seperated with my husband som 8 mths ago. I do not mind him coming back to visit the grandson, but he does every other day and eat and drink what is on the dining table like as thought nothing has happened. I told him that I don"t like seing him so often in my house and he said there"s nothng wrong. He does not think he has done anything wrong as it normal for man to have affairs. What do you think I should do?
2006-08-09 16:08:55 · 31 answers · asked by jan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, if you haven't, divorce him. then change the locks. then set some rules. visiting the grand kids will happen only in public places, like the park, the zoo, the library...
as long as you let him, he WILL walk all over you.
2006-08-09 16:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set up a visitation schedule that will work for you. Tell him you need to know when he is coming so you can make appointments for your hair, nails, doctor, dentist, etc.
If you haven't done this yet - change the locks on your doors.
He is no longer legally allowed to just walk into your home. He has established another residence. You have the rights to call the shots at your home - not him.
He needs a bump on the head to set it right. Of course there is something wrong with cheating. That's why it is called cheating! He needs to read wedding vows and find the spot where he promised to honor his wife. Where does it say the he is allowed to cheat on her?
2006-08-09 16:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is that his philandering doesn't sit right with you. He has committed adultery. He has betrayed your trust. He cheated on you and thinks there's nothing wrong in doing so and that its "normal." Some women are willing to tolerate the infidelities, and others are not. His attitude towards what he has done indicates a real lack of respect and regard for your feelings and for the relationship and the vows he took to remain faithful. If it was mean, I'd divorce him. Your already separated. I would continue on the path you have chosen. You deserve better than that. Good Luck to you.
2006-08-09 16:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm particularly particular you already know the respond to this question. i will not be able to think of what you're feeling stunning now, and my coronary heart does go out to you. it extremely is poor! you certainly could confront him approximately this and quickly. in case you do no longer tell him, it is going to kill you. it is going to be painful the two way inspite of the undeniable fact that it will experience tons greater perfect once you get this off your chest.possibly ask him some questions, see in case you won't be able to capture him in a lie. I recommend, you needless to say already comprehend the certainty. In a marriage you decide on honesty, believe, loyalty. He needless to say would not have this. What he's doing is under low, and your ultimate chum too! I wish i might desire to grant you a brilliant hug stunning now. a minimum of you already know your daughter will continually love you. (even while she's older). you're calm because you're bowled over. i surely wish issues artwork out for you. And something made you prefer to ascertain the emails, what substitute into it? Does he nonetheless manage you the way he did 6 years in the past? go at the same time with your coronary heart, Becca. you're greater perfect than that
2016-11-04 06:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say play the smarta** card, and tell him you are seeing other men. Get dressed up and go out. And if he says anything about it, say "it's normal for a woman to have affairs, there's nothing wrong w/ it." Oh yea, and about him eating the food on the table, how about making up some ex-lax brownies, or some pork chops spiced w/ a little salminella?
2006-08-09 16:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you want and then lay the gound rules. If you are letting him in every other day, that is because you are choosing that. If he is eating at your home that is becasue you are feeding him. Don't lay this at his feet. It does not matter what he thinks, it matters what you do. If you decided you were really done with him then none of this would be causing you a problem. You would just decide what you could tollerate and set the rules accordingly.
2006-08-09 16:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by ~K~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! It is not normal for men to have affairs! Don't EVER let him make you think that either! Don't visit with him when he comes over to visit. If he is at the table...leave the table. Remember he is at your house he can be asked to leave!
2006-08-09 16:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by misty_28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you divorcing him? if not maybe he thinks there is no problem - maybe you need to inform him you have a little sugar on the side like he did and say he wants to meet him or tell him you got some mail in the cuboard for him and heres his papers for divorce - he knows he did wrong and by letting him think he didnt its sending the message its okay to him . just sit him down and explain the way you feel and how it broke your heart and it is unforgivable to you and if you never seen him again you would be happier - I dont know
2006-08-09 16:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by fastweeny66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the times he is allowed to see the child. You can also change the times that you eat. Another thing that you can do, is find some one who will act like a b/f to you when he is there. Otherwise get a court order.
2006-08-09 16:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to visit the grandson in your presence? I'd tell that low life scum to go to court and get visits if he wants em. Do you want HIM setting an example for the kid?
2006-08-09 16:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋