Curious Sister, mean older sister.?

Question

Okay I have 3 sisters, 12, 14 and 16
About a week ago my younger sister started trying to peek at me when I'm changing and showering (I'm sure it's normal curiousity.... curtainly hope I'm not the only one this has happened to before). I talked with her about how she should respect my privacy, she still does it... but my problem isn't my 12 year old sister.

It's my 16 year old sister who's only a few months older then me has started peeking at me, I think she's been doing it cause my little sister doing that bothered me. What should I do about my bratty older sister? (and peeking at her back to even the score doesn't work, she's a tomboy that tends to walk around "oh natural" since it's 90 degree days without AC here) How can I get her to stop messing with me?

The problems with my older sister have been on going since she turned 13. She stole a pair of my boxers that is now her 'favorite' underwear (nothing gross btw it was a pair I had just bought and hadn't even worn yet). She finds anything that bugs me and pokes at that sore spot as much as she can.

I do share a room with my 14 year old sister, thankfuly she respects my privacy. I only had a problem once with her peeking at me when she was 10, but she's my quiet sort of nerdy sister who usualy keeps to herself. (lol clearly my favorite of the 3) But my parents only have a lock on there bedroom doors. I don't mind a sister being curious but my older sister keeps it up just to spite me. Gets really frusterating

Well, I would try and see if my parents would give me my own bedroom. But I don't mind sharing a room with my 14 year old sister... and I have told them my 16 year old sister bugs me, but the problem is she is their pride and joy. She is the child they where told they'd never have, she's only 4 months older then me. (in case people are wondering how this is possible... I am adopted as is the 12 year old, the 16 year old is their first child and the 14 year old was their second biological child.) The boxer thing my dad brushed off telling me to just go and buy a new pair, and let her have them.

Answer 1

Perhaps you should try locking the bathroom door.... and telling your parents would be a good idea as well.

outside of that, I"m not sure what to say. If you want to take it further, I'd say save some money up and buy yourself a new door handle to your bedroom that has a lock and get help installing it. At least that way you can secure your privacy in one room of the house, providing, of course, that you don't share your room with one of your sisters.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I take it you're a young man.

I am guessing that your older sister is jealous that you're a boy and she, while being the eldest, feels threatened with that. Does she pick on you in other ways?

No matter. Whatever the reason, this needs to stop. It's terribly disrespectful.

You need to speak with your parents about this problem. Not just because your sister needs to respect your privacy, but that her behavior is abusive to you.

See, it's not just boys who "take advantage of" their sisters - girls can be just as abusive to their siblings.

This is NOT funny. It's NOT your fault. Your parents should step in on this one. You must speak with them.

Key point - do this calmly in a gentle situation. Tell your folks that you have a problem and need their advice on how to handle it. Then tell them about your sisters and their disrespect for your privacy. Make sure you tell them that your younger sister has mended her ways, but your older sister has not - even to the point of stealing your underwear.

If this doesn't work, your only recourse is to speak with a responsible adult (your minister perhaps, or your school principal or headmaster) and ask THEM to speak with your parents about this.

Finally, if your parents won't put an end to this, call the authorities on your parents. This has to stop. You deserve more respect than that.

Answer 3

I dont know I havent got an older sister but what I do know is little sisters can be just as horrible. My little sister is evil

Answer 4

Well,, this is the facts of life.
Your sister is not trying to be mean,, she is curious,,and,,probably arroused, which is also natural. Maybe sit down with her, and ask her to stop,or, maybe just let her see you,, after all, it really is no big deal. Family nudity is very, very normal, and also good for family bonding. it is also common for siblings to want to peek, or touch each other, or their friends. Maybe they are hoping to see you in a state of arrousal. I sure would not worry about it, myself. It is just a part of life. If your parents were open about being seen nude by all the kids,, there would be a lot less curiosity. I know of a family, that allows their kids to touch,and are very,very well adjusted.

Answer 5

Take a kitchen chair and put it diagonally under the door knob. Very effective. As for your older sister, ignore her. Don't even acknowledge her presence.

Answer 6

I assume you're the lone brother in the family. Express your concerns to your parents. If they know this is going on they may consider giving you your own room, if that's feasable.