Family - December 2007

When I was 6 months old my real dad was taken to prison. I met him when I was 5 but didnt understand who he was til I was about 8 or 9. He got out on May 6, 2004 and was living in Florida. I went and visited him for the first time since he been released in the summer of 2005. The last day I was down there he told me that: I was the reason he went to jail. It was my fault. I was a mistake and that him and my mom didnt want me. I was never going to succeed in life just be a failure like he was. and He told me he didnt want anything to do with me. That was the first time in my life, I have ever told anybody i hate them. He hurt me so bad, I never thought my own dad would say that to me. He moved to Texas about 7 months ago and he is now married. I want so bad for him to be apart of my life, but you cant make someone do something they dont want to do. I have begged him to just take a little time to talk to me, love me, and aknowlege i am his daughter...but he refuses.

2007-12-01 17:33:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have got two boys and there grandparents treat them diffrent. i want them to be treated equal but they dont. so tonight i just told them how i fill. was i in the wrong. ok i will give you a little detail i got a 5 year old and a 2 year old. they let my 5 year old stay all night with them but wont let my 2 year old. and my 2 year old crys and begs for them to let him go to there house. we live not even 200 feet away from them and when they call for the oldest one to come up my two year old crys wanting to go. there are a lot more things that they do. but anyways i had enough and i i told them what i thought i dont want my kids to fill like i did when i was young.

2007-12-01 17:19:48 · 4 answers · asked by dontknow 3

1) dad lied about gf and then told me
2) I was happy & excited to meet her
3) dad didn't allow me to converse when I met her
4) dad promised my oldest kid a bike & 5 months past & he got a boys bike & told my kids no & let the gf's grandson ride it (he actually put his hand out to nudge my kids back)
5) dad told my grandma that he has a life & I am just his kid & I am not as important, he is happy now
6) he told me that his gf is better than all of us and he doesn't need us around
7) he bought a brand new car for his gf to use since her vehicle is breaking down, & my vehicle is not in the best condition either & I have his 2 grandkids in the car
8) he brags up & down to her how much money he has, he tells me he is telling me he's poor because he doesn't want to help his grandkids
9) He won't let me meet his gf's family at all & he told me a little about them but he wants to celebrate xmas with the gf & her grandson. What can I do I tried to talk & dad got mad Im not happy w/ gf

2007-12-01 17:17:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

She never appreciates anything you do. The only thing she cares about is you being able to get good grades and come out with a good job, so that you can support yourself and move out. She doesn't want you going out late even when you're 20(male). She thinks everything that can't make money is pointless and stupid. She wants you to be independent, but when you suggest you will go find a job and move out, she won't let you.

2007-12-01 16:41:38 · 13 answers · asked by lucstudent 3

From NY to Va .I appreciate that my brother took in me and my kids until i get on my feet. my promblems is that my brothers wife seems to me that she does not want me there;although they beg the differ say that she wanted me to come down.but sometime i feel different. according to her that her characther of her being antisoicial is her make up.(eg) when she comes hm or when at hm w/me she does not speak to me or make a casual converstation w/me as if i were invisible. I do work, my kids are in school and aftershool daycare until i get home frm work around 6pm.. I try to kp their house clean the best of my ability..i buy food for the whole family she does most of the cookin for the the family.they complian about the way that i've clean.they're anal about keepin things clean..my brother calls me trifling b/c i don't clean the way they clean. I sleep in their living rm w/my kids. i have no other outlet to go else where.Am i being disrespectful and unappreciated to them and their house?

2007-12-01 16:35:21 · 5 answers · asked by emotional misstres 2

My mom works full-time and has a boyfriend that lives right in the condo suite across from us. The only time I get to see her is in the mornings when she comes home to drop me off at school, sometimes I see her for a second time in the day - sometimes.

All my mom talks about is marks and marks - she used to even physically abuse me, she still slaps me from time to time. Sometimes she comes home in a good mood and says "Valerie, do you want to go shopping?" I always feel that shopping isn't a good way of getting to know her even better, plus I'm always at the computer listening to music but also doing my homework. She sometimes sees me playing games or on msn, I don't even feel like moving out of my chair during 7PM at night and going to the mall when I'm tired. She throws a tantrum, then sometimes I throw one but I usually end up crying. On the other hand, she's always at the suite at her boyfriend's and I'm alone 95% of the time.

Today, I told her how I felt and she yelled at

2007-12-01 16:28:02 · 7 answers · asked by Candii Rainbow 2

i gave my sis a bloody nose on ACCIDENT!!! she was on top of me and i tryed to push her off but i accidently hit her in the nose and it started to bleed..... its not like i have an abusive family or anything but i did it on accident and now she is telling everyone that i did it on purpose and they hate me!!! i wish i could punch her!!!

2007-12-01 16:15:51 · 3 answers · asked by livelaughlove 1

my mom is moving to mississpi because my step dad got a job there. she is moving with all my step brothers and sisters. i will be at a whole new school next year and i am not moving with them because my dad lives here and i will be going to a great school next year. how will i cope with her gone? i am a teenage girl! i need my mom!

2007-12-01 16:07:41 · 7 answers · asked by Becca Marie 2

he pretty much helps me raise him, and his father (sperm donner) has legal vistitaion but doesnt ever take him

2007-12-01 15:54:14 · 26 answers · asked by misskansas_25 2

I don't have any family even close to me and I am going through a break up with my daughters father. It might sound horrible, but I've been letting him stay living at my house just so he will watch her will I work graveyards.
We've been broke up since July and I really just want him out, but at the same time need him so I can work, what do I do?

2007-12-01 15:54:01 · 3 answers · asked by Bridget B 2

They are equally good community colleges one in Virginia, near where i grew up and one in Florida near where i live now. My parents are divorsed and while living with one of them, contact with the other is uncomfortable and unencouraged. I love them both the same and the schools are not as much of a factor as which parent i may be hurting with this choice.

2007-12-01 15:48:37 · 5 answers · asked by *Julia* 3

2007-12-01 15:41:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok guys, I have a stepmother that has been in trouble with the law, now she went to prison and did her time on parole and totally learned her lesson. Now every time she tries to get a job they tell her no because of this reason... I just need to know what your opinions are on this subject.. I mean don't you think they should at least give her a chance.. Oh ya she went to prison for drugs... But she is clean and sober now.. Please give me some help here...

2007-12-01 15:20:02 · 6 answers · asked by Brandy D 1

Well my family is fighting with my relatives on my moms side again(uncle,aunt and grandpa). This happened when I was about 5 last time and the results were horrible. My dog was shot and my grandma died from stress. This time they moved near our house without knowing. When they realized this they started to start annoying us by turning things on loudly at night,ruin my moms garden and terrifying my dog. My parents are beginning to start retaliating. Even my 4 brother and sisters are starting to fight with my cousins. I told them to ignore them but they said I was only 12. My oldest sibling is only 16 anyways. How can I stop this before everything goes wrong? Also do you think everybody should be able to help decide what to do in a family?

2007-12-01 15:14:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-01 15:08:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well my family is fighting with my relatives on my moms side again(uncle,aunt and grandpa). This happened when I was about 5 last time and the results were horrible. My dog was shot and my grandma died from stress. This time they moved near our house without knowing. When they realized this they started to start annoying us by turning things on loudly at night,ruin my moms garden and terrifying my dog. My parents are beginning to start retaliating. Even my 4 brother and sisters are starting to fight with my cousins. I told them to ignore them but they said I was only 12. My oldest sibling is only 16 anyways. How can I stop this before everything goes wrong? Also do you think everybody should be able to help decide what to do in a family?

2007-12-01 14:51:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

well.. ok so my mom doesnt let me swear and she thinking its bad and all that crap , and the other day she over herd me swear
should i get spanked for this?

2007-12-01 14:50:21 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Even if following ur dreamz means living with ur parents?

2007-12-01 14:22:19 · 6 answers · asked by pun_crocks 2

My friends mom is paralized from the chest down He brought her to live with him durning the week of Thanksgiving.After hearing that his sister was neglecting her. Her income is 1600.00 per month He is also living on a disability check of 550.00 a month. His sister has his mothers power of attorney and allowed the elder sister{main caregiver]to use his moms money as she saw fit.She lost her trailer.and has to move in with her ex husband..his sister who had her is burnt out.and doesnt want to take care of her .He asked for 600.00 for living expenses for his mother to stay at his house for five weeks.The sister has refused to give her mom any money.His mother is afraid to say anything out of fear and retaliation from her later on.How can he get the 600 he needs for food, and dental for his mom?Does he have anyway to force them to give up the money?They told him to take her back to them..He wants to keep her safe and secure in his home He just cant afford it alone.What can he do

2007-12-01 13:52:50 · 2 answers · asked by angelbaby1 3

the mofos always mocked us in the summer when ever we were in the front of our house. they would say alot of ****. they once directly talked about my dad and i did not react. then they kept saying this **** and laughing at us. then one day they talked about me and my brother when we were comming from prayer. now its winter and they the ppl are standing on their porch and trying to harass us. they come close to our car to show that they might do something to it. (there is a scraping and a dent in our car that happened on our street and it was most likely them but we did not see it) what should i do. i want to just fight them. they are so racist and annoying. they just hate us and annoy us to death.should i just fight them. talking will not help in this situation because they are too annoying.
please tell me what to do. i am so angry.

2007-12-01 13:47:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are ridiculously critical of everything I do or don't do. I just forgot to move the car, and my mom freaked out because I might get a ticket. If I get a ticket, this is my own problem-- I will pay it. So why does she say she's "at her wits' end" and "so frustrated" with me? I wish she'd just let me learn from my own mistakes.

Now she's upstairs fuming. It is expected of me that I strip myself of all dignity and apologize profusely to her. Then instead of forgiving me, she'll grimace and tell me it's too late, or just be like "great," and give me the silent treatment for days and days. Is it normal for parents to act this immature?

And more importantly, what am I supposed to do? I suppose the only way to win is to never do anything wrong, ever, which I'm sick of trying to do. I'm sick of feeling so worthless and incompetent. Apologize again and again and let her have her power trip? Or what?

I'm 18, college freshman, still at home. Hoping to god I can move next year.

2007-12-01 13:47:17 · 2 answers · asked by avacado pie 4

2007-12-01 13:13:46 · 12 answers · asked by Robert B 2

My mom is turning into a ghost-like "single" parent and my dad always wants more from us (and our dog) he is a perfectionist and he yells at us and I am scarred of him. They allways take it out on me and then they send my to therapy because they are wondering why they found poem about suicide under my bed.

What the hell am I supposed to do?

2007-12-01 13:09:47 · 38 answers · asked by emmabean 2

2007-12-01 13:01:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad's a tough guy to shop for for Christmas.I ask him if there's anything he wants, and he never can suggest anything. Or else he says he just wants everyone together since my brother and I both live away in other states. He's a simple man, doesn't like alot of accesory things. He is very practical. His birthday is Monday,he likes to grill so I got him some nice gourmet barbeque sauces, again. It's either stuff for grilling or history books I get him. I'm trying to think of something different since I often seem to get him similar gifts.My dad: He's 60, likes kayaking and camping, outdoorsy, big into history (WWI and II), he's a business man, a volunteer firefighter, not into the modern technology so I'd never get him an Ipod or anything like that, I've gotten him cds before & he likes music from the 60's & 70's. I'm in college, I'm not poor but I obviously can't get him a motorcycle or any other extravegant gifts. Any suggestions to help me break the habit of similar gifts? Thanks

2007-12-01 12:57:22 · 3 answers · asked by Jen 1

She has been caught 3 times over past few years drinking, smoking & taking pills. After the last time & grounded for a long time, she tells us she's over doing that & doesn't want to anymore. But, everytime she leaves the house, I worry the whole time & constantly think she's doing something bad. She's angry w/me saying I don't trust her anymore - but it's sooo hard to from what all we went thru. I want to believe her & she's really not showing any signs of being high on something. She just has some new friends - kinda gothic looking & I don't realy know them either. I am really struggling here. Any suggestions?

2007-12-01 12:48:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK.... so my brother hates me... he doesnt let me forget it either... my parents are divorced... i dont have very manny friends.... and my dad abuses me and he just called me a ***** he has also told me to go to hell.... so I want out.. my mom is to far away... i need to go somewhere... any where but here... please help me... i want to run away, i live in orem UT.... even if you dont have any ideas around here... if you were going to run away or you have ran away where did you/should i go???!!!??? Please help ME!!!!

2007-12-01 12:47:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

4 yers ago when I was 10 my family was on my grandpa's boat. My mom's brother and his family was with us. We were having a great time but then my Mom wasn't feeling good and asked if we could dock. My aunt had to open her big mouth and say something along the lines of my mom not wanting to be with them. My mom got upset but held her tounge and told my aunt that she shouldn't do this infront of us kids. My aunt kept going on so my mom got up and walked to the back of the boat. My grandma then opened her mouth and the whole boat erupted into yelling and swearing between my aunt and grandma. My grandpa and dad tried to distract us kids but that wasn't working. I was sitting between my aunt and grandma so I got the whole conversation clearly! =( My uncle didn't do anything! He just sat there! Not even trying to shut his wife up! I ended it by screaming and running to my mom. My mom hugged me and my uncle started rubbing my back. To this day I can't seem to forgive him! Is that wrong?

2007-12-01 12:41:56 · 2 answers · asked by Caitie 2

My brother got caught last year but i found out he is drinking again. He is 16. He is my older brother. I NEED HELP!!!Should i tell?

2007-12-01 12:35:10 · 20 answers · asked by me 5

For the past 3 years I have been like a father figure to this girl, her name is Vanessa, she's 13. Her biologoical dad does not spend any time with her heck he barely even acknowledges her. For the past 3 years I have spent time with her, I have came to her school events, I have taken her trick/treating, I have been there for her when she was having a bad day, I was the one she would come to for advice (school, clothes, puberty) I have always tried to boost her self-esteem. Heck she even calls me "daddy", would you say I am like a dad to her? Have I helped raise her?

2007-12-01 12:27:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous