my boyfriend and i are getting married, but I'm not going to have an engagement ring. I've always dreamed of haveing one my whole life, but he doesn't beleive in wearing jewelry. I guess its not that big of a deal, i just was wondering what you all think about this. I'm not the type of girl who only wants a man who buys me stuff....I'm just not like that. So should i just forget about my "ring fantasy"? what do you think?
2006-08-09 16:07:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he may not believe in wearing jewelry, but YOU do.
the fact that he doesn't take your feelings into consideration is cause for concern, not that you don't have a ring.
If he's cheap, check out the cubic zirconiums available. There are some really pretty rings in the $100-300 range that look like the real thing.
Talk to him about this and see what he says.
2006-08-09 16:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend does not want you wearing jewelry will you have a wedding ring? If a wedding ring is OK then why not buy yourself an engagement ring if it is that important. OR, why not have him buy you a simple pretty ring and wear it until right before the wedding and then have him take it in and add a couple of small diamonds to change it from an engagement ring to a wedding ring.
When my boyfriend gave me a promise ring I loved it and wore it for 3 years before we decided to get married. Then he said I would have to take my promise ring off so he could replace it with a wedding ring. NO WAY! That was my ring. THE ring. So, I gave it back to him and asked him to just add a couple of small diamonds and give it back on our wedding day. I don't wear jewelry really either but this ring is so special because it is customized just for me. It was only about $300. That is plenty for me. I don't care about the cost, I care about the thought.
2006-08-09 23:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by ~K~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should have a engagement ring and wedding ring is not just and type of jewelry> see to me a lot of men. sorry men. But they think that a ring is not that important without even really knowing the real reason for wearing it. it's a circle of never ending love for each other. true without a ring you can still love eachother very much but it's just so special and means a whole lot to women and a lot of men also. I don't understand how someone don't believe in wearing jewelry is it something thats religious for him or what? I'm married and my husband and i have been through so much but looking at my ring sometimes reminds me what we have and the vow that we made to one another. It reminds me of the never ending love i have for him 360 degrees. you should talk to him and express to him that this is something that means a lot to you and if he doesnt want one then he dont have to where one. Congrats to you.
2006-08-09 23:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by sexibrownthang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got my engagement ring a year and a half after I married my husband. It would have been nice to have one at the time he proposed of course but I didn't feel like I was being intentionally cheated. Of course, the first thing people want to see when they find out you're engaged is that ring so sometimes that's a issue that you face. If having a ring means that much to you then you should be nicely persistent about it. If he loves you, he will respect you're different view and get you one..........maybe at least eventually. The best part of getting mine later was that I picked out exactly what I wanted so it really cost him to make it up to me!! He didn't mind a bit though!
2006-08-10 00:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweetbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!! I never had an engagement ring (also my dream!). I have a very simple gold band. However--on our 20th anniversary I received a beautiful emerald and diamond ring to "make up for" not being able to buy an engagement ring. Here we are 30 years later--I still wear the simple gold band everyday! The fancy ring goes on when we go out. It's not the ring, it's what the ring symbolizes!!
2006-08-09 23:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that you are thinking about the ring means you want one. If he can't afford it then you should offer up some of your money to help pay for it. If he does not believe in wearing jewelry then he doesn't have to. I find that a little bit weird though. Why does he not believe in it? If it is because he does not want a gold ring, there are solid titanium black ones out there. That is what I bought my husband.
2006-08-10 00:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by meesh_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on here! He doesn't believe in wearing jewelry, and its OK if he doesn't want to wear any. But this is about YOU! You are definitely entitled to every woman's dream of an engagement ring. He needs to understand that it is all about the conventions of our society. It doesn't make you materialistic to want an engagement ring. It is something very special to a woman. Maybe he needs to understand what the ring represents to a woman, and he may change his mind.
2006-08-09 23:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no... I don't think you should just forget about it. If that is important to you then he should respect that. It is a symbol to the world (or everyone you see) that your heart is spoken for.
He doesn't believe in wearing jewelry??? What the heck does that mean? He PERSONALY doesn't wear jewelry??? Well that's fine, no one is making him, but that doesn't mean you can't wear it. And like I said before.... he should respect you enough, and if this is something important to you, I think he should be WANTING to make you happy..... he wants to spend the rest of his life with you - this should be soemthing he gives you simply because you want it, it would make you feel special, you can show it (him) off to people when they see it.
So when you get married - is he going to wear his wedding band?
2006-08-09 23:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't "believe" in wearing jewelry? since when did jewelry wearing become a religion? My husband also thought engagement rings were show-offy and had no intentions of buying me one. So i went to a jewelrer, picked out my fave ring, put a deposit on it and for the next few weeks, paid it off till i had the ring on my finger. He thought i was nuts buying my own engagement ring! He also started to feel bad when people were congratulating him on his choice of ring, so he gave me the money to cover it. What i like to call a win-win situation.... for me!! hehe
2006-08-10 08:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well if he doesn't believe in it that doesn't mean that you can't, plus the fact that he gives you one to wear makes you his in a sense...well at least your taken
a ring is a big deal even if he doesnt' think so or not
2006-08-09 23:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋