does anyone here have children with a big age gap?

Question

Hiya everyone,
i have the 2 girls at the moment, my eldest is nearly 2, so the age gap between them is quite small.
We had originally thought about ttc later on this year for a third little one, but we are kinda going off by the idea, i personally could fall pregnant again in a heartbeat cause i loved carrying our girls, but we are wanting them just to have time together rather than another little one coming along so soon.

what would be a better age gap do you all think to have between my girls and the third little one? i would like it so, they would realise what is going on, (like with the pregnancy) but i would not want to much of an age gap.

i hope this message is clear enough, i will add on details if need be.

thanks for any genuine answers xx

Answer 1

Speaking from experience, I would have the baby sooner so that she or he could be a part of the growing up process with the other two. The first two might form a bond between them and leave the third on out. I have two brothers and three sisters. They are much older than me. I didn't grow up with them and they are all close to each other. I am accepted, but don't share the same bond that they do with each other. It takes a great deal of love to help your first two children appreciate the third child. Make them a part of the experience of your pregnancy. Maybe they can help pick out the new-born's clothes or some other way. The third child born later almost becomes an only child. You might have more money for him or her by that time in your finances. This could cause jealousy. If there is plenty of love to go around, whatever you decide to do will work.

Answer 2

I have 3 older boys and they are 2 years a part and then I waited 6 years and had another son. I wish I had kept them all 2 years a part. I think 2-3 year gap is perfect because they are still spaced a part but close enough in age to WANT to deal with each other. THis year my boys will be 19, 17, 15, and 9.

Answer 3

I have no children myself. My brother is 11 years younger than me. My husband has a brother that is nearly 20 years older then him. That is a big age gap. Some people say have them close together and get rid of the nappies at once and others decides to wait a while before having anymore. If they are close together school uniforms and books can be passed on. They can become good friends with each others company and when they get older they can go places together.

Answer 4

I have 2 girls 12 and 10 who get on very well and then two boys 4 and 15months who also play well together. I would suggest either the five or six year gap as it makes everything easier and my 4 year old is a very easy going confident little chap who is a joy! Good Luck in whatever you choose, mine was not through choice tho, I had a couple of miscarriages in between youngest girl and oldest boy but maybe nature knows what she is doing. Er number four wasn't planned either but it does equal out my older and younger family!

Answer 5

I haven't any infants, yet my mom does have teenagers with age gaps. i'm 19, I actually have a fifteen twelve months old brother, a 6 twelve months old brother and a 2 twelve months old brotherwith 2 fathers between the 4 human beings. as far as to your daughter is going, i think of she would have the ability to welcome having a youthful sibling. Im particularly valuable the age the wellbeing care expert instructed my mom to attempt for replaced into until now she became 40 as far as actual stress is going. additionally he pronounced the possibility of unfavorable aspects to your toddler very much will develop around that age. My brothers and that i additionally help shield the extra youthful 2 so mom could have some on my own time now and lower back. i desire this enables :)

Answer 6

i have a four year old son and am 32 weeks pregnant with my 2nd. i find a four year gap good mainly for financial reasons. my son started school so i only have one lot of nursery fees to pay when i go back to work. i am 26 one brother is 27 and the other is 29. my mum had a lot of work cut out for her all of us being so young. we argued and squabled but we are so close now which is the main thing. my mum then went on to have my sister when i was 17 and my dad and step mum have my other sister who is 7 and my little brother who is 4 (6 weeks younger than my own son!) i dont see the 7 and 4 year old very often and do not feel as close to them as i do with my 9 yr old sister but i did live witht he 9yr old from birth til she was 4 so had more of a bond. everyone is different and it all depends on what you can cope with emotionally and finacially. i am happy with a 4 yr gap as he is independant and does not take much looking after and is really involved with the pregnancy which is really good. i will wait until the unborn child is four until my next one too.

Answer 7

Well I only have one child, however there is a 12 year old gap between me and my brother. He is 40 and I am 28, I like the fact he's that bit older. My sister is 4 years younger than me. I remember when she was born and the first time I held her in the hosp. We are closer than my brother. I think 4-6 years is a nice gap.

Answer 8

I have three kids and they are all 2yrs apart. Their childhood days were super they were each others best friends and still are to this very day. Now you be careful of your intentions for they can be cute as hell when they are babies but not all kids are the same, mines were nice but what I'm trying to say is that once they reach the nagging age you are the one who will be frustrated. Your eldest can bring the bottle for you when your second is screaming at the top of her lungs.And maybe just help you in stressful situations but there will be times when she too will get frustrated and say no and you will get mad. Now the bible tells me to train a child in the way that he/she will grow....in the Lord. So you can go ahead and accomplish your wish but train them from babies so it would not be hard on you, hubby nor the kids. Good Luck and Happy Parenting.

Answer 9

My sister and I are 12 years apart. She was a suprise, but a blessing. younger brothers and i are 2 and 5 years apart. It's kind of up to you. I'd say that you can wait 1-3 years, and the age gap won't be that big of a deal. That way they can be little together. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

i have a six, almost seven year old and a nine month old. i really think there are some benefits to an age gap. i think when you have two both very young your attention is divided and you don't get to fully apprectiate and dote on all the developmenatl firsts of each. and honestly, having babies wears me out! i still don't always get a full nights sleep with the baby, so it was nice to have a break in between. and my older one helps out so much. she'll carry the diaper bag when my hands are full, grab a diaper, play with the baby while i load the dishwasher... it's really nice. and the best part is, one will be out of college before the other one starts. only one tuition bill at a time for me please!