you want to rescue your marriage, telling your spouse about the affair might not even be the "right" solution. Why do you want to tell your spouse? Because you are feeling bad about yourself? Are you feeling guilty and do you want to get rid of this "horrible" feeling? All very selfish reasons for confessing the truth to your spouse! How do you think your spouse will feel if you confess your affair?

Honesty is fine, but you should be honest for the right reasons! Not just for getting rid of your own guilt!

And most important of all: Stop cheating on your spouse and grow up!

Answer 4

First of all what is an affair but someone too afraid to tell another that they are not getting enough from their current relatonship? Step up ...!! If you still care about the one your married to then keep it to yourself and cut the affair off. Despite popular opinion a women will never let you forget your mistake and after a while you'll forgive yourself unless you continue to do what your doing then you should go and be with the other person. Being cheated on is worse than being left for another...!!

Answer 5

You do it the way I did....you give the details you are comfortable giving him. As for the rest, you decide what you can live with keeping to yourself. I suggest therapy to work out the guilt and feelings of remorse. That is what I am doing right now. It helps. Remember affairs are usually symptoms that there is something lacking in a marriage and that it is failing. Don't take all the blame on yourself. I don't know your situation but I know that in my case I wasn't getting any attention, affection or feelings of being loved or appreciated. He never complimented me or made me feel special. When I spoke to this other man I felt like I was the most beautiful, special woman on earth. Good luck...Just remember that once you say something you have to live with their reactions and they may never trust you again. If you have trusted friends to talk to or a counselor I would suggest seeing if you could confide in them. I didn't have anyone to talk to soon enough and I kind of burst. Take care....

Answer 6

well whn u know u r in the wrong and r tryn to get rid of the guilt factor and move on in life thn the most raelistic and the best way to go about is to inform ur spouse abt it directly.there is no best way ever to try to justify urself for somethn tht u know is absolutely wrong.just tell him wht happened and wht led u into this and thn leave the rest onto him.there is little u can do. if he loves u this much to forgive u thn lucky u to hav such a spouse .all the best.

Answer 7

You shouldn't tell him unless your about to be caught. Unless you want a divorce, it will create terrible issues for both of you. He may never forgive you ever and decide to dump you.That's something you should expect. If you can keep this in the closet, and stop being a cheating pig, you will be better off if he never finds out. That is if you want to stay with him. You chose to cheat for some reason, you have to find a solution for that or your marriage is doomed anyway.

Answer 8

Best to just face the music and admit to having an affair - like a bandaid -best to just rip it off and get it over with as quickly as possible!!

Good Luck!

Aloha!

Answer 9

Just 2 call your new partner, stand beside him before yr spouse and say politely, honestly and conflidently "he is the person to whom she trusts for rest of her life and now going with him" bye bye.......... Wish u all the best.

Answer 10

I know an affair arises because you so want to know wht your better half doesnt tell you and wht u so want to know abt yourself it takes 2 hands to clap, dont feel gulity, sit down at peace with yourself and ask yr mind and yr heart if you really love him, if you do then u need to sit down with him and tell him only wht he needs to know, not everything, and why u did it if you dont love him anymore tell him that and move on...