From NY to Va .I appreciate that my brother took in me and my kids until i get on my feet. my promblems is that my brothers wife seems to me that she does not want me there;although they beg the differ say that she wanted me to come down.but sometime i feel different. according to her that her characther of her being antisoicial is her make up.(eg) when she comes hm or when at hm w/me she does not speak to me or make a casual converstation w/me as if i were invisible. I do work, my kids are in school and aftershool daycare until i get home frm work around 6pm.. I try to kp their house clean the best of my ability..i buy food for the whole family she does most of the cookin for the the family.they complian about the way that i've clean.they're anal about keepin things clean..my brother calls me trifling b/c i don't clean the way they clean. I sleep in their living rm w/my kids. i have no other outlet to go else where.Am i being disrespectful and unappreciated to them and their house?
2007-12-01 16:35:21 · 5 answers · asked by emotional misstres 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Save your money, find a small apartment somewhere and move. Even a single-room garage apartment will do. You can always upgrade your digs.
Your brother is kind and doing the right things, but their approach is understandable. You should not stay there any longer than absolutely necessary.
2007-12-01 16:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to combine 2 families together. Just be yourself and do what you think is right. You are contributing to the home, working and taking care of your kids. I think your doing all you can and are very responsible.
Bottom line there will be misunderstandings. Don't sweat the small stuff. Keep doing as you are. Be patient until you get a place of your own.
2007-12-01 16:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by tab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with them and ask them how they want their home maintained. If they have specific ways to clean or keep things up then you should follow their wishes. If you are working and paying some money to stay there, then maybe they could lighten up a bit. If you are saving all your money to move out then do whatever they ask graciously and keep your focus on finding a way to live independently.
2007-12-01 16:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have had this communicate at any time such as your husband. this is positive to be beneficiant in the route of relations once you may have sufficient money to finish that. once you at the prompt are not any more able, especially in those harsh economic circumstances, this is suitable if you benefitted out of your alturism to chip in and help shop the roof over their heads. in the adventure that they could't attempt this, then they are getting a burden and should be requested to make different residing preparations to satisfy their objectives. sturdy success to them. God bless them. Self upkeep is a properly of each man or woman and each and each relations. once you wreck yourselves financially and they are on their ft because of your sacrifice will they flow you in no cost? communicate over such as your husband. tell him his relations needs to chip in or hit the bricks. do not save it interior and wreck your marriage to boot as your funds. you've a properly to exhibit your self, do not you? Marriage vows declare that once a guy takes a spouse he leaves his mom and father and cleaves to her. Remind him.
2016-10-25 07:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh you know, you don't have any other place to go. Until you do, I suggest you keep your thoughts to yourself. If you are sleeping in their living room, its probably not real fun for them either.
2007-12-01 17:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋