i constantly feel like a dissapointment to my mom?

Question

no matter what i do my mom only focuses on the bad.
i have a 3.78 grade point, am in a band, take night classes, am in 11th grade(finish in 1 month), take care of the house cleaning etc. I'm learning how to drive this summer, (everyday i still have to be picked up by her)and when she asks how my day was(i'm really bad at being secretive)i tell her stuff like
"we had a festival at school"
"WHY DIDN'T YOU PERFORM IN IT!?" or
"i petted a baby skunk"
"oh...that's cool...you got a c on this quiz! study more!!"
when i tell her how i feel, she pulls my words out of context and makes it seem as if I was the one degrading her! she can be really encouraging and nice, but she flips over every little thing/constantly upset me
many days i end on a good note, she turns sour
ive already lived abroad on scholarships, am a great artist, guitarist, cook, etc.
i can't be perfect! how can i show her that i'm not a bad kid and show her that i can't do every little thing!

shes a single mom & grew up in the projects & wants me to have a better life...thats why she acts this way

Answer 1

This is an easy answer for ya! I want you to right click on your desktop and create a new text file. Then highlight your question you've posted in yahoo answers. Open, the new text file you created. right click on the blank text file and the click on paste. Then I want you to print it out on your printer. Then take it to your mother and let her read it.

Sounds like your Ma wants what is best for you. I know, i'm a Dad. I get so wrapped up in how much better my son can be doing that I overlook his accomplishments. It's not that I'm not proud of him. I'm proud as a peacock over him. Just sometimes I forget to acknowledge his accomplishments. It's the parental nature in us to desire our kids to become better than we are ourselves. I don't want my son to be just like me, I want him to do better so that later on in life he can enjoy it.

A gardner worked in a rose garden all his life. He raised the most beautiful prize winning roses. Were called Petroski
Roses. They were so sought after by others throughout the world. He never left his garden except for contests and shows. After a show one day, he walked past a very pretty bottle that contained a perfume. He loved the bottle but didn't try to smell the perfume. The lady behind the counter asked him if he would like to sample it on her wrist. He agreed. After smelling such a sweet perfume he exclaimed, "that is a familiar scent and I love the bottle! What is it?!?" She replied, "Scent of a Petroski Rose."

Mr. Petroski had spent so much time amoung such a wonderful scent, it didn't dawn on him what greatness he was among most of his life. It took a stranger to show it to him.

Go talk to your Mom. If your nervous, Print out your question and this answer and ask her to read it. I'm a stranger and it might make her realize she's among greatness!

Bear

Answer 2

This is HER problem not yours - maybe mom is jealous of all your accomplishments.

Let's see, you go to school, have a GREAT grade point average, take night classes, drive AND clean the house.

Besides bytch at you - what does SHE do????

Talk to a school counsler about what is going on and see if he or she can help.

Sit down and talk to Mom and find out what is bothering her - maybe it has nothing to do with you and she is just taking it out on you.

If this does not work - think about when you graduate and are able to go to college and get away from Mom - - - - maybe she will appreciate you a little more when you are not there.

Congratulations on the really great grade point average.

I am sure you will do well in life and don't let Mom ruin your good day.

Answer 3

come home and say; "Mom we need to talk, then sit her down and confess that you are taking drugs and have a boy friend and want her to know that you are pregnant. You are worried about what the drug taking may harm the baby.
Your boy friend is a really great guy they call snake, he flunked out of school but his dad lets him work in his garage changing oil in cars. You were going to run off and get married but you felt that you were close enough to her to be able to have this little talk and be honest. Snake is so cool he has 9 body pierceing, and 9 tatoos. Sometimes his dad lets him drive his car's in demolicion derby. He is just a natural at wrecking cars. I want you to meet him but tonight he is going to a drug rehab for his drug and alcohol problem.
If he doesn't show up he may have to go back to jail.
If she hasn't fainted by this time. You can go on about I know that I should have told you but I smoke cigarettes. I am trying to quit but they help me with my drug problem.
Maybe you can meet him after the rock concert we are going to next weekend.
"when she says you are doing no such thing. and throws a fit and tells you that your not smoking or using drugs ever again.
Your breaking up with Snake and marriage that is out of the question. When she stops for a breath say "mom see I could be worse, appreciate that isn't really me."
She may ground you until your 18 but I guarantee she will get the point.

Answer 4

STOP PLEASING YOU MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is your life sweetheart. I appreciate that your mom wants to do the best for you but the lady has to lighten up. She needs to be reminded that she has a fantastic daughter sitting in front of her and that she has done a great job to help create a wonderful woman. I would be the proudest mother if my daughter turned out to be half the young lady you are. YOu are a month away from finishing school and then onto greater things so start your own life as soon as you can becuase she is harmful to your inner self.

Answer 5

I think your mother loves you but she'd rather show it in a different way compared to others. She wanted you to be good. She wanted you to be what she had always wanted from you. If it means perfection, yes, she wants you to be perfect so that you could never be her. She doesn't want you to make mistakes anymore than she does. Forgive her and tell yourself that she loves you. It's not wrong to tell how you feel but do make it very humble and nice because she is the only mother you got. There's no point in arguing because anger doesn't solve anything. Tell her how you feel where you both can feel calm and only talk when she finishes her sentences. Take turns to listen.

Answer 6

As others say, and in addition, focus on keeping your GPA, finish your Senior year and focus on getting your plans for post-high school! It would be great if you could apply for scholarships away from home. Your accomplishments count alot and many scholarships are not even used! Go to your school guidance counselor and ask h/her help in finding some good ones for you to apply for. This is perfect timing--you have a year to work on this--and go for bd/room and tuition! There are always people in the community who are eagar to help young achievers further their career!! GO FOR IT!! And GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

You already answered your question she had a hard time growing up so she wants the best for you being a single mother she probably is stressed so you should just respect her and take her criticism lightly she doesn't mean any harm she loves you no matter what so don't beat yourself up your doing great keep up the good work =)

Answer 8

You will never be able to change your mom. But you can change how you deal with the situation and how much you her hurt you. I'm 50 years old and my mother still says things like, "I'm never going to get you grown." It is her problem not mine - or yours. Just be the best you can can be and only make friends with people who make you feel good about yourself.

You cannot choose your family members but you can choose your friends. And you cannot change anybody but yourself and that is only if you want to! Good luck, be good to yourself.

Answer 9

wow she sounds like a mean mom (sorry about that)
she maybe wants you to try harder
she maybe wants you to try harder becuz she eighther never got the chance or she knows you can do it


try to ask her ok? good luck