My daughter turned 18 years old last week (a big deal she's now an adult). I had planned a birthday party for her with both my husband's and my family. My husband's family came,but no one from my side came! Even my sister who lives just across the street had plans for supper that night but was supposed to come over later for cake, she never did and yesterday when I told her how disappointed I was she told me I was acting like a brat.
When my husband and I celebrated 25 years together, it was never mentioned by anyone, and now they're doing it to my daughter.
They claim, I never visit them, I stopped cause I realized that I was always the one visiting and no one ever came to my house. I have to drive over 1h30 to visit my mother and 2 h00 to visit one my sisters. My younger sister goes to my sister's house across the street and unless I go over, she doesn't come over.
I am wrong to feel sad and hurt about this or I am being a ***** like my sister says?
2007-03-05 01:26:33 · 8 answers · asked by natdufour4030 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you are beating yourself up over this....if you know you did nothing to deserve the treatment then stop wondering if you did. I think what I would do is contact the whole family and find out what the problem is, I would hold a family meeting and ensure everyone would make it...then put it out there....ask what their problem is and why they are treating you and your family that way. If you don't get any responses, or if they all look at each other in awe...then let them know how their actions are hurting you and that it is not appreciated. All in all just get it out there. Good luck to you no matter how you choose to handle this.
2007-03-05 01:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family relationships are not one sided! You are not a brat and you have no obligation to visit them without the courtesy of a return visit at least once in a while.
If they have something against you, I see no reason why they should take it out on your daughter, nevertheless, I would suggest you don't visit them any more. I am sure you are not starving for their company or approval. Once you stop they may see their mistake and make amends.
2007-03-05 01:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do is ask your self why your sister and family are doing this to you has to be something that you did because it's ok if you say it my sister but you are saying that it's not the first time and it not only her it's your whole family maybe it's not you it's your husband , I think you should ask your self and if you don't find the answer in your inside ask them go to your mam house try to get all of them and remember prepare your self to headr the true don't get mad lisen and learnd who are are you or who is your family from there it's how you are going to make your desition about who is the brat.
2007-03-05 01:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Queengata 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that they didn't show up and the way you treat your family. That is wrong of your sister to call you a ***** about it. Is that normal talk amongst you? On the bright side it sounds like you inherited a wonderful family when you married your husband. Spend your time and energy with them and create memories. It will be your family's loss that they were not apart of it.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got not seen everyone gravitate to the kitchen or eating room because of fact the 1970's yet in spite of the actuality that it must be in simple terms the way I stay or it must be in simple terms that good sized households do this, or maybe in simple terms up north does that. I actual have stumbled on it incredibly demanding that over the final 25 years a minimum of that as quickly as you grant somebody a comfortable drink or cookies or pie or a small meal or something out of courtesy they proceed to refuse because of fact of the two some weight loss plan they're on or because of fact they don't do goodies or they're vegetarian or regardless of. this is been a real soreness...etiquette is lost.
2016-10-17 07:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by troesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be upset, they coud have called and let you know. It wasn't just you that was affected it was your daughter also. I hope things get better for you, but in the mean time ignore what your sister said, it is hurtful but not worth dwelling on.
2007-03-05 01:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by tammiekae2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are wrong. Whatever their problem with you is they should be ashamed of themselves hurting your daughter. I have a bigger problem with Grandma than the Aunts, where was she and what lame excuse did she give you???? I say don't bother with them any more and invite the people who care to come like your in-laws.
2007-03-05 01:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they couldn't come, they should have called... You have every right to be upset.
2007-03-05 01:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋