why do i have interest in another guy?

Question

i married and been with me husband for seven years but i still love him but i also check out other guys and wonder if me and my husband should be together or is it just a faz

Answer 1

I guess it's only natural to have these feelings. But you really have to think about why you feel this way. If you really love him, you have children and things are going well in your marriage-you should just stick with it. On the other hand, if you weren't in love anymore, and were unhappy with your marriage, it would actually be irrelevant if you had children or not. I don't think it's healthy for children to be in situations where parent's aren't getting along or fighting. But if they are separated or divorced, but happy and the children are still getting the love and attention they deserve, they will be fine. If you really have an interest in someone else, you need to think this out very carefully and good luck to you. E-mail me if you ever want to talk!

Answer 2

I don't see why you should be facing a dilema in this situation. So long as you're only checking out other people and nothing less, it's probably nothing potentially dangerous. Maybe you should spend more time with your man; pay attention to your love life (ever heard of the kama sutra??) Seven years is a long time and you wouldn't want to consider that part of your life as wasted.
The long and short is that you should live like when you both started courting. All the best.
Cheers

Answer 3

do u love ur husband answer and everything will fall in to place and plus it's just a faz good luck

Answer 4

I feel you girl, im in the same situation. I find myself attracted to other guys, fine azz guys at that. They are attracted to me and I to them. But I love my husband and don't want to ruin my marriage. My sister says it stems from my husband being my first and I never really tested the waters when it comes to sex that is. In the past I have had boyfriends, but no booty was given up at all. I wanted the fairy tale wedding nite. I wanted my husband to be my first, my one and only. And that is what happened. We have been together for 10years, but were married the last 4 years of our realtionship.

Answer 5

your husband is not giving you the feelings of validation you crave......what would it take for you to feel like #1 for him......tell him that. maybe he feels the same way.
people forget to pursue and win each other over after a while.....don't stop flirting and dating! That's how you got each other......only now you don't have the adrenalin of taking a chance, to stir up the excitement. get a rush by doing something new together. go rafting, ballroom or swing dancing, horseback riding, skydiving......trust each other. it can't be all about YOU. your husband is not responsible for your happiness, so make some effort.

Answer 6

Honey, it isn't worth it! I was married for eight years and started looking around at 6. Stay with the one you have...he knows you best and can handle whatever you bring him. Believe me--I would much rather be back there with him. If your husband doesn't neglect you, hit you, or abandon you--you have love. Looking is okay--acting on it is another.

Answer 7

I think you sholdn't do that, but my Aunt does that, so I don't know, because it is just a faz

Answer 8

Sounds like your getting bored with your marriage........... this sometimes happens.... if children are involved think about your decision very carefully.......... it's a hard decision that only you can make...... it could very heart breaking for the both of you if you....... have an affair.

Best to you guys.

Answer 9

Don't do that. It unnecessary to look at another men when u already have 1. It's like u are being cruel 2 your husband.

Yamunah.....

Answer 10

It is the 7 year itch. Stay with your loving husband and enjoy the view and fantasy. :)