My boyfriend lost his place about a month ago. We're both living with my parents for now until we can get up on our feet. He's been having a hell of a time finding a job, and he's getting frustrated and worried that he's not going to find one. Not only that, he doesn't want to stay in Bakersfield, which is where we live. He wants to move out of state.
I'm all for it, but here's the deal. I was out of state for almost three years and just got back home last year. My Mom has already told him that he's not taking me out of state. It's not her choice, I am an adult, but it's so confusing. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I would follow him anywhere. But I love my Mother also...
Should I choose my heart over family?
2007-07-25 04:04:23 · 10 answers · asked by ♫♪Evie'sMommy♪♫ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Follow your heart! Your parents will come around. Be sure this is what you want, though. Don't do it to make boyfriend happy.Does he have a job lined up or will you be living w/ friends /relatives? Make sure you are set up on your own before you go.Through experience ,it never works living w/ others.
2007-07-25 04:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by asphaltgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days, a lot of people are leaving their towns and states for employment. There is not much you can do about it - you have to go where the job opportunity is. It is a hard choice, but I'd say that if you definitely have a future with this man, and you two are happy and committed together, I would go with him. You are an adult and you need to follow what feels right in your heart - mom has to let go. And if you make a mistake - so what. That is what life is about. We pick up and we keep on going and learn from it. Good luck.
2007-07-25 04:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that I could give you some sage advice that would easily solve this problem.
Unfortunately, you know there is no easy answer here.
The best I can do is let you know that it isn't a great idea to follow your boyfriend out of state when he does not have a job lined up.
My suggestion is to let him go to wherever he intends to find a position and then when he gets one join him.
This makes it a proactive decision and no one gets hurt.
2007-07-25 04:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you think that you and your boyfriend can handle leaving the state and he don't have a job but you do. Your mother need understand that you are grow and she should be backing you up and it just your choice good or bad
2007-07-25 06:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by Cosandra T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom will always be there for you. You are not her baby girl any more. She will have to deal with that. But talk to her. Let her know what you want. Hopefully it will all work out. Good luck to your boyfriend finding a job. and good luck to you.
2007-07-25 04:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Vince B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom will always be there for you right?? The two of you need to talk about what the two of you need to do to land the jobs you want in lfe. I wish you the best.
2007-07-25 04:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon, I know its pretty tough a decision you have to make. To please both, in my opinion, I would suggest that your bf move out of state, get himself a job, settled and you join him. This way, your mom will feel more secure for you both.
2007-07-25 04:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by greentea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family will understand your choices you make in life. You have to make your own choices and not worry about who it pleases or displeases because if they truly love you they will support your decisions,.
2007-07-25 04:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by trisha b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no answer for you but why in the world would your mother support your bf
2007-07-25 04:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh?
2007-07-25 04:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋