Okay, I'm 15, and in February, I ended up going to the tattoo parlor with my mom and getting a tattoo. The tattoo is on my upper back (shoulder) and is of a heart, with a ribbon around it with the words "I love you" on it. I got it 'cause I know my parents won't be around forever, and it symbolizes my love for them. My dad doesn't know, though. He totally despises tattoos. When my older sister got hers of her SONS NAME, he freaked.
He told me to bring a bathing suit to his house on Father's Day Weekend 'cause we're going to go swimming. I was planning on telling him I forgot my bathing suit and didn't want to swim anyways? This obviously isn't the right thing to do..
So what SHOULD I do? I guess I'm just scared of his disowning me for showing my love for him.
Thanks!
- Meg
2007-05-30 11:45:06 · 12 answers · asked by Meg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well this is a hard one..since his opinions are that strongly on tattos thats going to be hard telling him. But my advice on how telling him would be like telling him you got it for a symbol of you and mom because i love you guys and you mean the world to me so when the time comes when you wont be with me i would like to look at something to always think of you and have something where i feel like your with my evreywhere i go. Just kinda kissy up and tell him. And like mention that you woulda told him sooner but you were afraid that he would disown you. Hopethat helps...Good Luck!!!
2007-05-30 11:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meg,
First, you and your mother should have thought about what your dad would think before you got the tattoo, and consulted him before you got it. Otherwise, knowing he wouldn't approve, you should have waited three years until you are 18. Since the mistake has already been made, the best bet is honesty. You and your mother are both at fault here, your mother definately knew better than to sign off on her daughter getting a tattoo when your father wouldn't approve. Since you said your are going to your dad's house for father's day, I am guessing that your parents are divorsed or not together. Time for you to learn a life lesson here dear, your mom let you get the tattoo, just to upset your dad. While the tattoo may have been your idea, she used you to get at your father. You now need to step up to the plate and face the music. What you did was wrong, and your dad will have every right to be upset with you. However, if your father does love you, he will look past the tattoo and love you regardless. Just be upfront and honest with him.
2007-05-30 18:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you loved him you wouldnt have done something he disapproves of. Just because you wrote "I love You" doesnt make it any better. He is not going to disown you but he will probably be very dissappointed. Since you already know he doesnt like it but you did it anyway. I think 15 is too young to get a tattoo. What if when you are an adult you have a formal dinner and you have to dress in formal attire your tattoo will show and that not very formal or elegant
2007-05-30 18:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do is to tell him and let him know what the tattoo symbolizes. He may freak, but if he finds out through someone else or he sees it when you are not on guard, he will freak even more.
He will get over it. I do not like the fact that my children and step-children have tattoos, but what is done is done and I love them. I am just old-fashioned.
Tell him...
2007-05-30 18:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - I'm pretty upset with your mom for putting you in that position - she knows how your dad feels about things like that - it is almost like she is using you as a "screw you, I control the kids" messageboard to him. Divorced parents shouldconsult each other over things like that.
He isn't going to disown you over a tattoo, he didn't disown your sister and in fact, he will probably be less hard on you since he's been through it already.
Remind him if he yells at you that your mom said yes, and that she is the one he should be yelling at.
2007-05-30 18:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what was going through your mind when you decided to get it. Tell him that all though it does not make it any better, you got the tatoo because you love both of your parents and only a life-long commitment, such as a tatoo, can accurately represent that.
2007-05-30 18:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother allowed you to get a tattoo at 15!?! Man that is tacky. That is down right trashy.
If your grown enough for a tattoo, you should be grown enough to show it off. I got a tattoo at 20 when I was in the Navy. (dragon on my left shoulder blade) While on leave I went shopping with my mother for a sun dress. She saw my tattoo, and said she didn't like tattoos. I told her that is was good thing that it was on my body then instead of hers, and then I bought the dress.
2007-05-30 19:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your dad probably already knows.
Your mum probably told him already.
Chances are he wont notice.
Or just wear a shirt to cover it.
Or foundation? Just be careful.
2014-12-02 16:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ashleigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should derinitly tell him b4 the weekend you go to his house so he has time to settle down for fathers day and make sure you tell him why you got the tatoo
2007-05-30 18:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by froggyreba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were mature enough to get a tattoo then you are mature enough to tell your father.
2007-05-30 19:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Earl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋