Family - May 2007

well when I was secretly spying on my wife last week on saturday and I caught her meeting some guy in a party planning store, she went in there for almost 2 hours!!!! then on sunday i caught her buying a cake for that asshole at a different store, she went to her friends house and dropped the cake off there for some strange reason, and just yesterday I checked her phone and she has almost no minutes left, she has been talking to that a hole at work!!! i checked her call history and she made a call to almost everyone on her contact list, I think she is trying to throw me off!!! i have no actually evidence of her cheating on me but I dont know how to catch her in the act, my birthday is coming up soon and she hasnt been herself lately, she has been keeping to herself, I think it is because she is seeing that a hole at the party planning store, and for some reason some money is missing from our joint checking acount, she is cheating on me, should i divorce her?

2007-05-31 05:32:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think I should be staying home? I make more money and think it's ok.

2007-05-31 04:18:58 · 37 answers · asked by laulinian 2

Okay I have 3 sisters, 12, 14 and 16
About a week ago my younger sister started trying to peek at me when I'm changing and showering (I'm sure it's normal curiousity.... curtainly hope I'm not the only one this has happened to before). I talked with her about how she should respect my privacy, she still does it... but my problem isn't my 12 year old sister.

It's my 16 year old sister who's only a few months older then me has started peeking at me, I think she's been doing it cause my little sister doing that bothered me. What should I do about my bratty older sister? (and peeking at her back to even the score doesn't work, she's a tomboy that tends to walk around "oh natural" since it's 90 degree days without AC here) How can I get her to stop messing with me?

2007-05-31 04:06:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anon 2

Let me explain - my mom has always had the need to control every aspect of my life. How I should feel, what I should say, what the world sees of me. I am a married woman with 3 beautiful children that I adore. She is once again trying to sweep a situation under the carpet because she doesn't want a "smudge" on the family name. She has always been this way - but it is my time to heal and she is not respecting my wishes and needs. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

2007-05-31 04:02:03 · 16 answers · asked by crazicowgirl 2

But I feel we really can't afford it right now (I look after the bills). We both work...so it's not like it's just his money (It's a car that he wants, not one we both decided on). He does need a different car, but I really don't think anyone needs a 45 thousand dollar car. IWe have finally reached a place in life where I feel we aren't scraping but, yet am so worried about whether we will be able to do the other things we want to do in life (move to an acreage, have kids, etc.) All he can see is car, and all I can see is bills, and once again living on a tight budget. How do I get him to see the light?

2007-05-31 03:10:03 · 15 answers · asked by bluearia 3

I was recently offered a job in Waterloo, IA from a former co-worker. The position is in managment, with is a step-up for me and will raise my income from $40K to $55K. This move will put my wife and I about 6 hours from our families. She will now have to look for a new position as well in the Waterloo area. We now have to sell our house and find a new one. We are also expecting our first baby in November. With all the things that need to be done, is taking this position worth it?

2007-05-31 02:57:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am starting a new habbit with my step children. On their birthdays, I want to setup a step-mom-step-kid fun day, where the kid and I will spend the day together and catch up.
My step-son's birthday is coming up and he is going to be 10. Does anyone have an idea where to take him? He is a computer geek who doesn't like doing fun activities outside. But I wanted to try suggesting a few fun things, and maybe he will buy into it....

Thanks!

2007-05-31 02:28:55 · 12 answers · asked by Ladybug NH 2

2007-05-31 02:23:10 · 3 answers · asked by tammy d 1

i am in the middle of revising for my GCSE exams and my mum is at work and i am left with my little brother in the house and i am working when he wakes up and comes downstairs. i stop and take a break after doing and hour and a half like i was told to and i go on a website. when i get back to working my little brother who is 13 comes and starts pecking my head i try and tell him i am trying to work but he still does it. i phone my mum to tell him to leave me alone but he gets on the phone and snitches when he doesnt know how much i have done. how do i get rid of him. he has made me lose concentration which i need as i have plans to go out and dont want him to stop me from going. what should i do?

2007-05-31 01:56:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hiya everyone,
i have the 2 girls at the moment, my eldest is nearly 2, so the age gap between them is quite small.
We had originally thought about ttc later on this year for a third little one, but we are kinda going off by the idea, i personally could fall pregnant again in a heartbeat cause i loved carrying our girls, but we are wanting them just to have time together rather than another little one coming along so soon.

what would be a better age gap do you all think to have between my girls and the third little one? i would like it so, they would realise what is going on, (like with the pregnancy) but i would not want to much of an age gap.

i hope this message is clear enough, i will add on details if need be.

thanks for any genuine answers xx

2007-05-31 01:44:35 · 24 answers · asked by lovelifelivelife 2

My boyfriends mother is living with us. She is suppose to be looking for a job and her own place to live but isn't looking to hard. She she sits her her pjs most of the day and does nothing. I was thinking of charging her 200.00 a month for staying with us. He wants to charge her 100.00. I think 50.00 a week isn't to high. She eats like 4 times a day! My bills are going up with her here. Not only the food bill but my electric, water, ect. The tv down there has been on since she got here on the 14th. She lives off of disability when I personally think she is able to get a real job like the rest of us to support herself. So is 50.00 to much to ask from her?

2007-05-31 01:36:31 · 14 answers · asked by someone in Nebraska 2

I have a Mother in law who is always in our buisness. And telling me stuff shes very insistant and demanding Lately shes been just showing up at our house without calling and yesterday she showed up all pissed off because we turn our ringer off when we dont want to be bothered so the minute I open the door she tells me in a mean voice" I called and since you dont pick up I had to come I know you are probably mad but Oh well!" and she wanted to take my son. I was upset but I told my husband to please talk to her it was drama he nicely told her to please call next time and she flipped supposedly she was missing for 12 hrs because she felt so offended. Shes always doing opposite of what I say with my 6 month old son she wants to feed him 2 jars of baby food and 3 ounces of milk in one feeding I cant take it anymore Ive talked to her its usless the other day she told me that my son looks like my other kids dad when he looks exactly like her son and you think I didnt feel upset HELP!!

2007-05-30 20:57:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My dad doesn't put me down directly but with subtlety. I think he's trying to make me be a better man. Is this typical in most dads?

2007-05-30 19:55:34 · 13 answers · asked by Fancelll79 2

2007-05-30 17:09:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like for example, I may post a question about a family member doing me wrong, & some of them make responses like, "She's your mother. She loves you. I'm pretty sure she didn't mean you any harm." Do you call it love when your mom tries to discourage you from going back to college because of her inferiority & jealousy? Also, she tried to kill me & my twin sister & she chooses favoritism for the brothers over the sisters. She lets my brothers drive her car but not me & my sisters.

2007-05-30 16:29:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been talking to a girl online for about a month now. I really do love her. However, today I asked my mom if it was ok to talk to someone and to call her on my cellphone. She was perfectly ok with it. Well, my dad tried to look on my macbook today, and i freaked and shut up. I then accidently kneed him in the lip. My mom told him about this girl because he wanted to know why i didnt want him to see the computer. Now he wants to talk about "internet chatting" and im really scared that he will take my computer away and i wont be able to talk to her anymore. Im 18 and I have never done anything wrong before. This has not affected my grades, and Im graduating 4th in my class. any help?

2007-05-30 16:13:34 · 10 answers · asked by redswimmer15 2

They go through my room, leaving stuff in it and taking what they want. They crash the programs i install on the computer. two months ago, i was left a little ceramic pot and flowers. after that i was left their bank statements from the past 7 years. after that someone took my kodak digital camera. they are always up to something. i don't feel it's fair how they do things that are nasty to me instead of expressing to me their needs verbally. they are always doing something to piss me off. I'm 25 and live at home wich has been hell. Apparently I ask too much of my family; however, i was gone between 19 and 24 so i have not been here long. secondly only seeds planted in rocks have to come back home at the age of 24 and yes im justifying myself. I think about leaving all the time, but when it's good it's great and when it's bad it's hell. i always come back with the fact that they're old and unhealthy &heart attacks &strokes are just around the corner. one day they'll be sorry

2007-05-30 16:12:32 · 13 answers · asked by shhhhhhhhhh 3

I don't know how to handle this. My son (13) kissed my daughter(12) in a way that made her uncomfortable. I found out he has been going into her room at night "just to talk" and he says that he kissed her by accident.. she disagrees and told him it made her uncomfortable. I know the obvious is to get him counseling. But I am just sick over this and his dad and I are at odds on dealing with it. Anyone else ever have this happen to them or their kids? I am just so lost on this.

2007-05-30 15:17:56 · 19 answers · asked by MomInPanic 1

My daugther is 4 and his is 8 and the try to play together and they do good for short periods of time, but the rest of the time the only thing they do is fight. We have tried to take them to places so they can share activities but nothing seems to work and I'm afraid that this is gonna affect my relationship with my boyfriend. I need some advice.

2007-05-30 14:51:35 · 9 answers · asked by Blazer Girl 1

2007-05-30 14:10:06 · 8 answers · asked by Lauren R 1

I for one think its wrong. My sister uses that method on her kids, and to me, they're pretty well behaved. They get whipped for stupid stuff like not putting on the dish washer or watching T.V past bedtime or even for getting to put up a common dish. I was also disiplined like this as a child, but don't u think it's time to break that cycle?
I think using a less agressive method would be better.

2007-05-30 13:29:44 · 15 answers · asked by alexihorky 2

I'm sixteen and I know this probably just sounds like I'm another idiot w/ a bad attitude but it's turning into a serious problem. My parents are grouchy it seems constantly anymore. They hardly ever seem happy and sometimes go off on me over small things. We struggle financially, and they work all the time, and the house is a mess because it's just too much cleaning for me to be able to keep up with as an only child. I'm never able to have any friends over because the house is a disgrace and it gets pretty boring being all alone. I will most likely not be able to move out for years due to money problems. Should I just get out of the house as much as I can at this point? thanks!

2007-05-30 12:45:15 · 7 answers · asked by 77684 3

She goes to me, why should I buy you a birthday present? You are old enough to know better. I go, well thats cuz everyone I know gets birthday presents from their aunts and she goes, just do me a favor and leave the room.

2007-05-30 12:35:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Tell me what you consider your 3 top priorities in your life. Place them from most important first and if you can explain why they are in that order.

2007-05-30 12:02:04 · 22 answers · asked by Moon 2

Okay, I'm 15, and in February, I ended up going to the tattoo parlor with my mom and getting a tattoo. The tattoo is on my upper back (shoulder) and is of a heart, with a ribbon around it with the words "I love you" on it. I got it 'cause I know my parents won't be around forever, and it symbolizes my love for them. My dad doesn't know, though. He totally despises tattoos. When my older sister got hers of her SONS NAME, he freaked.

He told me to bring a bathing suit to his house on Father's Day Weekend 'cause we're going to go swimming. I was planning on telling him I forgot my bathing suit and didn't want to swim anyways? This obviously isn't the right thing to do..

So what SHOULD I do? I guess I'm just scared of his disowning me for showing my love for him.

Thanks!
- Meg

2007-05-30 11:45:06 · 12 answers · asked by Meg 3

I am too young apparently to work, although I am going to be in high school next year, but the trouble is, that my parents NEVER I mean, NEVER give me any sort of cash, they wont even give me a buck or two when I need it for bus fare! What is the easiest way for 15 year old to make money? Without a job, or asking parents, and asking parents includes not doing chores. I do chores, but everytime I ask for money when I'm done, my mom goes, "Do I get paid money when I do chores?" It really bugs me, because they spend money on anything, but never give it to me, so what should I do?
Any help will be appericated. Thank you! :)

2007-05-30 11:44:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

um. she has four kids and i wanted to make her a scrapbook of her kids growing up. -including vacas, birthdays, thier school plays.. stuff like that. she said that she wanted one but she never had time to make one herself because if she isnt working then she is shopping for food.
so.. if you have ideas of what i should out in the book or if you think she would like something better. but try to stay with the book

2007-05-30 11:35:50 · 8 answers · asked by :D 4

Ok, so my dads gf has a dog, and lately I've been feeling like my dad cares morea bout this stupid dog than about me, all he talks about is all the dog is great and very behaved. I'm thinking, I don't care! So, by the way...I have told my dad what I feel about the dog, and he told me that he loves me more, but I don't believe him, also my dad and his gf broke up last week, so I think that he's using the dog as a memory "holder" for the time when he and his gf were together, and that makes me mad. So, I'm watching the dog, and my dad told me over the phone to let it out of its crate, and I'm not goin to! I hate the dog. Is this okay feelings to have? What should I do?

2007-05-30 11:12:38 · 8 answers · asked by ~British Boi~ 1

2007-05-30 11:11:26 · 7 answers · asked by Eddie J 1

My sister ran away for the second time. Well, we kicked her out, because she wanted to leave. She left one day without saying a word to anyone. This is very strange because she was grounded already. She came home the next day without an explanation. We asked her where she went, she said a show. We asked her was it worth it? & she said yes. She had absolutely no sense of responsibility and she thinks it'll be easy to live on her own.

The family was sick of her crap and didn't want to put up with her anymore, so we kicked her out b/c she didn't want to live with us anymore anyway.

Now no one can sleep and we don't know where she is or what she's doing or who's she doing it with. We're scared and we filed a police report.

We kicked her out because we figured, why bother chasing after someone if they will always leave you anyway? So my question is this, were we wrong in doing that?

I hope she learns her lesson and I know she will eventually come home, but what if she doesnt?

2007-05-30 11:03:22 · 9 answers · asked by MyLinh 1