What do you do when your 17-year old sister runs away?

Question

My sister ran away for the second time. Well, we kicked her out, because she wanted to leave. She left one day without saying a word to anyone. This is very strange because she was grounded already. She came home the next day without an explanation. We asked her where she went, she said a show. We asked her was it worth it? & she said yes. She had absolutely no sense of responsibility and she thinks it'll be easy to live on her own.

The family was sick of her crap and didn't want to put up with her anymore, so we kicked her out b/c she didn't want to live with us anymore anyway.

Now no one can sleep and we don't know where she is or what she's doing or who's she doing it with. We're scared and we filed a police report.

We kicked her out because we figured, why bother chasing after someone if they will always leave you anyway? So my question is this, were we wrong in doing that?

I hope she learns her lesson and I know she will eventually come home, but what if she doesnt?

Answer 1

Something should have been done long ago.The best thing to do is when she contacts you again to let her know when she can abide by the rules she can come back.If she isnt too close to 18 you might want to send her to a boot camp/

Answer 2

I was like her I ran away a lot of times as a young teenager and you are not her mom or her dad you are her sister. There may be things you don't know about and I had someone like you in my family and I hated that. Let your parents deal with the situation and meanwhile you just pray that your sister is okay. And also technically if you kicked her out she didn't run away. I hate when people always say someone ran away, if they got kicked out they we rent wanted so why would she come home after that I wouldn't.

Answer 3

Well I would say that ther is 2 sides to this story. Yall did wut u had to do because u wanted her to learn a lesson. BNut u also have to think about the consequences of ur actions before u act upon them. Did u all even think of the reason y maybe she wanted to leave may be she was not getting the affection that she needed at home maybe she juss wanted to be loved I dont live there so I dont know but ppl dont juss up and run away 4 no reason there is always a reason so maybe u ahould think about that. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I would say send her to a group home. It was wrong of you to kick out a 17 yr old girl especially with all the horrible men out there whos knows what could happen to that poor girl.Kicking her out doesnt solve the problem, its just avoiding the problem. Any good parent knows how to deal with their child and if not then they shouldnt be partents if there just gonna through them away if they dont like them

Answer 5

sometimes in life the right thing for us isnt the right thing for them. so I say you let her be, if you ask her to come back then she will be upset and it will only make her want to run away. heres weird question. why would you kick her out bit then want her back and be worried about her. you wanted her out , you got what you want and now you are worried about her. i dont get it??? anyway leave her alone and let her do what she wants, she wont learn anything if you are constantly on her back. whats the big deal, she is 17 , she will be 18 soon and u wont have to wrry about anything . good luck.

Answer 6

Wow..so hard. I've run into alot of rotten teenagers and I don't necessarily think you did wrong. One kid can very easily poison the whole household and sometimes you have to get rid of the poison to protect the rest. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but you've got be ready to live with it either way.

Good luck...be strong.

Answer 7

You are not her parent - why do you keep acting like you are? Perhaps you could try keeping out of it and letting your parents handle the situation.

Answer 8

I'd take over her room

Answer 9

who's we? i thought you were her sister not her mother. let your parents handle it.