Family - July 2007

My mother dissappeared in 1974.She hung around the Hollywood area,and Mac Arthur Park.Her name was Shirley Akins, but sometimes used Maldonado ,or Tennight if thats how it's spelled,but the pronunciation is as just as it is written.She was an African American, who the last known person that might have any knowledge was a caucasion with the last name Tennight.She is buried as a jane doe somewhere where they keep graves of unclaimed bodies from the Los Angeles area.
I recently saw an article about such a place,but because of my own misfortune I was unable to recall the date of said article.It was in the Los Angeles times Around August-October.If anyone recalls that issue please respond A.S.A.P.

2007-07-25 09:21:00 · 1 answers · asked by brownie90249 1

I just came from my local Support Enforcement office here in Central Florida, & I was told, Deadbeat won't be given a notice he is late until 2 weeks go by. Then he's given the grace of another 2 weeks , & then gets another notice , where after that.....he gets a notice saying they will suspend his driver's license, but not after he is given another 20 days to respond to the notice.....WHAT KIND OF MORON PASSED THAT LAW?????!!!!!!! OH, I KNOW , SOMEONE WHO MAY HAVE TO PAY SUPPORT SOMEDAY!!! These laws were supposed to help the children, not screw the parent who decided to leave because she got tired of the abusive jerk....our lawmakers we vote into office need to really do their jobs!! Why is it so difficult to get laws passed to actually help the child.....Absent Mother or Father, the laws need to be more stringent, on MAKING THEM PAY!!! A jail time should be in order...No, i didn't know he was a useless abusive , deadbeat then, hindsight is 20/20.Post them on deadbeat.com, or another

2007-07-25 08:55:25 · 5 answers · asked by blu_eyedgirl67 1

I am living with my mom right now and am going to be moving out next year.She keeps almost everything she has ever gotten,even things that are broken!I used to try to keep things neat but since my parents divorced and we moved to a smaller house her things are just taking up all the space and it is impossible to.The things she keeps she doesnt even use and when we moved we didnt have enough room to bring the couch,table or washer and dryer, because of all her junk.Relatives had to give us old furniture they didnt need anymore.She hasnt unpacked 80% of her things,never cleans,i've had enough!Should I just bear it till next year or start slowly ditching her junk.I dont want to leave her in this sad little dump but she gets really mad when i say anything about it,i can't reason with her about this.Also,i have no money for storage,no where else to store it here, and even if I had the money she would Never go to counseling for anything.So I'm thinking I should throw it out,what about you?

2007-07-25 08:34:54 · 13 answers · asked by tweek4_ahh 1

i said to my fiance when we get msrried the following people sre banned from my life:
1) my three aunts (dad's sisters)
2)a selected amount of cousins(dad's side)
and also we are to never go to their house for any reason-not even in an emergency. i want my last moment seing them is my wedding day and then i avoid them. is it wrong to wish that I and my kids do not have to see them at all ????!!
Thanks.

2007-07-25 08:27:45 · 15 answers · asked by ezekiel's mom 4

My sis says that I've changed ever since i've gotten with my boyfriend, that I'm more "meaner, rude," and says i'm always wanting to fight. I've looked into what was going on and I don't think i've changed. My friends said I haven't, nor do other family members. I've tried talking to my sister, but talking turns into arguments all the time, and therefore she tells me I'm "impossible to talk to." People close to me tell me she's treating me horrible and that she's always instigating fights with me. What should I do?

2007-07-25 08:23:16 · 8 answers · asked by Mystery Bunny ♥ 2

I have been a musician since I was 14. I am now 20. I have a part-time job, and help out with chores around the house. I try to do my part in exchange for my room and board. But my parents want me to get a degree, in order to be financially secure and safe in the future, when my musical aspirations inevitably fail. :)

I adore what I do. Music is all I care about. I cannot waste my youth in a school doing work I couldn't care less about. I cannot grow old and pretend I care about an awful day job I need just to pay for a rotten apartment. Fortune favours the bold, and I will go nowhere in life if I do not take risks.

What do you think I should do?

2007-07-25 07:24:04 · 17 answers · asked by KurtR 2

My husbands ex constantly hangs around one of his sisters and it bothers him. Not only because she's done him very wrong and his siblings know that, he's also bothered by the fact that his sister wont accept me all the way..but rather half way including the ex.(gossip, pathological liar, peaked through our windows in the home, to see what we have etc..creepy)
He's expressed several times to her that it bothers him, but the sis does as she want and he has to deal with it.
I personally could care less if they accept me whole or half, I am not married to his siblings but I can understand his side and getting fed up with the family feud, constantly seeing the ex on family events that trigger my hubby to walk out and me sitting in the middle.

How would you handle this mess? Just not messing with that sibling?

2007-07-25 07:23:13 · 8 answers · asked by greenie 6

O.K. ya'll its time for true confessions.I havent seen my family in many years and gave my two girls up for adoption to my brother and his wife 10 years ago.Last week they found out that my brother has stomach cancer and as of yesterday it had spread and today they had to remove a testicle.I finally found the courage to call him after all these years and when I called the hospital he answred the phone.I cried like a baby he said my girls are beautiful and that if i wanted to that I could go see him in the hospital.I never looked back after the day he got my girls because it broke there heart because they couldnt stay with me and I swore I would never brake there hearts again.My husband is taking me to the hospital tonight.I am scared and in fear that I will fall apart.I am clean and sober now and so afraid that I wont be able to handle this.I need you guys.Ya'll have been my family when no one else would be my family.I need encouragemant and I am asking ya'll for help.

2007-07-25 07:19:21 · 3 answers · asked by ღOMGღ 7

2007-07-25 07:14:56 · 4 answers · asked by usaknight77 1

After long years of marriage when u get chance to stay alone for a short period with your spouse, you think he would try to think about you and vice versa and then you fell in love again? When other family member around you, you always think about them and make you live tense life and forget about your partner.
Question is how to maintain this love evenafter you are back with family again? How to make other person understand you?

2007-07-25 06:08:06 · 13 answers · asked by Jasmine 5

im pregnant and taking amoxicillin im supposed to take 1 every eight hours but i took one about 5 hours ago then again there now i forgot .. how long ago i took the first one... do u think one tablet will do any damage???

2007-07-25 06:06:09 · 6 answers · asked by sexi c 1

hey there is something happening here, need help with ,ok here it is last friday was my exs weekend well his gf is making accusations about my 14 yr old son tryin to kiss his gfs 6 yr old daughter trust me it never happened then my 14 yr old left the home cause of what they accused him of then the gf started on my 15 yr old son tellin him he is no father to his baby and all other things and he told her you are so lucky your a girl cause if you werent i would punch u in the face ..so she went and called the police on my 15 yr old son then there dad came back and just sat there and let his gf treat his sons this way
he was tellin his sons to get back in the house they refused and my 15 yr old said i cant wait to talk to the home evaluator which was coming at 3 pm,my sons said they will tell him everything and they mean everything that goes on over there.....so there dad said thats it your going home call your mom make sure she is up if not your here till morning and my son said he was

2007-07-25 06:01:22 · 4 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1

Hey whatsup..i'am 18 years old turning 19 in one month and a guy here.. I"am planning to move out. Things are not working out betweeen my family..and trust me they are not, its going crazy..but thats not the point. HOw do i move out. How much money do you think i neeed. I'am going to New Jersey. I live in houston texas right now..so any advice how to do this

2007-07-25 05:47:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you believe in grounding your children? if so what would be the maximum and minimum amount of time you would ground them for? How long would you ground them for if they got a warning saying next time your childs behaviour and attitude slips they will be expelled?

2007-07-25 05:46:59 · 33 answers · asked by sport loving steph 2

Heres the deal. My parents divorced when I was 3 years old and the judge ordered my dad to pay $50 a week. If he did pay it was very few times. I am now 19 years old and I wanted to know if there is anything I can do to make him pay the money he owes. We never tried to get it from him before because I had a good relationship with his parents (my grandparents) but now theres different circumstances. Please help!

2007-07-25 05:43:04 · 10 answers · asked by sneeker_peeker1309 2

i need help please tell me wht to do yesterday my sis told me that she had searched me a school in europe the school is really great it has only 6 kids in my class and its like a privite school if i want to go to that school i should leave my mom and dad here and go with my sis to europe heres the problem if i live with my sis after 3 days we'll start fighting then i will feel like go back home if we start once we will never stop and i dont me and sis to be that way and i had to skip a year of school so in the class ill be one year older that all the other kids please tell me wht to do wht to chose my sis or the school?????????????????????

2007-07-25 05:41:27 · 2 answers · asked by THE_NICE_ONE 1

long story short. lets just say a friend of mine a very close friend of mine she is older then i am. and we had some issues so we talked about the issues they were as follows : you should vs i feel, how she never asks interesting questions to show interest in my life i.e.:
Me: i asked for a rasie today
Her: did you get it
Me: no but they are giving more tools to help me advance my career in sales. It's my goal to go into sales now.
"""" she showed some interest""""
Her: i got to taste the potato saled!

Where did that come from! are we not talking about what i'm talking about any more you know once i'm don't talking about me you will have your turn to be all negivita and tell me what to do again!
she over helps and gets sad when i don't take her help
after the talk we had i thought things would be better but there not!
i love her so much BTW she is my mom. but if you read anything she rights it's always about her! then wonder why i'm her only friend.

2007-07-25 05:24:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

All we asked is that they do their own laundry, keep their rooms cleaned etc. I almost have to beg them to do this most the time. We love them both-but sometimes they drive me nuts! What do you think might help?

2007-07-25 05:19:58 · 31 answers · asked by Tammy 4

I loved my Grandma with all of my heart. Any songs that convey the following would be great:
love, support she gave me, raising me, a gentle soul, kindness, missing her, etc. I really appreciate your help.

2007-07-25 04:47:30 · 19 answers · asked by theblingqueen 1

He calls me names and always gets the last word and all the attention becuase he is the "first-born". Does anyone have nay tips on good comebacks, name callings, or just ways to get him back?

2007-07-25 04:45:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is engaged to her boyfriend of 3 years...
my sisters and the rest of our family all hate him.
My mom divorced our dad to be with him..
and cheated on our dad with him.
I'd say 60% of my family's problems come from him and my mothers relationship.
The sad part is my mom isn't in love with him.
She constantly complains about him and she never wants to talk about their wedding.
When she has been drinking she doesnt even want to talk about him.
I'm not completely sure why they are together but I'm pretty sure it's for the extra money...
because there is really no other reason for her to stay with him....

So.. my question...
What can I say to my mom to show her she can do better and doesn't have to marry him and we can be fine together...her a me and my sisters...?
We don't have a good relationship so it's hard to talk to her about this kinda stuff.
Also...my mom has had like 3 boyfriends in her life and she married the first 2 and is engaged to the 3rd one.
HELP!

2007-07-25 04:25:39 · 7 answers · asked by X0_JUSTxF0RxFUN 2

My boyfriend lost his place about a month ago. We're both living with my parents for now until we can get up on our feet. He's been having a hell of a time finding a job, and he's getting frustrated and worried that he's not going to find one. Not only that, he doesn't want to stay in Bakersfield, which is where we live. He wants to move out of state.

I'm all for it, but here's the deal. I was out of state for almost three years and just got back home last year. My Mom has already told him that he's not taking me out of state. It's not her choice, I am an adult, but it's so confusing. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I would follow him anywhere. But I love my Mother also...

Should I choose my heart over family?

2007-07-25 04:04:23 · 10 answers · asked by ♫♪Evie'sMommy♪♫ 2

2007-07-25 04:01:45 · 14 answers · asked by donbaze 1

Hi. I'm returning to my hometown for an extended period of time to care for my sick Grandfather. I love him very much and would do anything to help.
But, I do not get along with my parents at all and we are mostly estranged. The situation is not one that can be rectified.
How can I maintain my sanity during this time? I don't have any friends left there, as 14 years have gone by, and I'm looking for a way to not go stir crazy in a small town with only my Pap and wacky parents for company?
Thanks for any advice :) Highly appreciated.

2007-07-25 03:09:48 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister stole my identity to take out 2 loans and 5 credit cards in my name and has been doing this for 3 years. I found out 2.5 months ago. I paid the loans, she's took the credit cards out of my name and my credit is still F**cked.

My sister says she wasn't thinking. But it's a lie. This was very premeditated. Now i'm so comsumed with hate and rage, how do I deal with it? She gets her kids to phone me and trys to pull on my heart strings so I don't turn her in. My mom does the same. They live near each other, talk to each other and I feel like i'm nothing to them. Like i'm making a big deal out of it. Like I should forgive and forget. Pay her depts in my name and shut up. It was alot of money! I worked hard for that. She was my best friend, now I morn her like she's dead. And who she was to me is dead. Now I know she doesn't care about anybody but herself.

How do I get on with my life? I'm so bitter! No, she's not an addict. She is a 38 yrold housewife with 3 kids.

2007-07-25 02:17:55 · 17 answers · asked by jennifer_santolla 2

My brother in law moved in with us until he got himself sorted. My husband got him a job. He is here 7 weeks now and he has not even looked for a place, he says one week he is going back home and then he is staying but he has done absolutely nothing to move on. I don't mind helping people but it really annoys me when people take advantage. he doesn't pay rent or food or any bills while he is with us. My husband is also annoyed about it and has suggested he go but he is still here even though it is obvious that we are unhappy with the situation. As he is my husbands brother would it be really bad to just sit him down and ask him to leave, he will be here two months this weekend.

2007-07-25 00:09:11 · 10 answers · asked by nik 28 3

2007-07-24 23:25:55 · 39 answers · asked by bettyboo 4

he says im too loud,he says he cant hear me, he ignores me,he critises me,and so on.why is it always so hard to have a little control over our lives.he has complete control over every thing,and its all in his favor all the time.I feel he takes advantage that I am so timid, and sensitive.I stay at home and take care of baby,and him too.Im having another baby and if i miss chore one day i get nagged.

2007-07-24 23:23:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just before the 4th of July he was arrested again because he had been drinking. CPS wants to take his parental rights away. He went to court last friday and was release on the condition that he starts on antabuce. . On monday at noon he went in for his UA. They said he failed for meth and sending it to the lab. He tells me that he didn't do anything but had shared a pepsi with the neighbor..and took a sudafed or something for his cold. But tuesday he is worried? He asked me strang ? tonight like if I had certo or water pills? Will either one of those cover meth in a drug test today that he has? And will the antabuce have one of those false positive results I am hearing about.? The judge is not going to give him another chance which means I lose my rights with my grand kids. That is KILLING me to think about as they are 1 and 2 I have raised for a year now. If that test comes back pos. could it be the medication he said? Or am I not giving him a chance again.? Help worried granny!

2007-07-24 22:53:34 · 9 answers · asked by manifany 1

after you are an adult if u really dont like ur parents is it morally wrong to never call or visit?

2007-07-24 22:38:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous