When my husband and I got married he agreed to get rid of his playboys. I did not want them in our house because I did not want to catch him masturbating while looking at one because he has me and I am very attractive. Well he told me he had gotten rid of them, but the other day I found him masturbating in the shed looking at one. What should I do? He's lied to me several times already.
2006-08-09 15:49:03 · 26 answers · asked by rkb12584 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it was ok, he wouldn't have to lie about NOT doing it.
It's not OK to masterbate with playboy magazines.
It's ok for you to please him with a stroke of the ole'wacker.
He is robbing you of completely pleasing you in bed, instead of pleasing himself.
2006-08-09 16:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being immature! It is his body, I think he should have the right to masturbate if he wants to! Do you masturbate? At least he isn't out having ACTUAL sex w/ REAL women! I don't care how attractive you are, a man always like to look at other women, that is just the nature of the beast. If you can't accept a man's ways, why don't you become a lesbian? And the more you try to control him, the more he will rebel. You should give him a little freedom w/ the magazines. You can take them away from him, but I ASSURE that you can't control his thoughts. And a cranky, uptight, naggine, controlling wife IS NOT a sexy thought! By your controlling ways, you may just be driving him to do things behind your back.....like visit strip clubs, prositutes......etc.
2006-08-09 15:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband kept all of his playboy mags after we got married. He was going to throw them out and I told him to keep them..It has nothing to do with you being attractive..In the almost 5 years that we have been together I have only caught my husband a few times and it was usually when I wasn't in the mood. I would much rather walk in and catch him with magazine then another woman... Get over it already!!
2006-08-10 00:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You being attractive has nothing to do with it, Masturbation is a normal way of letting loose the pressure. For guys it tends to need be done more often. And yes some of them need visual stimulation. It has nothing to do with their girlfriends or spouse, it's self gratification.
Masturbation gives you the freedom to get it on when YOU want it... no waiting for someone else. No struggles with a partner who doesn't want to do it when you want to, or who has a lower sex drive then you. You can have it when you want it, how you want it. You are NOT at the mercy of another person's schedule or desires.
Masturbation is an IMPORTANT part of a person's balanced sex life, male or female. It actually helps a man be able to last longer during sex.
Instead of griping at something natural that he's doing...share it with him then he wouldn't have to hide any of it from you! Just be glad he isn't out cheating to get off!
2006-08-09 18:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously....it's very normal! He must feel that you don't like it and you are very judgemental about it. I have to say, I don't agree with the nasty magazines. But, as for masturbation....enjoy watching him. Participate with him. Buy him GiGi. That's a male personal sleeve. Contact a Passion Party consultant. It works!!! Just enjoy him more and he might not enjoy the magazines as much. If your involvement doesn't help....he truly has an addiction with the porn. He could've picked that up when he was younger. Then he'll need professional help. Goodluck girl!!!!
2006-08-09 16:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a GUY!! Let it go! He obviously isn't going to stop- its something he probably has gone since his youth to pleasure himself. It really has nothing to do with you. A guy thinks and pleasures himself ALL THE TIME. People have all kinds of fetishes - you should be happy 'playboy' is all it takes!
Have you tried spicy up your outfits to reflect what he sees in those mags or even using those mags as a part of your foreplay. One of the least attractive thing in a woman is jealously- and if your as attractive as you say you are- give him reason to put down that playboy and run to you!
2006-08-09 16:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by KA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him have it if he is still doing to you without any problem. If he has just masturbated and doing it to you, he would be doing it long with you and you will be enjoying it more. So, why bother him.
Lastly, he is not doing it to another woman. So, be happy about it. Have you seen so many posting about cheating?
Next time, get him to do it when you are around. THis might change things...
2006-08-09 22:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jack T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise him. When he gets home from work and he walks in the door give him some head. This will curb if not stop the self pleasing. Men do this to release if you do the releasing he wont need to do that. If you do thisand he continues then he has an issue.
2006-08-09 16:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are. Its a guy thing. or so every guy I know says. I would not get too upset alot of times it's just a stress relief. and sometime they just need to do it on some primal guy level. My husband does it and when I ask about it he says he just need relief. No offense ment but do you masturbate if so why. its probably the same reason he does.
2006-08-09 15:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, let's see. If you masturbate, I would find it difficult to believe you if you said you only thought of your husband and no one else...it's normal! Maybe you should just walk in and kneel before him to help him get there! I'm thinking if you did things like that he would forget all about the magazines!
2006-08-09 17:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!Men wouldn't like us doing the same thing!!
My husband has his Play Boys.I never really liked them but I never said anything until I caught him looking at porn on the Net.He also tried to met with some of them!You MEN know you wouldn't like us doing the same!Besides the Bible says lusting over another women is adultery!!!
2006-08-09 16:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋