If an adult had children that have died; should you acknowledge Mother's Day or Father's Day for etiquette.

Answer 1

They are always parents, regardless of how long they lived. To say that would be cruel is wrong- to deny that they are parents is to deny the child ever lived. I would do it very privately- maybe a small posy of flowers- no need to say anything really. Cards etc would be inappropriate, though one saying just something like 'thinking of you and ***** today' .

Answer 2

I would say that it depends on the person. I'm not one in that kind of situation, but I guess it could be looked at as being similar. Nearly 12 years ago, I gave up my newborn son for adoption. While I was pregnant, I did everything I could to make sure my son had what was best for him. I went so far as to hand pick the couple who would raise my son. It's a decision I struggle with every day. So technically, I'm a mother. But I'll never be a mom. My parents and a couple friends wish me Happy Mother's Day every year. I have mixed feelings about it, but I know their intentions are good. So if the parents to a deceased child don't mind being wished Happy Mother's or Father's Day, then I say it's ok. But each person is different.

Answer 3

No I don't think so only because it is our children that are suppose to truly be the ones to tell our moms how proud we are to have then in our life's and for all that they did have done or will do. I think it would be hard enough to have to live this day but to have someone come and say happy mothers day, I might think that was a cruel joke and i might say don't you know my child died and my child is not here to wish me a happy mother day. I might be more hurt then glad they remembered that i was once a mother.

Answer 4

once a mother, always a mother. On mothers day, wether you bring it up or not, she will be reminded of her babies.

If she has lost children, than it will probably be a very sad and depressing day for her. Maybe instead of celebrating mothers day with her, celebrate her. Plan something special just for her to remind her that she is special. If she is a significant other, than just take her out and celebrate what she means to you in the relationship. If she is a friend, then show her how much she means to you as a friend. Mostly, remind her that she deserves to be celebrated, that she is cared about and that she is needed in your life.

Answer 5

Absolutely! They are still a mother or father...and despite what someone said about reminding them....that's insane. You don't EVER forget the fact that you were a parent even if the child has died. They are on your mind every minute of the day!

Answer 6

Absolutely, Even if it's just to see if they are having a difficult time dealing with the day. My mother passed away nine years ago when I was 17. Some Mother's days are worse than others. I alway appreciate it when my friends call me to see how I am doing and try to make plans with me anyway.

Answer 7

little ones are on the front of their mothers and fathers' strategies each and every day of the year. mothers Day and Fathers Day are the two days whilst the area is reversed. and that they don't seem to be and on no account have been approximately presents.

Answer 8

I would.... they are parents, weather their children are alive or not. They have gone through the same things a parent with children who are not passed, and then some. They have gone through the pain losing their child.
I would acknowledge Mother's day and Father's day.
It will probably make them sad, but they will remember more how much it meant to have YOU say it.

Answer 9

They are not going to forget that their child died, so it is not like you will be reminding them of something forgotten. I think it is very nice to do this. They still consider themselves Moms and Dads don't they. I have a friend who died and I always call his Mom on Mother's day. She very much appreciates it.

Answer 10

only if u think it will not hurt them