Family - May 2007

I have a 9 year old daughter, and I just asked a question regarding her father. He has been in prison for 5 years, and my daughter has never met him. As soon as I found out I was pregnant when I was 17, I moved away. The answerers advised that I let my daughter see her dad in prison. Now, the problem is...he doesn't actually know that he has a daughter. How can I tell him?

2007-05-14 12:42:47 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

no matter what i do my mom only focuses on the bad.
i have a 3.78 grade point, am in a band, take night classes, am in 11th grade(finish in 1 month), take care of the house cleaning etc. I'm learning how to drive this summer, (everyday i still have to be picked up by her)and when she asks how my day was(i'm really bad at being secretive)i tell her stuff like
"we had a festival at school"
"WHY DIDN'T YOU PERFORM IN IT!?" or
"i petted a baby skunk"
"oh...that's cool...you got a c on this quiz! study more!!"
when i tell her how i feel, she pulls my words out of context and makes it seem as if I was the one degrading her! she can be really encouraging and nice, but she flips over every little thing/constantly upset me
many days i end on a good note, she turns sour
ive already lived abroad on scholarships, am a great artist, guitarist, cook, etc.
i can't be perfect! how can i show her that i'm not a bad kid and show her that i can't do every little thing!

2007-05-14 12:37:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

myparents are the typical indian parents in america.my parents and me and wifeand 2 kidsstayed with parents from 1996 to 1999 and paid my parents rent to offset the cost of rent. and my wife was the typical indian wife cooking ( 7adult 2 kids w/ my mother's help) and cleaning and working as a store clerk. my brothers didn't pay any rent. by may 1999 i had saved money and brought my home and my parents said we going to move in your house because it has the room plus a better area, and they paid me rent, i said ok. they lived from 1999to 2002. my parents brought a business in new york and said we will living in new york and they left1 year later i had asked my brothers to move because of fighting with them drink in front of my kids and they didn't stop. then in feb2006 my parents told me they will move in with me ( my brothers had apartments too) they said where going to india in june 2006forever. but they didn't go .my basement became a storage unit.my wife and i had apply for my

2007-05-14 11:17:11 · 15 answers · asked by vinnie 1

When I was turning 18, my cusin, (We are like third cusins, not that close) told me, "Just because your turning 18 don't mean your going to become smart."

My sister-in-law was there so I didn't want to start arguing with cusin, so I didn't ask her what she meant by that.

Is she saying, I'm dumb now and I will always be dumb no matter what age I'll become?

2007-05-14 10:41:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need an idea for a great birthday present for a teen boy that doesnt cost over 200$, any ideas?

2007-05-14 10:20:18 · 13 answers · asked by Italian Stallion 1

I'm 15, fortunatey have a good relationship with my parents. But I see so many cases of bad and hurtful relationships that I'm upset and scared. It seems most parents are unforgiving and only love and trust their kids when everything is OK. But if they mess up, everything is lost, love trust, good relationships. And sometimes this makes kids so resentful that they their resentment will go to adulthood. Is it possible for a kid to be forgiven if he or she messes up? I've never done anything bad and don't inted to, but I'm a human being and can, of course, make misstakes. I I make one, will everything I 've built in terms of love and tyrust be lost? I think if my parents make some mistake I'll forgive them? So, why does this have to be on-way? I think not forgiving their kids is somewthing cruel and selfish of their parents, who can't accept and loive their kids when they make mistakes. I guess this is not the case, otherwise all parentskids relationships would be destroyed forever

2007-05-14 10:16:37 · 2 answers · asked by Marta 1

He has some anger issues because of a past relationship that I was in and I don't want him headed to the wrong crowd. I am a single parent on a budget. Please help!!

2007-05-14 10:06:27 · 11 answers · asked by SINGLEMOM4 3

2007-05-14 08:45:34 · 11 answers · asked by jazzlady_jazzylady 1

Do you like your job? Why?

2007-05-14 07:33:59 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i dropped outta school when i was 16. i was way behind i got held back twice for skipping so much school and i just figuered i wouldnt be able to catch up. Now my dad is strict when it comes to school. its been almost two years and i told him i was graduating in the summer cause of a program i have taken. If i tell him though im scared that he'll never talk to me again. what should i do?

2007-05-14 07:30:25 · 7 answers · asked by shelly 2

For the last 5 years my mother has been EXTREMELY abusive verbally, emotionally, and physically. I found solace when I went away to college, but I have just finished my first 2 semesters and I am back at home for the summer. I have been home for two days but my mother has already started her old ways.

When I went away to school I enlisted the help of a counselor who help me significantly work through my anger and depression issues associated with the abuse I received from my family. I thought that I would be okay for the summer, but mother has the power to completely make me feel like dirt and I feel myself spiraling down again.

I get a significant amount of child support from my father (who I am estranged from) that goes directly to my mother. She will not give me the money, and I use it to pay my tuition. Since I am 19 I cannot call child services. Where can I get help, and find someone to help me gain control of my money because it’s all that I have left at this point?

2007-05-14 06:41:17 · 31 answers · asked by nkdavis2006 1

2007-05-14 06:14:48 · 24 answers · asked by Pancake 7

She has kept him from seeing his kids, fills his voice mail box with annoying messages, sent letters to the retail company where he manages one of the stores, (as though she is a customer) complaining about his work, got a restraining order (500 feet) she violated it and him arrested, he spent last father's day in jail, has had child protective services show up on his visitation weekends, her brother is one of the 3 fulltime cops in their town & my buddy has been pulled over & had to do a field sobriety tests several times... and much much more

2007-05-14 06:01:39 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

He lived in Colorado and we live in Texas. We need to know if there are any orginizations who would help with transproting him here and the funeral. Please if any one has anything let me know.

2007-05-14 05:42:44 · 14 answers · asked by Fe 1

As I get older and look at the world in front of me I sometimes wonder if people dont have high expectations of love.It's like we are looking for the perfect kind of love and not finding it.I know we all love and we all love differently.But we Dream of more than we get it seems.What is love to you?And what do you expect from it?Please be honest and friendly.

2007-05-14 05:35:35 · 11 answers · asked by Alexis P 2

Hi, last wk, it was my grandma's bday. My bf of 3 yrs (26 and I'm 25) was invited and he chose not to attend. He met my mom (once), not my close relatives. Yest, I was bridesmaid for my friend's wedding and was planned months in advance he would come. But at very last min., he told me couldn't come. His reasons are he is uncomfortable, and they are strangers to him, so what's the point of attending. The only function he attends is my bday (no-one else around). Strange part is that during our first yr, he attended almost all the functions I invited him to. He has social anxiety b/c for a potluck one time, he took social anxiety pills. Now, he backs out of everything. My friends/fam never said anything bad of him b/c it's impossible since he hardly met any of them. I attend all his fam/work events. He attends his friends' bdays. We discussed marriage. How can I get him to attend my friends/family functions?

2007-05-14 04:31:43 · 8 answers · asked by Mei Wah W 1

I try to be, but unfortunately not all my family members try as hard as I do.

2007-05-14 04:28:30 · 13 answers · asked by ticktock 7

Whenever she is gone, I worry about where she is and if she has gotten into an accident.

Today, I woke up, and she's gone. I know she had to pick up the pets from the boarder, and take them to the vet. But, she won't answer her phone.

Please only serious answers.

2007-05-14 04:24:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Longest list wins.

2007-05-14 04:17:29 · 11 answers · asked by Bill W 【ツ】 6

Girl, snatched from her parents holiday apartment in Portugal. She turned 4 last saturday and has been gone for 12 days!

2007-05-14 04:17:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im a mom with a 3 year old son. I live with my boyfriend and his 7 yr old son. On mothers day I wasnt expecting anything but am I wrong or do I have no reason to be upset about no even being told happy mothers day from my boyfriend? I mean maybe not his mom or his sons mom but I thought Mothers day was in celebration of all mothers. And when I told him I was hurt he replied that I wasnt his mother and It wasnt "girlfriends day"

2007-05-14 04:15:55 · 31 answers · asked by Danity 1

2007-05-14 04:12:45 · 9 answers · asked by christian s 1

This is a tough one. My children's father has disappeared and I can't locate him to get the papers served to him so I can receive child support. He is self-employed and hiding by not signing a lease, getting utilities, etc. I have exhausted all of my resources shy of hiring a lawyer or private eye. Is there anything else I can do?

2007-05-14 04:09:13 · 10 answers · asked by SloanMercy 2

I'm American and my husband is from Greece we decided to move back to USA .
My husband has a good payed job and I have part time job, his salary is 1600$ and mine 400$ monthly, our rent here is 600$ monthly and our food expences are 450$.
The base sallary in Greece is for 10-12 hours work per day and without having the right to have any break at all is
600-700$ monthly.
Obvously we can not afford to buy a house witch will cost us 200.000 $ or a new car costing 15.000$ or having any children considering that the goverment does not help at all.
Our dream will be to buy an appartment , having 1 or2 children and managing all familly costs by a full time job for my husband and a part time job for me.
How high sould be each of our salaries to live an ordinary life without having wories how to pay at the and of the month: electricity,heat,food?
By the way our last electricity bill was
( for four months 1450$ !!!!!!! )
and we rent an 900 square feet appartment.

2007-05-14 04:06:54 · 3 answers · asked by Valerie N 1

why???

2007-05-14 04:01:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

car. We get lessons off the same instructor who is fantastic - so she's really busy! We usually only get 1 lesson each a week. With a new car sitting in the drive our mum offered to take us out. She's a nice, laid back lady so it sounded like a good idea. Wrong! She's a maniac. I've never seen this side to her before. She's mean and if we get one thing wrong she constantly lectures and shouts til we get it right. She had my sister in tears the other day. We've tried telling her that she is too hard on us but she just says we are not practicing enough and will never learn how to drive with that attitude. What can we do?? I'm running out of excuses not to go out with her in my car! Please help!

2007-05-14 03:58:01 · 12 answers · asked by stargirl_laura 3

While lying in bed, I tell my wife im gonna spit to see if i can hit the ceiling, when she puts her head under the covers, I fart. Is that funny?

2007-05-14 03:53:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got a cake, a card and a photo of my grandchild.

2007-05-14 03:42:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-14 03:30:08 · 15 answers · asked by violet b 2

My gf is 1st generation, meaning her parents are from another country. They are Asian. Her mom drives her nuts, which in turn, drives me nuts too. Her mom had a few "tough" times like 30yrs ago but dwells on it constantly and it puts her in depressing moods. She insist that her daughter must constantly listen to it, with no aim for closure, but more for just venting. My gf gets exhausted with this but the mother is relentless-it's an issue like every other day. We tried explaining that everyone is responsible for their own happiness and that things are good now so why dwell, but she doesn't care for all that. she also wants to be babied. It's quite ridiculous to see a 52 year old women act so silly. She says her daughter is bad and doesn't care because my gf doesn't serve her (during dinner) or baby her when she is sick (not serious sickness but like a tickling throat). Even the lady's doctor told her to quit coming so often-she was scheduling appts about 3 times a week.

2007-05-14 03:17:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous