That has got to be a hard thing to deal with,BUT do NOT blame yourself for loving her and being blind to the fact that she was cheating.I am not sure if you'll ever forgive her.That's all up to you and what you want out of her now.If you want to go on with your marriage and a clean slate,then I would say that you would have to try and forgive her.But she also needs to know that it will not be forgotten.Do what your heart tells you to and let her know IF it ever happens again,there will be NO more second chances.Good luck!
2006-08-09 14:26:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. To let go of the negative energy. I'm not saying it will happen tomorrow (I was cheated on too) but one day...it will be something you'll have to do for yourself. Think of it this way...by holding onto the pain you let her maintain control of you. The resentment you feel...well, YOU feel. Not her. I think it is more difficult for men to forgive because they let their pride get in the way.
I'll tell you another thing, she did this because of her own issues. It has nothing to do with you. I suspect that she couldn't see you loved her because she just simply is incapable of recognizing love. She's never loved you either (sorry) because if she did - if she truly knew what love was she wouldn't have had the desire to sleep with another man. I think she may have some problems that are much bigger than you and her though. So, just take it one day at a time. You know what they say..."Time heals all wounds". Good luck my friend.
2006-08-09 15:07:16
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answered by JKM1971 2
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This is soo personal..Jeez..Forgive her so you can be free..Love is a complicated emotion..I know..Even when thing's are right in front of you--we tend to overlook them..I went through all the hurt, lies, deceit too. My ex (22years) came home numerous times with lipstick on his underware, smelling like you know what, and even smelling of perfume! 5 years ago when I became single I was so bitter, so afraid&distrusting of EVERYONE.. But! I learned that I was stronger than I knew, that although I had been hurt and betrayed I still WANTED to be loved again...A year ago I met my friend, my lover, and my now husband(6 june)..It was only when I forgave myself,& stopped holding all his garbage in my head,Only AFTER I allowed myself to let go and stop pinning away for him, stopped punishing myself for being blind, for wanting to be blind...Dd the healing begin..
Hunn, there is no magic answer. I do know that time heal's all wounds and majority of people here may/may not feel the pain you are in..I do..remember to love yourself more each day, and forgive yourself...
..You will get better and this too shall pass..beleive me..You are stronger than you know..God bless you shugar..You'll be okay, after awhile...:)
"God grant you the serenty to accept the thing's you can NOT change, The courage to change the thing's you can, and the wosom to know the difference.."
2006-08-09 14:48:36
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answered by sablelemarr 3
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I'm not a very forgiving person, so no I wouldn't. However, some people are so crazy in love that they would forgive. Ask yourself..."Do I wanna go through this again?" It's bound to happen. She's trashy, I'd get over her and find someone else.
2006-08-09 14:39:42
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answered by Anonymous
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To be straightforward it variety of feels you're a sprint captivated with this learn, yet i comprehend this might certainly happen in case you're suspicious of somebody. in case you sense that your spouse is cheating on you, I propose your real intestine feeling then circulate with it. you could tell plenty via ways your better half is performing around you. you need to sit down and consult along with her, if she denies it then ask her why she is performing in a different way around you and why she is so chilly in direction of you. If she blames then you definately you definately ought to make a selection, regardless of if she isnt having an affair she isnt performing like a spouse.
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answered by lacross 4
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if you forgive her, then the question is, can you forgive yourself for settling for less than what you want in a wife? the thing is you can forgive her, but you will never forget in this case you will never trust her again. so what type of marriage is that? remember all the lies too. don't you think you deserve so much better?
2006-08-09 14:36:11
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answered by RAINBOW 3
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Dried semen in pubic hair???? Pubic hair is gross to start w/ and then dried stuff in it?????? GROSS! but to your question: It seems pretty cut and dry, if she's cheating on you, then leave her. Now matter how much you think you love her, you don't deserve to be subjected to that. There are some good girls out there!
2006-08-09 15:43:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes, she was a bit cruel to you. Too bad you didn't catch on earlier to what she was up to! Better to have found out now then later.
2006-08-09 14:47:11
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answered by Anonymous
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So, is the question, "Could I ever forgive such cruel things she did?"
My answer would be NO... HELL NO.... Not cool
2006-08-09 14:29:20
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answered by ~Me~ 4
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that sucks man sorry i walk in on my wife and her pass out boyfriend naked on the floor condom wrapper by his head so i feel your pain. Shes garbage get a new little hottie to play with youll feel better.
2006-08-09 14:41:55
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answered by Anonymous
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