I don't know how to handle this. My son (13) kissed my daughter(12) in a way that made her uncomfortable. I found out he has been going into her room at night "just to talk" and he says that he kissed her by accident.. she disagrees and told him it made her uncomfortable. I know the obvious is to get him counseling. But I am just sick over this and his dad and I are at odds on dealing with it. Anyone else ever have this happen to them or their kids? I am just so lost on this.
2007-05-30 15:17:56 · 19 answers · asked by MomInPanic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sit down and have a frank talk with him. Tell him sternly to stop. Embarrassed him in front of everyone. He may develop hatred, but it may stop him. Threaten him.
2007-05-30 15:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sleuth! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am guessing it is experimental thing. Your son is 13 years old and his hormones are racing. He probably does not see your 12 year old daughter in a sexual way but, she was there at those moments. I suggest you all have a family talk about it, discussing how inappropriate it is. Then I advise that all of you go to counseling especially your son and daughter. Your son needs to find the reason why he kissed your daughter and your daughter needs to deal with the incident that happen. I always advise prayer also. I do not know if your family is spiritual at all.
2007-05-30 22:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Keelay M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first question would be: Has he been sexually abused and you are not aware of it? The child needs help and fast. You also need to forbid him from going into your daughters bedroom. Put an alarm on the bedroom door, so he cannot sneak in there. My friend had a problem like this and she almost lost her daughter to family services because she did not take steps to immediately stop the behavior. Get the child counseling ASAP! And put the alarm on the door! I hope all gos well with your family and this is resolved before there is more serious consiquences.
2007-05-30 22:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I kno a couple of cases where siblings did do inappropriate things with each other. BUT, it's not to extremem levels and most times it's a one time occurance. two for the most.
I think you should get together and both parents explain to both kids. Start off sayin that it's inappropriate for that, especially with your sister. Then excuse your daughter and you and your husband speak to him alone to try and see what would make him do such a thing. If you get the vibe that ir's an issue and that it's not just a one time thing, Conselling is DEFINITELY needed.
GoOd LuCk
2007-05-30 22:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea your right go to counseling.
Check out the friends he hangs with because kids develop more from the kids he hangs around. Children spends more time with their friends because they have most of the school year together. So he develops how the other kids are. You should check(if he gets on the computer) what sites he's on.
2007-05-30 22:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is only natural for them to be curious about kissing. When I was growing up me and my cousins would do this just to see what it was like. Nothing that meant anything just a natural thing. If it continues I would recommend counseling.
2007-05-30 22:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by 38C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries should definitely set between the two. The son should be made aware that his behavior was totally unacceptable and inappropriate. Let him know that there will be consequences if this behavior continues. And the two should not be left alone together.
2007-05-30 22:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Locsntraining L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you do not leave them home alone for any reason. Glad to hear your daughter came to you and told you about other times also. Yes you need to get him help as soon as you can, before it is someone else he tries this with or he becomes more then what your daughter can handle
2007-05-30 22:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by ticonderoga1186 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you should just get him some kinda help. get her a lock on her door for the time being tough so that nothing else happens. it sounds like its just his hormones or something like that. you should teach him more about that kind of stuff before he gets any older and teach him that you have to create relationships with people outside of the family. well good luck i hope the best for your family espesially your son.
2007-05-30 22:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by tina2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your son out of the house more. Get him interested in hanging out with friends. When he is with his friends he will do things like look at girls and wish he was dating them like many people do at his age.
2007-05-30 22:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by Hey 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋