Do you believe in grounding your children?

Question

Do you believe in grounding your children? if so what would be the maximum and minimum amount of time you would ground them for? How long would you ground them for if they got a warning saying next time your childs behaviour and attitude slips they will be expelled?

the child is 13, she has been grounded for 2 months before for the same thing.

for having threats of getting expelled she got grounded for 3 months. including her month holiday.

she had a bad attitude towards teachers e.g back chatting.
behaviour, mucking around

she thinks some of the teacher over exagerated when telling the prinicipal of what she did.

she was also grounded so she could not go to her volunteer dog help on every friday to help with the abandoned and sick dogs.

Answer 1

Where there warning signs before the educational system threatened to expel the child? Unfortunately, if the school has already gotten to the point of expelling, than I think the child might need something more than grounding. I really think that time has passed.

Counseling or alternative schooling might be the best idea.

Answer 2

Yes but it all depends on what they did. I take certain things away from my son like his nintendo DS or he can't go out for the rest of the day, or if something special is planned he can't do what's planned. If he came home with a note saying he will be expelled if his behavior or attitude didn't improve then I would let him know if he did get expelled then he'd be grounded in his room during school hours for the rest of the school year and wouldn't be able to go outside after school hours neither. Seems harsh but why should he be havin fun when he's supposed to be in school?

Answer 3

Ground her until she can stop getting these threats. Then the amount of time depends on how long she wants to act like that. It might be hard and it could take a long time. At first she might be testing you to see if you will keep that rule but then I think you should see some progress. I hope this is what you wants. If you try it I hope it helps. I am 12 and I think this is a fair rule. It may seem unfair at first but she is the one controlling the time of the grounding.

Answer 4

The grounding my children get, is if there is an activity they want to go to, best not act up if you want to go. Also the time fits the crime. My kids have been grounded for a month with additonal priviledges lost for going someplace and not telling me. Or going with someone that they were told not to go with. Not coming home when told too is also a month restriction. Talking back or lying, and being disrespectful is one entire week. One or two times of this, and you will not have very many repeat offenders. Something as serious as an expulsion is grounding until further notice. Also no cell phone, home phone priviledges or friends coming to visit. They would be on lock down even if it took one year for the behavior to improve. My youngest left a teen club and went with two older kids we know to a park. She drank a wine cooler they gave her. The police came to the park. The other two were not taken in, and mine was. She was grounded for an entire month, with 6 months probation. This meant if she did anything to get into trouble after getting off the one month grounding in six months time, it would be one year.

Answer 5

One of my friends gets her cell phone taken away for minor things and then gets grounded for more serious things. For her being grounded means not going to movies or to the mall with friends and stuff like that. She can still use the computer and home phone. taking away those two things will just make your kid miserable and shouldn't be taken away unless the wrong doing is a big one. I would say take away something like a cell for a day for back talk, not listening, rudeness, whatever for a day or two and then add a day each time they do it again ( so you take it away and bobby says "but mom that is so unfair, you are being so stupid!" then he gets it taken away for 2 days.) if he gets bad grades, sneaks out, whatever then a week of EITHER no phone and computer OR no going out with friends. It may seem like the latter is more serious but trust me most kids lives are on the computer. and again if their behavior is bad another day should be added. if they do something terrible like get suspended then both should be taken away for one or two weeks depending on for example how long they were suspended and what they were suspended for. and make sure that the punishment is the same each time or your kids will decide to risk getting punished because sometimes its shorter than others. also you may want to reward good behavior by taking a day off their punishment. I think that part of being grounded should also mean that they help out with extra chores!

Answer 6

Yes, I do. I also believe in rewarding good behavior...catching them when they're good. Some kids get this thing where they only focus on the bad stuff they're doing and just "give up" trying to be good cuz they've labeled themselves "bad kids".

I believe in grounding them from daily privileges like computer time, watching TV, going outside to play, etc.

During the grounding time, their computer/TV time (etc) is replaced with grueling work like scrubbing the bathroom with a tiny toothbrush, cleaning the dirty basement floor, picking up sticks and leaves from the yard.

After the grounding time is over, I tell them what I expect from them from now on and say "You're not going to do that again, right?"

Answer 7

It sound like grounding your child does NOT work. There are other methods of discipline which include taking away her tv or computer time, making her do jobs around the house and in general, making her life as misterable as she is making everyone else's. It sound as if the grounding is making her even more nasty. She needs to do the dishes, wash the floors, and clean out the cat box. She needs to learn respect for her teachers and her elders. If you are her parent, get busy and do not let her get away with smart talk.

Answer 8

I believe in grounding and I also believe in spanking when the child is young (spanking, not abusing).

Guess the grounding all depends on what they did, and how old the child is. Grounding your child depends alot upon you the parent and how much grounding you can stand.
Your "child" needs to know especially if they don't that there are consequences in life when you screw up. I'd try to make this experience as unpleasant to them as possible now so that it will hopefully "sink" in and straighten them up and have them think twice the next time something comes up.

Answer 9

Well I go a day for every year they are old. My eldest daughter is 14, so if she would have received those attitude slips, I guess she would have 2 weeks of grounding. You have to have some grounds for your children, if there are never any consequences to their bad behavior, they will never repect anyone or anything, including themselves.

Answer 10

Children who don't perform well in school don't deserve special privileges. If I got such a warning from the school, my child' s privileges would be taken away. That includes cell phones, cars, computer games, trips to the mall, and all of that. I won't work to support a bum (male or female). If they don't stay in school, they get a job and pay for their food and lodging, or leave. I will not support a bum who attempts to live off of me without finishing school. No way!