After long years of marriage when u get chance to stay alone for a short period with your spouse, you think he would try to think about you and vice versa and then you fell in love again? When other family member around you, you always think about them and make you live tense life and forget about your partner.
Question is how to maintain this love evenafter you are back with family again? How to make other person understand you?
2007-07-25 06:08:06 · 13 answers · asked by Jasmine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi,
I can understand what you are trying to say , in most of the families it becomes diffcult for a couple to find quality time for themselves.
What you need to do is first make your partner aware of this thing that you both need to spend some time together & how important is this for both of you (if he doesn't realize this).
After that you both can make some changes in your lifestyle , you need to put some extra efforts for making this possible initially , after that everything will be fine.
Try to take out some time from your household chores , make sure you are atleast having one meal in a day with him.If you have kids, try giving some of there responsibilites to other family members or make the kids self sufficient , this will definetly take some time.
Your bedroom is your private space , so try to go early to bed early , spend some 1 hr with each other talking about just both of you , no family or kids issue etc.
or try going for a walk after dinner , leave your kids at home , tell them to finish there homework or go to bed , or watch t.v !!
Slowly you will find many other things from which you can take out little time & spend it with your husband.
The thing which you both need most is a zeal to spent time with each other no matter what happnes.
i hope this will help you.
gud luck
2007-07-26 18:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, everyone looks at people they like and know and thinks "what if"? But that is a fantasy and the reality of everyday problems is not in the fantasy. So stop living in the fantasy of "what if" with the man you have in your fantasies. If you have these thoughts do not dwell on them. Having another person in your thoughts doesn't allow room for fantasies with your husband. Now what you can do with your husband is pretend that you just met him. Today is the only day that counts because yesterday is gone and tomorrow is always tomorrow. Compliment him, hug him and appreciate him. He is the one who will be there for you when you don't look your best, when you have the flu, when you have money problems, when you have problems with the children. It is you and your husband as a unit that will make it through the problems in life. Try to get a hobby together or throw yourself into his hobbies. Try to find something to laugh about every day. Make good memories between you and him. Ask him about his favorite childhood book and what he liked about Christmas when he was five years old. Find the child in both of you. Married love is the love that will take you through life and be there for you forever.
2016-04-01 01:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that every single person in your family is important and give them the individual love and attention they desearve you should always show love and affection towards your spouse it started with only the two of you once upon a time remember that its easy to forget as you take on different roles in your life as you grow Mother Daughter Wife you have to understand your place in eachpersons life and assume all roles without making anyone feel unimportant its not easy but if we couldnt handle all those roles our higher power wouldnt have given them to us If he desearves your love work on it if he doesnt, work on you until you feel you are worthy of finding the happiness and balance you desearve in your life.
2007-07-31 04:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies...(married) let me ask you " have you ever stoped loving your husband? " wihtout a genuine reason? when i go through all those answers..i found some of the ladies dosnt understand the question. (I think so)
But if you ask me...its time both of you should give enough time to each other to share your feeling for each other...and pls, dont mix / or sacrifies (everything) your married life for anything.,somehow you both should teach / let know them that you as a couple need some space for a healthy and long maried life..but slowly should not be all of a sudden. .they might take it opposite way so be care full.
2007-07-26 00:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are living life according to the rules set by your family members, which means you are leading their life rather than yours, this is your life, its your love, its your time. Try and speak up and be who you are, you are loving a neighbours husband, its yours, why should you be so ruled over, no wonder you are so stressed out. Make clear boundries and have your time, let them know you need privacy and try to get your husbands coperation, tell him you enjoy his company and love spending private time with him. I bet he will love to hear it come from you,
wish you all the luck, and hope this works.
2007-07-29 12:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by thachu5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever since we had kids, it has been a struggle to find time for each other BUT...after a lot of time planning.....we had made a habit of talking to one another everyday (even if it's for 15 min)..... specially when the kids go to bed. This way we don't feel we are neglecting each other.....i don't know what will happen ones the kids are grown up.....but i am hoping this will not change.
2007-07-25 07:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by always-smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with my hubby for 22 yrs,weve split up twice,once was 6 months and the last time was 2 yrs,weve been back together for 4 yrs now.you have to learn to not let family or friends come between you and your husband.take care
2007-07-25 18:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by tammy g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my mother told my father, He came home one he gave my sister and me a kiss and start talking and playing with us but he for got about our mom. She pull he over to side and told he she was here first and will be here long after both my sister and I move out he better start remember her first and he did both is together going on 50 years now.
2007-07-25 06:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Aimee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't fully understand the question. Go back and do a spell-check. If it still isn't understandable re-write it.
2007-07-25 06:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY TO FAL IN LOVE AGAIN WIZ HUSBAND! CAUSE I'M FED UP WIZ EVERY DAYS LAIFE AND NW TO LOVE ZAT PERSON WIZ WHOM I'M SPENDING ALL DAY AND NITE SINCE 7 SEVEV YEARS. OH NO NEVER!
2007-07-25 06:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Looly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋