my brother is about 25 and he isnt working becuase my other brother is having a buisnes and he is waiting till we become millionars so he doesnt have to work we are all tellingi him that he sould work bebcuase the business needs moeny he will kill time he wont be bored he iwill be happyer and everything whatcan we do as a family to help him he fights with ever one hie is grumpy now too what do we do plz give good advicae thx in advance
2007-12-02 13:19:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Cut off the support. He is too old to be mooching off of family. The longer he knows that someone will always support him, the longer there is reason for him to refuse to work. I have lots of people in my family who only call when they want money or some other thing from me and the gravy train is shut down to all moochers. Ask yourself, does he want to change? is he trying to change? do I really want to be taking care of my senior citizen brother when I get old and want to retire but can't because I have supported him all of his life and now feel obligated to continue doing so until the day one of us dies? I have learned the hard way, don't learn the same way I did.
2007-12-02 13:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he see's himself having in the future. Where he wants his life to go. Then have him compare it to what he's doing to get those things. Waiting on a business is not a definate thing. It's hoping that it survives and then that some of the wealth is shared.
Why would one want to give to another that couldn't lift a finer in helping out until it came to pay day? If this brother is so set on reaping the goods of this business that isn't even his own. I think he should be ensureing it survives and gets 100% put into it unti it does suceed. Anyone sitting aound waiting for it shouldnt' get it without effort applied.
Your brother is also counting ALL his chickens before they hatch. If no egg comes he will eventually starve from laziness, greed, and stupidity.
2007-12-02 21:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there are no free rides in life. If he does not contribute to the building of the business he will not benefit from the business. It is that simple. You do not want a dead beat as a partner. You will all work while he spends everything.
2007-12-02 21:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like everyone is enabling him to be lazy. Don't let anyone in your family give him a place to live, don't give him money. Be there for him emotionally and help him help himself. It will be hard and he may hate you for it at first, but it sounds like he needs someone to give him some tough love or he will never amount to anything and will continue to be miserable and grouchy.
2007-12-02 21:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a lazy sister too i know how you feel.. wish i had an answer.. but as for a suggestion.. you can tell him no woman is gonna date him much less even sleep with him if he's 25 with no damn job..
2007-12-02 21:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know his present actions are showing his future actions, and if he wants to be trusted...he needs to show he can..by getting a job, and keeping it.
2007-12-02 21:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋