Family - December 2007

I am 21 and dont live with my parents any longer, my mom called me today and told me that my dad and new stepmother have told my little brother that just turned 11 that they dont love him and want him to leave to live with our mom but they wont let him leave to live with her until june when school gets out, my dad plays mind games and has 10 kids 5 of them want nothing to do with him 3 are forced to live with him because of his mind games and 1 my 6 year old sister is forced to go see him and she wants nothing to do with him. Any advice I could give my brother to hang in there, or to my mom who is flipping out???

2007-12-02 16:59:20 · 6 answers · asked by Kris 1

i'm 21 already. i'm moving out of my parents house next week as the house is getting too crowded for me. i am sharing a room with my sis, my elder's sis's mum in law n sis in law whom i hardly knew. i find the situation uncomfortable n that i dun have personal space. when i announced that i am moving out, my elder sis started lashing out about me running away from my responsibilities (i.e not wanting the burden of taking care of my aged parents)that i am being a selfish brat.
i just cant see it from her point of view. my intention was to get my own personal space n to give more space for the rest that is still living in the house.
pls advise me if i am making the right decision. pls bear in mind that my family is a traditional malay family who believes that family is everything. but i dun share the same thoughts with them.
its not as if i'm totally abandoning my family. i'll visit n stuff. i mean how far apart can we be still living in tiny singapore??

2007-12-02 16:51:47 · 16 answers · asked by keira 3

Just to give you a better picture, we're both 16. I was always good friends with her. But I always felt like I had to hide the fact that I drink or smoke or anything that had to do with that sort of stuff. I always thought she was a good girl, and that she would think differently of me. About a week ago I found out that she drank, and all of the sudden that changed everything. Like that small little fact changed my whole view of her. Now I talk to her every single day online and I tell her everything. And I've never actually told her I loved her (family love folks, nothing weird) until after she told me that. But for some reason I feel uneasy. I don't know if maybe I'm just mad at myself for letting something so small as whether you drink or not affect our relationship for the last few years. Or maybe I'm just so overwhelmed with the transition between distant relative to close friend. Can someone help me with my confusion??

2007-12-02 16:31:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok I am 21 and I WAS talking to this 35 yr old marrid man... yes I know it was wrong so you dont have to give me the lecture. Well we met at the gym cuz we both play racquetball. We talked on the phone and did some stuff for about 2 weeks until his wife started to find out and started following him everywhere he goes now. Well he told me that he couldn't talk to me anymore b/c he didn't want his wife to find out and everything and so we stopped talking altogether. Well today I went up to the gym to play racquetball and he was up there playing with his friends and I caught him looking at me quite a few times when he thought I was looking away or something. I dont understand what this means or why he would still even look at me???? Do you think he will try to pursue me again in the future?? I am just wondering, thats ALL... im not trying to pursue him. Guys... can you answer this please?

2007-12-02 16:28:12 · 7 answers · asked by sagittarius_girl806 1

on gettting an electric guitar
they are really strict with me and i have already given up gymnastics, piano lessons etc.

2007-12-02 15:55:53 · 25 answers · asked by mee♥ 3

Okay. A few X-mas ago I gave my grandparents hand drawn pics of my 3 children for a gift. It happened to be like the only thing they got. After that they did not want to participate in x-mas the way it has been my whole life I am 27. So i took it to heart and have 3 other familys to visit at the hoildays so I started to back away. Not going to the regular holidays with this side anymore. Which is my dads side. They have never helped me out of problems. but I have never asked myself. But they have always given my cousins and my sister everything they ever asked for. even if they never pay them back they still help them. i ordered shirts from my grandma she sells avon. I didnt have all the money right away so she said she would keep them til i did. Shes my Grandma. So any way Its my birthday today and not one person from that side of my family has made any effort at all to even call me. I did nothing to my dad or anyone else. Why to I feel like crap.

2007-12-02 15:36:35 · 8 answers · asked by Kathy D 2

do I tough love her? all she wants from me is money and cigs and to run my phone bill up what do i do?

2007-12-02 15:33:09 · 5 answers · asked by deborahkay0001 1

which is great. The problem is she wants to spend Christmas over my place and he will be coming down with her. I am not too comfortable with the idea of both of them sleeping over my house so I suggested that I can set them up in a good hotel nearby my area, and I would pay for they stay. Well so far I have not received any response from her and according to my sister she is very upset with me. She thinks that I am being childish because she feels that I am not excepting of her new boyfriend. I have no issues or problems with any of my parent’s significant other. I just not comfortable with the dynamics, not just yet. My sister thinks my mother is asking to much from but she won’t tell her that.
I don’t think I am being childish?!

2007-12-02 15:08:13 · 8 answers · asked by Naomi L 2

My dad and I are very close, and I'm moving into the dorms at the college I'm going to in August - they're only 30 minutes away from home. I can tell that he's not handling the idea of me moving out very well at all. I know that most parents aren't overjoyed over their children leaving home (or at least they don't show that joy), but my dad seems to be especially upset.

He's also an epileptic. He has grand mal seizures that are almost entirely under control, but he's had a few while taking his medication and he's not the best at remembering to take his medication. This is scary to me because he'll be alone when I leave for school... and he's been injured before while having a seizure alone.

How can I make the transition easier and safer for him? Living at home is not an option for me.

2007-12-02 14:34:48 · 6 answers · asked by Lauren 5

My dad went out to the casino about 8ish, it's now 3:30am and he's still not back. He's not answering his mobile phone and I'm getting really worried. He may have drank a lot, but he's usually home long before now. What should I do, I'm really worried.

2007-12-02 14:34:24 · 11 answers · asked by rosstopherz19 2

hes leaving his family so i will have mine will he one day hate me for this?!?!?!??!!?!?!?!?!?

2007-12-02 14:25:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay my sister got preapproved for a capitalone card and it has a 500 dollar credit line she went online and did her application and got approved now shes out spending the card but isnt it capital one fault to send her a credit card if shes under 18???

2007-12-02 14:15:14 · 13 answers · asked by PASSIONS 2

I know that sounds crazy. My alter ego doesn't think so.

2007-12-02 14:04:29 · 21 answers · asked by eaglewoman57 1

Okay so heres the deal, I would kill to go to Hawai'i I mean i would do anything but I can't convince my parents to go I want to look at a school down there and there are just so many other things that just draw me to it. I need help on convincing them, Money isn't really an issue don't get me wrong Hawai'i for the week is expensive but it isn't totally out of the price range we usually spend for big vacations. I have even offered to pay my way there. I have looked into all the special packages multiple times.Then my mom says how she is afraid to fly over water ect. ect. ect. when there is nothing to fear. And my dad is just like "yeah whatever" he could care less...I have tried telling them how important it is to me to go but they just laugh sarcastically and think "yeah right whatever" what do i do to help convince them??

2007-12-02 14:03:16 · 1 answers · asked by bbellsport 2

2007-12-02 14:03:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cook and clean and they don't care about my feelings. They are 18, 17 and 15. They expect me to cook clean and buy everything for them which I do. I have also a problem with alcohol. I have drank heavily most of my adult life. I feel like I can't do it on my own. Alls my family can do is hurt me not help me. I feel like sometimes i just wanna die.

2007-12-02 14:02:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad married my stepmom last year, and I have come to really enjoy her company. She is the only mom that i have ever had, and up until she came along I had no females in my life, except for the occasional girlfriend of my dads. recenlty, tho, we have been arguing a bit. Not major stuff, but I feel like she is going to start hating me if I keep fighting with her. I dont do it on purpose, the fights just happen. Like the other day I didnt finsh my homework and we ended up fighting. then we got in a fight over supper one night when I didnt like what we having and wouldn't eat it. Today i got in trouble by her when we went to church. it was after church, and I was talking to some of my friends. my stepmom told me to come on, and before I could stop myself i snapped at her "i'll be there when i am through talking!" then she came over to me and grabbed my arm and pulled me to the car. she started yelling at me about respect and stuff. I know that i shouldnt have.....

2007-12-02 14:01:27 · 6 answers · asked by Addie 1

ok.
all today shes been yelling at for everything!!!
but just right now she told me she was going to put me in a hospital!!!! only because she read a copple of things ive writen like 2-3 weeks ago. and already in going to counceling weekly...but now...she wants me to go away to live there! :/ and she doesnt understand everything ive done was then i haven't anything now. and ive told her that im ok...and that everything was then and not now.
so idk what to do i need help before tomorrow morrning. or eles im out of here. :'[[

2007-12-02 14:00:53 · 8 answers · asked by bria<3 2

Okay, my dad died a year ago and his birthday is in a couple weeks. Don't get me wrong I love my dad to death but I want like a father figure around and I know my dad would want my mom to be be happy but she says she's not getting remarried. I talked to her about before and she said she'd only be doing it for me......Also, I really don't have to worry about my stepdad or step family being mean to me b/c know my mom would listen....She's a great mom I just think she'd be happier and I'd be happier to which would make her happy. I mean I'll NEVER FORGET my dad.....

2007-12-02 13:56:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-02 13:38:46 · 16 answers · asked by tito010101 1

2007-12-02 13:31:55 · 14 answers · asked by For Sure 4

my brother is about 25 and he isnt working becuase my other brother is having a buisnes and he is waiting till we become millionars so he doesnt have to work we are all tellingi him that he sould work bebcuase the business needs moeny he will kill time he wont be bored he iwill be happyer and everything whatcan we do as a family to help him he fights with ever one hie is grumpy now too what do we do plz give good advicae thx in advance

2007-12-02 13:19:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad recently found out that he has a daughter from a fling 17years ago. He asked the woman back then if he was the father and she said no. Well now this girl called my grandma and said, " I think your son is my dad."

She doesn't want anything from him except know who he is and be in his life, we think. We have started to talk to her and e-mail her. She seems really sweet. But now I think it would be akward to ask her for a paternity test.

My question is do ya'll think we should get one or is that fact that she looks a lot like him( and she does) enough??

2007-12-02 13:17:45 · 12 answers · asked by nic 2

huh? why?

2007-12-02 13:14:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok before I was in the picture Vanessa (she's like a daughter to me), would constantly call Jenna's boyfriend "daddy" between may 2004-sept2004, then between sept 2004-april2005, she would call me "daddy", then Jenna's ex was back in vanessa's life in the summer of 2005, and she went back to calling him "daddy", but as soon as I was back in the picture, she went back to calling me "daddy", who does she see as her dad, me, or jenna's ex?

2007-12-02 13:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i found a i cd that i really want but my mom doset want to buy it can you give me an advice of how to convence her plaese i mean i have try everything i now i mean plaese please please i really need that

2007-12-02 13:03:30 · 6 answers · asked by sexy_prinsess.girl 1

My eldest daughter (18) poured hot water over her younger sister just because the younger sister (12) wouldn't lend her a comb. It turned into a heated argument because the first daughter doesn't know how to return things she borrowed and ends up "owning" them. Then threatened her sister that she'd pour boiling water on her the next time she came running to me for help. I told the eldest daughter she can leave the house if she threatens even her own sister and then she told me to do her and her father a favor and drop dead. I want to send her to a mental institute and rehabilitate her but her father sides with her even through this crappy situation. What would you do?

2007-12-02 12:51:01 · 14 answers · asked by Equinox 6

my great grandpa told me that his great grandpa and grandma wer sicilians is that enough to get in the mob? until what rank can i get into?
and yes im serious

i know i cant be made

2007-12-02 12:26:10 · 3 answers · asked by Puertorican 3

well.. ok so , im a girl and latly at skool iv been acting up andtalkin backa dn skiped a few times

should i get spanked for this cuz i feel kinda guilty for doing this
please nothing means

2007-12-02 12:19:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

The other night, my mom said that we should start doing a lot of things to improve our family's structure. She said we're going to do things like go to family counseling, have certain chores, help out more with siblings, and go to church.

Well, I don't share her beliefs (the Christian God). I asked her way I had to start going to church. "I don't like your beliefs and I feel going to church will help you come out of this. I'm tired of you being an atheist," was her response.

This pissed me off to no end. So, for the weekend, I went and stayed with my dad. This morning, while my dad and I were cruising around town, she followed us and tried to force me to go to church. I refused, and got back into my dad's vehicle.

Why can't she tolerate my beliefs? It's not doing her any harm. She feels that I'm going to Hell, but she has no room to talk. I feel she is just so mentally brainwashed by wanting to live right (which she doesn't do) and forces us to "live right".

We need help

2007-12-02 11:56:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous