Ok I am wondering if 50.00 a week is reasonable to charge someone for living with me?

Question

My boyfriends mother is living with us. She is suppose to be looking for a job and her own place to live but isn't looking to hard. She she sits her her pjs most of the day and does nothing. I was thinking of charging her 200.00 a month for staying with us. He wants to charge her 100.00. I think 50.00 a week isn't to high. She eats like 4 times a day! My bills are going up with her here. Not only the food bill but my electric, water, ect. The tv down there has been on since she got here on the 14th. She lives off of disability when I personally think she is able to get a real job like the rest of us to support herself. So is 50.00 to much to ask from her?

Believe me I really do want to tell her to get the hell out but it is the grandmother of my children and my boyfriends mother. WE have had alot of fights about this already

No I think I have been making it pretty clear that she has to hurry up and get out. I can't take it anymore. I think I am going nuts. She is something else let me tell ya. She lies about everything. And she really has no clue what it cost to run a home. She has always lived off the state collecting food stamps and whatever else she could get her hands on. She has been doing this since my boyfriend was born so 28 years now. That just makes me sick! I don't feel a bit sorry for her. How can a 50 year old be such a loser. No home, no car, no nothing.

I have been looking for a low income house for her.

She hasn't paid for anything since she has been here. Everything has came out of my pocket. So anything extra I have to pay for is taking from my children.

Answer 1

Put her on a timetable. Tell her that costs are going up because of her living there that she should contribute 100 for two or three months while she's looking for a job. Tell her that 100 doesn't cover the cost of her living there but because she is family you want to help her.

Put her on notice that you can only afford this charity for a few months and that she'll have to start paying 200 a month at that point.

I'd even go as far as a third of the monthly household expenses. Letting her live there too cheaply is no incentive for her to leave.

If you don't lay down some rules then your enabling her bad habits. You're trying to help but what really happens is she gets comfortable in her bad habits. You're first responsibility is not to her. It's to your immediate family.

Answer 2

I'd say $50 is reasonable. One person can EASILY eat $50 worth of groceries a week and runs up more than that in bills while sitting around doing nothing. This is coming from someone who grew up living in a home with a mother and sister, and whose brother, wife and three kids lived with us off and on for years. They paid nothing and the rest of us did without things we needed to scrape by.

Maybe the $50 a week would help her get motivated into getting out. She can probably get government housing for cheaper than that. If not $50 a week, then she should chip in for at least a part of the groceries, or pay a couple of bills.

Stick to your guns!

Answer 3

Your kids, boyfriend and you are priority charge her a 100 a month and assign her a bill that she has to pay for, she give you the money you pay it, so you can make sure it gets paid. Get your boyfriend to back you up by giving her a deadline of when to move out, and stick by it, if not on that day, pack her things, Im sure she qualifies for assisted living also if you cant get a low income apt/home for her that would prob be better for her. This situation is adding probs to you and your life. If she were ill id say let her stay but she isnt so shes gotta go

Answer 4

I would figure out just how much more the bills and utilities are with her there and charge her that amount. So if it costs 100 more a month with her there charge that. If she is a real pain in the butt, charge a little extra for the aggravation, but you would need to deduct some if she provides any baby sitting services. I know what you are gong through. We have had half of my husbands family living with us at some point (one at a time, not all at once). We've become the half way house for them to get back on their feet after they screw themselves up. None of them ever paid us rent. It's hard to deal with other people living in your space, even if they are cooperative. Try to be patient, take a deep breath and try to forget it. I understand you are frustrated, but you also have to realize it's his mom, for that reason alone you need to deal with this with more patience than you would with anyone else. Don't bicker with him about it. Try to imagine how you would feel if it was your mom and you felt like he was attacking her.

Answer 5

Parasites. I despise them. We could swap stories about parasites...

Her rent should be 1/3 of ALL the bills. That includes the apartment, electric, water, cable, gas. Not a cent less. Plus, get her a small refrigerator for her room and that's where she keeps her food. Put in a set of shelves for her laundry, toiletries and other non-edible supplies. Your food and supplies are off limits to her. If you have to, put locks on doors. Disconnect the land line and get cell phones that you do not share with her.

Why hasn't boyfriend paid for his mother?

OK it's time for a frank discussion with your BF about finances.

Show him the past year's worth of bills and how Mom's arrival has impacted them. Then it's time for Mom to either pony up the money or get out of the house.

OR - better yet, go talk to a lawyer to make sure of your rights as unmarried parents of children etc. Then YOU and kids find your own place.

Love has nothing to do with this - it's your life that is slipping away because of these Parasites.

Make a plan. Don't tell BF. Just make a plan, get things in order and move out. No drama. No threats. No nothing. Just make a plan and get out. You're worth more than this loser and his parasitic mother.

Oh your names are on the lease? Well, leases were made to be broken. Talk with your landlord about this.

Answer 6

You must really love your boyfriend.
Fighting, arguing, disagreeing....they are all out the door....she has planted herself in your home.

I would try to find her a new place and fast.....before she roots herself.

If she was helping out and paying for groceries I would say>> it isn't fair to charge her because she is family.

However because she is getting some income and eating as much as you say she does and doing nothing to help.
Yes, I would think $50.00 a week should be okay,
I would also call social services and see about getting her, her own place.

best wishes

Answer 7

Thats more than fair but keep in mind that it's probably going to cause a problem between the three of you. You really have to decide for yourself how much that aggravation is going to cost you.

Answer 8

i think its reasonable for you to charge this to her. people need for pay for the utilities they use and the contribute to the household. im sure your electric and gas is higher with her there so to ask for 200 a month is fair. shes not elderly so theres no reason she cant contribute to ahousehold where people are helping her out as well.

Answer 9

No it's not. Personally I would charge her a hell of alot more and tell her pay up or get out.

Answer 10

I think 200.00 is extremely reasonable. I would charge more. Figure your household bills / 2 adults and charge her that much. She is another adult adding bills to everything.