2007-12-01 15:08:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try being responsible, helpful, kind, considerate, and show a little respect. It will blow her away.
2007-12-01 15:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she has an "attitude" then that means you are not completely sure of all of her feelings toward you.
It sounds like you two are not communicating very well anyway to be asking this question. My guess from being a mother would still be try and make sure you have all the facts straight before coming to any conclusions.
The only way I really see this happening is by going to the source, her.
It would be somewhat easier to help you if you could add more info. like how old is she? Do you live at home?
Have you said anything extremly disrespectful to her?
If you have, I can tell you she is very hurt, maybe not so much an "attitude".
You also sound very angry because It sounds like you want it to work, without working at it.
All relationships at some point in our lives, just like a marriage take work in order to survive.
If you don't change your thoughts around like saying "attitude", maybe say "my mothers opinions". Attitude sounds disrespectful. By saying these words in your sentence, does that slightly alter your feelings just a tad?
I hope you feel you can reach out to her one more time and involve her for your sake. Ask her nicely, exactely (if you don't already know everything for sure) what it is, that has her so upset and how can it be fixed?
This way, you will be able to see a little clearer of how deal with your situation and who knows, once she sees you care about her feelings that just may be the first move toward a postive change.
Change can be good..Good luck to you, I hope you get this worked out, you only have one mother and she may only have you...one son...even if she has other sons, there is only one you...
2007-12-01 15:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a confident whom can listen to you're concern and then perhaps this will help you to decide how to tackle the issue best without involving your mother.I know exactly what you mean, this has happened to me in the past and most of the time mothers especially do not always see where their kids are coming from whatever age they may be.If it is that bad perhaps you need guidance from a counsellor who will help you come to terms with those issues so you can move on, and move away from your mothers influence.
2007-12-01 15:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For anybody to give you advice, you will have to give more details. We cannot remark on any situation without at least knowing some of the details.
What issue? What is your mothers attitude towards you and why.
2007-12-01 15:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think that your mom has an attitude with you,but with herself. She sees herself in you and she can not deal with reality that she did not get to do the things that you are now doing, but what she does not know that it is not too late for her and that she still has a life and can go for it. Instead of you looking up to her she is looking up to you and maybe the things that you are doing are the things that she did not expect you to do. She wants you to make her proud as if she did not fail as a parent. If your doing something wrong or illegal in your life it is now time for you to change and think about life when she leaves this earth. You need stability and support and no negativity. Talk with her and let her know that you will change and that she did not fail and you love her she deserves that much.
2007-12-01 15:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is probably preoccupied with all the stuff she has to manage... adult life is incredibly complex and tricky. Her focus is being dragged in so many different directions, with very little time left for herself. When you add to that the probable perimenopausal symptoms, then she is tired and frayed. She has a lot of burdens on her plate.
As lame as it probably sounds, about all you can do is the BASICS:
go to school, keep your grades up, do your homework, stay out of trouble, pick up after yourself and do whatever chores asked of you... and then keep a relatively low profile. It is easier to just handle these basic things as a normal order of your everyday business than it is to balk and resist and then wind up doing this anyway.
In this, your real intent is to go WITH the grain and create as little static for yourself as possible.
Other than that, you make your friends your extended family and find your moral support with them.
2007-12-01 15:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only have one mum you might not realise it she does love you i now sometimes it feels like she doesn`t but take a look at your attitude to her see if there is a more down rooted problem. whats your attitude towards here ?
2007-12-01 15:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by mr perfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the issue is but however you decide to deal with it, remember to be respectful at all times. You only get one mum!!!
2007-12-01 15:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ange 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more info, pls.
1- be respectful
2- give her space and you have yours!
3- remember your her son!
2007-12-01 15:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't! whatever it is, you're going to have to involve her in some way. diane.
2007-12-01 20:43:44 · answer #10 · answered by diquarry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋