Family - March 2007

There is such a stigma about mental disorders. People make fun of me and critcize me for the prescriptions I have to take. I was told by an aunt, to straighten up my act and get off of those pills. I know it's real and the medications do make a big difference. I see a therapist and she helps me some but I'm not satisfied with her answer about how to handle people who give me such a hard time about it. If the truth be told, some of my family could benefit from the medications I have to take themselves. Family treat me like I'm crazy and talk about me behind my back. I'm not paranoid about this, I know this for a fact because I have over heard some of their comments when they thought I wasn't in ear shot. I don't like my situation and I wish I wasn't this way. My question is, how do I handle these people?

2007-03-05 04:40:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my mom go on and off of 'close realtions'. Usually when somethin happens to me, like my bf leaves me, we talk and talk and talk, but when I do something and I don't want to talle her, I can't. She's always telling me that I can tell her anything but I don't know if I can. Plus, I was dating a guy for about 6 months. We'd ben on and off those months. Everytime something would happen between me and him, my mom would talk to me, if nothing was wrong, she wouldn't care. Can I really tell her anything?

2007-03-05 04:34:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

By the way, he is like a brother to you. and all this is happening in your parents house.

2007-03-05 04:31:11 · 7 answers · asked by shocker 1

My brother is 16 years old. I'm 15. I'm like his journal. He tells me anything and everything. He's been telling me about a lot of bad stuff that he's been doing, then lying to our mom about it. Plus he beat a kid up cause he said something bad about me. I don't want my brother to be taken away, but I also can't live with the lies in my mind. I don't know if I should tell my mom, the cops, or what. If you have any advice, please leave it. If not, don't waste my time with stupid answers please.

2007-03-05 04:24:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

She and I are not speaking. I was the last one to know that she was getting married. She lied to me about dating, she made excuses when I would ask her to come over to visit. After she met this guy, she became very distant. I want her to understand how I feel, but she is oblivious to everything. This guy is running her life. I actually went to her house to visit and realized that my children's and my pictures have been taken down. I was very upset. I have not talked to her for 4 months now. I recently asked her to go to counseling with me and her response was..."I do not need counseling, but you surely do!" I am very bitter. Should I let it go and accept the way she is. Or should I let it go and not talk to her at all.

2007-03-05 04:04:57 · 20 answers · asked by ProudMama 2

They are! My daughter is just such a caring two year old. She understands people so well. I love to hear her say "Oh mommy you make me so happy when I laugh."

My oldest I am just so proud of how he understands children and whats going to aid in their developement.
My second son is a peacemaker. He asks me so many questions about the world and doesnt forget much.
My third son is my silly one. He can get you too laugh when you were angry.
My youngest son has such strong morals. I envy how he believes in things so strongly. He is very religious and I love it when he says a prayer for me. I am so fortunate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-03-05 03:32:58 · 12 answers · asked by rybo510 4

its a big deal their mother won't let my boyfriend see his kids cause of me we have been together for 1 year

2007-03-05 03:32:25 · 14 answers · asked by giliani g 1

He works as an RA which pays for his dorm fee, but we pay his tuition and have been giving him $100 per month for spending money. He never says "thank you" and so in January, I told him that his father would be transferring the money. Of course he forgot and our 19 year old didn't ask for it so he didn't get it in Feb. Now it's March and his father forgot again, I have e-mailed our son and told him (twice) that he needs to remind his Dad if he wants his allowance, and if he doesn't remind him by the 5th of the month, he will forfeit his allowance for the month. I just don't want him coming to me 5 months from now asking for $500 in back-allowance. Am I being too harsh? Is this unfair?

2007-03-05 03:17:41 · 8 answers · asked by pacshore 2

2007-03-05 03:17:18 · 18 answers · asked by Seth R 2

All i know was his name......DONNALD LEE RUSH III......

2007-03-05 03:10:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 03:10:21 · 15 answers · asked by RBethel 1

I know a 17-year-old guy who has a stressful situation at home. In the past couple of days he has sort of "blacked out" a couple of times. It's not like passing out. It is when he gets real emotional, then when he sits down or lays down, he just sort of seems zonked like he can't wake up for a few minutes. When someone tries to wake him up, its hard for him to get back awake. Is this even considered a "black out" or is it just sort of mentally shutting down?

Situation at his home is that his mom (single) has started a relationship with a man and is allowing the man to stay over to have sex with her 3-4 times a week. The house is small and the teenager is having to deal with "noise" and other inappropriate things. Also the mom is allowing the man to use her son's personal items like his razor, soap, etc. She tells her son to just "deal with it". Well, he's not "dealing with it" very well. If she finds out he talks to a counselor she will probably punish him. Any suggestions?

2007-03-05 03:06:10 · 4 answers · asked by TPhi 5

he has kept me asecret from his family, ilost contact with him 5 years ago, now he is dening he is my farther.
i have my own family now and need to prove he IS my farther.
how do you make somone have atest?

2007-03-05 02:47:12 · 8 answers · asked by chancox4 1

My sister, Heather, passed away in July. She was 33 and fought brain cancer for 5 years. This week my cousin and his wife had a baby girl. They called my parents and asked if they could name her after my sister. My parents were thrilled and said yes. I found out and am hurt. I had thought that if and when I have a baby girl I want to name her Heather in honor of my sister. I explained this to my mom and asked her if they could use my sisters' name for a middle name instead. She said I was being selfish, it was their decision, I don't have any say in this matter and what if I never have a daughter! Needless to say I am shocked at my parents reaction. I have never felt so betrayed in my life. They taught us to be kind and loving to each other and now they don't want me to feel anything but happy and honored about their choice. Am I wrong to feel this way or be upset at their reaction to my feelings? Please help my sisters' birthday is this wednesday and we are getting together.

2007-03-05 02:44:21 · 20 answers · asked by eco_fanatic 2

Im 15 and really want to be an actor. I've been thinking about asking my parents for us to move to L.A as it has many oppertunities. I would look for acting, my twin sister would look for music and my younger sister would look for dancing. My dad is giving up his work in about 7 days and my mum works from home. This is a good situation as my dad can find some work in LA and my mum can set her business out there.

I just dont know how to approach my parents on asking them to maybe think about moving there.

So we are kind of in a good situation to move there as my 2 sisters even said they would to pursue their careers. Also my dad has sold his shop for £65,000 and if we sold our house here in England we could use the money to move there.

So yeah can anyone give me any ideas on how i can ask them?

Thanks!

2007-03-05 02:42:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know I am going to have to move in a few years(expecting second child of opposite sex and live in a 2 bed)but I can't get my head round the fact I'm going to have to leave this house that I love so much, and my garden, and the area is so beautiful, but I won't be able to get another house in this area.
When you think of your future, do you think of moving as a positive thing?

2007-03-05 02:41:57 · 39 answers · asked by cigaro19 5

I grew up in a family with both parents and one younger brother. Mother has always been strict and in control of the household. My father just played the part.
I was never good enough for her, she told us how scum we were (my brother and I) and threatened us. We had cops visit us when we were younger and had sessions with the psychologist but to no success. She always favored my brother, giving him the world, brand new car, everything he asked for. While, I worked for everything that I have now. We haven't spoken in 2 years while I was living at home with my parents. Now, we're ALL split up. My brother is living elsewhere, my father moved to the basement. I'm 26 and I moved out without a word and now live with my boyfriend. She sent me a beautiful b-day present to my job with a card attached asking for forgiveness and how much she regrets how she treated me. She knows that she hasn't given me any love that I deserved. It brought tears to my eyes.

2007-03-05 02:35:10 · 9 answers · asked by Jenna S 2

2007-03-05 02:29:10 · 2 answers · asked by skye m 1

why do they make soo much noise at night and don't think im stupid i know what they're doing

2007-03-05 02:14:11 · 19 answers · asked by jayh.ishotshit 1

yes i do have someone and we've being together for a while and his family knows and acceps me thats why i wanna tell them but i dunno how

2007-03-05 02:10:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

A couple of people I know have noticed that dads can be a playmate, then just say- OK, time to leave, time to do HW, or, don't ever talk to your brother like htat again, and the kids will mostly listen.
However, once the mom becomes a playmate, it is tougher to just draw that line and become the authority figure.
Any comments?

2007-03-05 01:57:29 · 6 answers · asked by starryeyed 6

..and stuff, and I guess been 15 I quite enjoyed it, then she kicked me out of home at 16 and kept my daughter, saying she wouldn't have her grandchild in a hostel. I am now 19, in a stable relationship with my boyf of a year and a half and we have our own house as he is quite well off. Very begrudgingly my Mum let me have my daughter, who is now 4, because both her and my Dad are in ill health, their house is a disgusting tip and they kept having Social Services round, my daughter wasn't getting bathed, getting dressed or anything, they were still feeding her like a baby!
I am now 8 weeks pregnant and my Mother reckons she will have my daughter back in September because I won't be able to cope, when I understand that it will be hard, but my 4 year old will be at school and my boyf only works Mon-Fri 9 until 5. My daughter is now happy, clean and feeding herself, but doesn't understand why Mummy isn't so keen to let her spend time with her Nanny......am I right to be worried?

2007-03-05 01:53:04 · 14 answers · asked by Little Bear 5

who has made up their own lulabye ours is for our daughter
Abigail
A is for adorable
B is cause yr beautiful
I is irisistable
and G is cause yr georgeous
I said A is for adorable
and I is iresistable
and L because we l l l love u !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-03-05 01:51:16 · 8 answers · asked by K W 3

k...heres the deal...my father took off when i was a baby..we always knew he was in florida, and now that my mom is all over the news "magically" he comes out of the woodwork to talk to the papers(article below)... then he can't even admit that he's my father...i have struggled with abandanment and everything else due to him, and thought that i had done well in therapy, but now i am completely unraveling...due to the fact that my mom is all over the news, i absolutly cannot contact the newspaper, not that i even think those vultures would help me...i know that theres public records and all that, that i can look into, but i dont even know where to begin...please help me, i feel like i'm crumbling to pieces with whats going on with my mom, and now that my dad is back on my mind, i need to find him. thanks in advance.
'S&M' MARRIAGE FROM HELL
'DOMINATRIX'S' EX ADMITS HE WAS ABUSIVE DRUNK
By JENNIFER FERMINO and LORENA MONGELLI
BUSINESS IN A BIND: Sandra Chemero (above) ran an S&M brothel in this Bedford mansion, cops say. Her ex says she wasn't into kinky stuff during their marriage.
March 5, 2007 -- Years before she allegedly began using whips and chains on eager clients of her S&M business, kinky Westchester mansion mistress Sandra Chemero endured the real thing in five stormy years of wedlock, her ex-husband admitted yesterday.

Christopher Chemero, 52, owned up to being "somewhat abusive" during their marriage, which lasted from 1979 to 1984.

He was nonetheless shocked to learn of his ex's arrest on a prostitution charge and her efforts to earn a living off S&M sex games, which, he insisted, played no role in their marriage.

"I wasn't into that . . I'm really surprised to hear that about Sandy," Christopher Chemero told The Post at his home in Daytona Beach, Fla.

The marriage was the first for both. Sandra was 18 and Christopher was 24.

Christopher, who is now single, said he was an alcohol abuser when he wed, although she "wasn't much of a drinker."

He said he gave up drinking long ago.

He said he hasn't heard from his ex in more than 20 years and, "I really don't know what's going on in her life."

"It was a vicious breakup," Christopher said.

Although divorce records say the couple had two children, "I'm not sure one of them is mine," he said.

"I could never say for sure if she cheated on me."

Christopher Chemero said he lives off disability payments, and is waiting for heart bypass surgery.

"The men in my family don't live very long," he said.

Meanwhile, Bedford cops pressed ahead with their investigation yesterday as a woman who used Sandra Chemero's rented house as a place to sell makeup and clothing to cross-dressing men said the accused madam had a female partner in the S&M business several months ago.

After an argument with Sandra, the other woman moved out of the house in September, the makeup artist said.

Asked if a second woman was involved, Bedford Police Lt. Robert Mazurak replied: "I'm not going to say no, but I don't want to mislead you . . . It's under investigation."

Sandra Chemero, 46, is the only person charged thus far, and police have said that they believed she was working alone.

The makeup artist also said she believed Sandra had a boyfriend from Manhattan who worked on Wall Street. But that could not be immediately confirmed.

A number of Westchester County men are named in Sandra Chemero's records, Mazurak said.

"We are continuing to investigate. Where it's going to end, I don't know," he said.

Sandra Chemero, who is free on bail, was nowhere to be found yesterday.

She's due in Bedford town court next week to answer misdemeanor charges of prostitution and possession of a stun gun.

The rabbinical school that owns the $3 million home has evicted Sandra under a clause in her lease barring illegal activity.

Her Web site advertised the "century-old stately manner" as "The Sovereign Estate," describing it as a "female-led household, headed by an elegant, attractive dominant woman."

Additional reporting by Patrick White and Bill Sanderson

jennifer.fermino@nypost.com

2007-03-05 01:42:03 · 3 answers · asked by stephaniech24 3

I am just wondering what questions you wish you could ask your parent/grandparent/close family member if they are no longer with you? What do you wish you had asked them while they were still alive?

2007-03-05 01:38:59 · 21 answers · asked by EventNewYork 3

He treats his kids with love and respect but he treats me like trash.
He tells me to do everything when he could easily do it himself.
My mother does everything he says so i'm on my own. i'm only a teenager and shouldn't be going through this stress.

2007-03-05 01:35:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok - quick and dirty details . . married 5 years, with husband for total of 13 years - never had a problem with Mother in law until I had children. We have two. She just seems like she doesn't care about them. (she has 7 other grandchildren) But she never calls them to see how they are doing, never does anything special for them, when she does call us, she doesn't even ask about the kids. When she is around them, it's not like she's the grandmother, it's more like a casual acquaintance stopped by. She has never in four years, watched my children.
She is in the process of taking each grandchild out to dinner in their birthday month. My son turned 1 in December..she wants to take him out. Fine, I suggested they come and pick him up and take him some place simple. He is a very easy child. She told my husband that she didn't want to take him out alone, that he wasn't ready. So, now we all have to go ! Should I go ? Or just send my husband and children ?

2007-03-05 01:32:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-05 01:31:28 · 11 answers · asked by K W 3

My daughter turned 18 years old last week (a big deal she's now an adult). I had planned a birthday party for her with both my husband's and my family. My husband's family came,but no one from my side came! Even my sister who lives just across the street had plans for supper that night but was supposed to come over later for cake, she never did and yesterday when I told her how disappointed I was she told me I was acting like a brat.

When my husband and I celebrated 25 years together, it was never mentioned by anyone, and now they're doing it to my daughter.

They claim, I never visit them, I stopped cause I realized that I was always the one visiting and no one ever came to my house. I have to drive over 1h30 to visit my mother and 2 h00 to visit one my sisters. My younger sister goes to my sister's house across the street and unless I go over, she doesn't come over.

I am wrong to feel sad and hurt about this or I am being a ***** like my sister says?

2007-03-05 01:26:33 · 8 answers · asked by natdufour4030 2

Five years ago when I lived at home and Mum would call up to my bedroom, "Dinner's ready" it would take me about 15 minutes to stop fartin' about with a game or whatever. Now in my own flat, if I heard Mum call "Dinner's ready", I'd be there in a nansecond. Sometimes you don't know you're born.

2007-03-05 01:21:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous