My sis says that I've changed ever since i've gotten with my boyfriend, that I'm more "meaner, rude," and says i'm always wanting to fight. I've looked into what was going on and I don't think i've changed. My friends said I haven't, nor do other family members. I've tried talking to my sister, but talking turns into arguments all the time, and therefore she tells me I'm "impossible to talk to." People close to me tell me she's treating me horrible and that she's always instigating fights with me. What should I do?
2007-07-25 08:23:16 · 8 answers · asked by Mystery Bunny ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has a bf
2007-07-25 08:33:02 · update #1
The problem seems like it might be that you sister and you had a close bond before your new boyfriend came into the picture, and now your sister feels "threatened" by him, because you're probably spending more time with him, and not her.
That's whats causing her to say that you're 'mean & rude' to her, when you're just being the same person as you were before, your time is just split up differently.
I suggest that you sit down with her and explain that you haven't meant to make her feel like you're being mean or rude, and see if the two of you can agree upon a time devoted to just the two of you, (maybe two or three times a week) where you guys can hang out, catch up, or just be together without anyone else around. This should get your sister to stop thinking that you're excluding her from your new life, but trying to work everyone into your time.
2007-07-25 08:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that your sister is jealous? Could it be that since you now have a boyfriend, you and your sister are not spending as much time together as before? If it is, her action could stem from her feelings of missing time you used to spend with her.
Your solution could be as easy as just assuring your sister that she is still a very important person in your life; she will always be your sister and that you still love her very much. Then try not to neglect her now that you have new relationship with your boyfriend. I'm sure when the time comes that your sister has a boyfriend, she will be more understanding. In the mean time... A little kindness goes a long way.
2007-07-25 15:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by dog crazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you that very often, when people accuse you of something, they are really the guilty ones. For example. Haven't you ever heard of someone who has a bf who is always accusing them of cheating... when in reality it was the bf that was cheating all along? It is just like that. What I think you should do is relax. Your sister will change again. We all change and grow during our lives. The comforting thought should be "this will pass"
2007-07-25 15:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably jealous that you are spending time with your new boyfriend instead of her. Try to plan a 'girls day out' with her, like once a week and see how things go from there.
good luck!
2007-07-25 15:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, Shes jelous that you have a boyfriend now so shes taking everything out on you. Really its her thats changed.
2007-07-25 15:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your LITTLE sister????? My sister has been upset with me ever since I married my childhood friend.......
She and I used to fist fight about who was going to get his attention.......so she hasn't spoken to me since Christmas.......She has a husband and I seriously believe that she is jealous.
2007-07-25 15:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yer sis mite just be acting herself. Just ignore her and folo yer heart.
2007-07-25 15:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your sis have a bf? maybe she is jealous.
2007-07-25 15:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by helloooo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋