I am starting a new habbit with my step children. On their birthdays, I want to setup a step-mom-step-kid fun day, where the kid and I will spend the day together and catch up.
My step-son's birthday is coming up and he is going to be 10. Does anyone have an idea where to take him? He is a computer geek who doesn't like doing fun activities outside. But I wanted to try suggesting a few fun things, and maybe he will buy into it....
Thanks!
2007-05-31 02:28:55 · 12 answers · asked by Ladybug NH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm thinking people might be a bit confused about the timing of your 'fun day' idea. I don't think you would impose yourself on the child on his/her actual birthday - not if the parents didn't want you to do so, anyway (or weren't doing anything for the child on that day). I think what you're proposing is having a special day together sometime around his/her birthday, to celebrate their life & your special relationship with each other - just the two of you - and I think that's a great idea!
My suggestion is that you take him out geo-caching. He'll love it. You'll have to invest in a GPS (or borrow one from someone), if you don't have one. But, it's a geeky outdoor fun treasure hunt!
Here's how it works... at http://www.geocaching.com/ , there is a list of hidden 'caches' (usually a small container with little trinkets inside of it). You use your GPS to go find the cache!
The people who hide the caches use their GPS (global positioning system - small device that gives you the longitude & latitude where you are) to get the coordinates of the place where the cache is hidden. They put those coordinates, along with a few clues, up at http://www.geocaching.com/ . You can search that site for caches close to you.
Once you find the cache, you take a trinket out and leave a new one there. You leave a note in the log book. And, come back to your computer later, to log the find online.
Way fun! My kids (and stepdaughter) love doing it!
2007-05-31 04:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Orion that on his birthday may not be the best time to do something together. I admire your desire to have a special day with your stepchildren. I think it's a really great idea.
I'd suggest that you do something computer oriented. Find a way that he can spend some time teaching you things that are important to him. A lot of parents are computer-illiterate and this might be a fun chance for him to brag about how smart he is.
Have a fun time with whatever you decide and kudos to you for being such a great stepmom!
2007-05-31 03:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get me wrong I think this is a really good idea. Trying to connect or stay connected to your step children is wonderful but Birthday's are usually reserved as a time when family gets together or hanging out with friends to celebrate. This sounds like something you should be doing at another time. Your step son might be a computer geek but it should be the parents encouraging him to get outside to do things. Try surprising him and take him mini-golfing, bowling, swimming or even out to see a movie.
2007-05-31 02:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Orion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother is just trying to make you as miserable as she is. It's hard for a mother to "share" her children. It's not a mature thing to do, but it's how some people handle it. You either, put up with it and try to make the best of the way things are, or you leave the situation, which really is what the ex wants you to do. Honestly these girls do not need someone walking out of there life. If you want to I'd make comments to his kids, tell them that they never have to choose sides. You will always like them no matter what, and you know that they are having a hard time with this. Keep being super supportive and nice to them, eventually they will see the things their mom is saying is not true. It will get better if you really want to make the effort.
2016-05-17 12:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe one of those big arcades for kids and adults. I don't know if there is one in your area but that would be fun for him, and you can let loose and race with him. A lot of those places have restaurants, so you can have lunch there.
Another idea is a science museum for kids, since he seems into computers and stuff like that. Someplace he can learn but still have fun.
I think you might be surprised what kids will enjoy if you give em the chance too.
Good Luck!
2007-05-31 02:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by redhead77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a good idea! My family had 7 children and my dad took each one of us out at random times of the year for special "dates" I cherrish the memories.
Does he like science? the two nephews I have that are both 10 are completely inthralled with the computer as well but they love "hands on" learning about science, dinosaurs and magic. (as in card tricks and such) maybe a science museum or something of the sort. I have learned not to push sports or sports like things on them, it almost seems stressful to them and really do not enjoy it.
Good luck!
2007-05-31 03:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by angelbaby1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a Kid's science museum. I don't know if you're near a big city, but something like the Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago. And Children's museums often have neat computer and science exhibits. Good for you -- this sounds like a great tradition!
2007-05-31 02:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take him to a museum of some sort
picnic in the park to catch up
take him to a movie
anything really - once he is outside and you are doing things he will be fine
2007-05-31 02:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any indoor arcade places? We have a few of them for older kids in our area (sort of a big kids chuckee cheese), they have indoor arcades, go cart rides and putt putt golf. A place like that would probably be up his alley.
2007-05-31 02:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to a nice restaraunt and have either lunch or dinner with him and buy him something for his computer maybe a game or something of that nature .
2007-05-31 02:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋