Im a mom with a 3 year old son. I live with my boyfriend and his 7 yr old son. On mothers day I wasnt expecting anything but am I wrong or do I have no reason to be upset about no even being told happy mothers day from my boyfriend? I mean maybe not his mom or his sons mom but I thought Mothers day was in celebration of all mothers. And when I told him I was hurt he replied that I wasnt his mother and It wasnt "girlfriends day"
2007-05-14 04:15:55 · 31 answers · asked by Danity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You said you werent expecting anything but then you complain you didnt get what you wanted. So you WERE expecting something.
People look at mothers day differently. Some people think it is to only acknowledge their own mothers and some think its to acknowledge all mothers. So in one sense he is right. But if you bore his child he should teach that child to acknowledge you on Mothers Day.
2007-05-14 04:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get this boyfriend the hell out of your life! What are you doing living with him and taking your 3 year old son into that situation? If you are not good enough to marry, you are not good enough to live with. Oh, sorry, I guess you are. Lucky you.
Hell, yes, you should be mad and hurt at the same time that this jacka** lets you be the female presence ('dad's girlfriend' is what you would be called) in his son's life. But he won't encourage you to be viewed as a mother figure no matter what - even for a crummy holiday card that says 'Happy Mother's Day'!
Tell this ****** that the ride he's been on that's been his free sex ride is over. Then take your child and leave. And don't move in with a guy unless it's after the wedding is over!
2007-05-18 08:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, you are absolutely right to feel the way you do. I mean, you know how hard it is to be a mom and you would like some recognition, or appreciation. Some men are just clueless and their response is simply, well, I dint think!!! If he knew how it made you feel I am sure he would have gotten you something. Try communicating but wait till your not irritated because that will come out in your voice and he will interpret it as nagging, and get all defencive. I know all too well what you are going through, and sometimes, some men, are just no the type to give attention to detail, It's almost like they don't know any better.
2007-05-14 04:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by dakini 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you both need a few more years life experience. Sure, Mother's Day is a celebration of all moms. You have to look at his maturity and his upbringing. He may be too immature still to understand what the day is all about. I do agree that on Father's Day you need to find some chore for him to do. Just so he can sweat and think about the importance of your respective days. If he refuses, dump him. You can find much better.
2007-05-20 15:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by J S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father used to tell my mother that all the time, "your not my mother". Even though it hurts, there really isn't a whole lot you can do about it. Some men just feel that way. Maybe by next mothers day he will "get" that he needs to at least acknowledge the fact that your a mother. But this year it's over, try not to dwell on it. As far as I'm concerned it's just another Hallmark holiday.
2007-05-15 00:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by tonya o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you have an insensitive jerk for a boyfriend. Not only did my husband tell me Happy Mothers day, but friends, my mom, my aunt, and my sisters all told me Happy Mother's Day. Regardless if you are not him mother or not, that day is to celebrate all mothers. It didn't say celebrate your mother, just mothers.
2007-05-14 04:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I think your boyfriend was being a jerk. I even bought my SISTER a card for being a mother! Maybe you are being a little sensitive, perhaps, but if your boyfriend really cares about you then he should not return your sensitivity with INsensitivity. You can't judge a person based on one thing, but I have to admit that this does not bode well for your future relationship if this is the norm, and not an exception to your boyfriend's behavior.
2007-05-14 04:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are absolutely right. If you are living with him and his child and taking care of the household as a mother does, then you should be shown some appreciation on Mother's Day. I would have to say that is a lack of respect on your boyfriend's part to ignore that fact.
2007-05-21 07:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy belated Mother's Day! Yes you should be hurt! You are not HIS mom.But you are a Mom to both little boys.Try to do something special for yourself,and remember his cold heartless words for father's day.With all you do year round,the least he could have done is said Happy Mother's Day!!!Those simple words don't cost anything,but could have meant alot!!! Or he could have even told the boys to say it to you,and give you a hug!Are you sure you want to stay with him?
2007-05-14 04:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! Yes, you SHOULD be offended! Being a mother period is what should be acknowledged and praised! It shouldn't matter if your not HIS mother, he still could have at least said Happy Mothers Day to you, taken you out for dinner somewhere, or even given you a card letting you know he loves you and how great a mom you are! Shame on him and any man that can't let his loved one know how special they are to him!
2007-05-14 04:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋