Family - March 2007

I have a son from a previous marriage and my husband (Bob) is one of 2 children (he is adopted). My in-laws have never really considered my son as a grandchild and a nephew even though my son considers my husband his Dad, and we have been married for 6 years now. Bob feels obligated to them for raising him and he does love them, but I can’t stand how they treat us both. We went on a family vacation once and they treated me like a slave. Needless to say, we are never going on vacation with them again. They have never acknowledged my son’s birthday, and even left him out of the family photo board at my father-in-law’s birthday celebration. The brother has twins now and they had many pictures on that board. They do not treat their children equally and my husband always gets the short end of the stick. My blood just boils every time I have to see them and really don’t even want to see them over Christmas. What would you do?

2007-03-05 07:06:21 · 12 answers · asked by pacshore 2

2007-03-05 06:56:17 · 6 answers · asked by rdr962000 1

I am a working mom and all of my friends are SAHMs. Every time that I get together with them, I feel totally inferior and jelous. Recently, one of them asked me the question "Why did you have kids? For you to raise them or to have someone else do it for you?" This totally hurt my feelings because I don't choose to work - I have to to be able to pay our bills (which are only house, 1 car and utilities - no xtras). I don't think that they realize that when I get up at 4 a.m. to go to work, drive for an hour to get there, work for 10 hours at a stressful job that I HATE, come home, rush to get things done around the house, get 20 minutes a day to spend with my daughter and then collapse in bed at 11:00 p.m. only to get up 4 hours later (baby wakes up at night so that takes away from sleep) that I too am exauhsted, probably moreso than they are, and that I feel guilty enough about not being able to be home with my daughter without them constantly reminding me about it. What do u think

2007-03-05 06:53:12 · 20 answers · asked by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5

My brother is about the same size as me....he's 2 years older... I don't understand....why I never had a chance to beat him....If you guys know the trick please tell me..... Sometimes I think it's just because....he's older...and I dare not really fight him....Most of the times maybe I'm just defending myself...but never really try to fight him back....Or maybe I'm a real looser........

2007-03-05 06:49:18 · 6 answers · asked by Gregory N 1

my dad does not give me respect and tries to control my life i want to do something before he ruins my life

2007-03-05 06:47:54 · 15 answers · asked by 1157 2

My father was in Jail for four years and then comes back into my life and wants to be a father figure. I feel as if I don't love my father because of all the things he's done so am I mean to say that? I live with my grandparents and he lives in our basement (he's my grandmother's son) and isn't working. So is this bad of me to say I have no feelings of love toward him?

2007-03-05 06:44:12 · 9 answers · asked by Brittany 2

My 17 year old daughter is dating a guy I don't care for. He has never been rude or disrespectful towards my family and he seems to treat her fine but there is something about him that rubs me the wrong way. He doesn't work or drive and she spends all of her money on him and burns up all of her gas driving him around. He hates to come here because they have no privacy so they spend all of their time at his house. I feel like we never see her anymore.

I asked her to please start spending some more time at home and bring him around more often but she doesn't care what we want. She's only interested in making him happy. If I force them to come here she's so miserable that nobody can stand to be around her.

I just recently stopped giving her money because I told her I wasn't going to help her out financially if she was going to put this family second. Is there something wrong here or am I just afraid of losing her?

2007-03-05 06:34:29 · 11 answers · asked by Lily 1

I live in minnesota and im from, and my family is in Ohio. for the past 5 years they have been comming up here to see me., there are 6 of us in my family and we have a chevey cavileer so we dont all fit. we cant afford to get a van, we despratly need one. nor can we afford to fly we cant take a bus because my two youngest are 2 and 3 so that would never work, Also we cant afford to take that much time off work. my oldest is 18 and drives but his car would never make the trip. I feel horrible that my family is angry at me. i would love to go home for a visit. if i went alone then they would be angry that I left my 4 children and husband at home. Am I wrong because if so, I dont see what i can do to change the situation?????

2007-03-05 06:29:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 30 yr old man.I stay in Calcutta,West Bengal.I am a ordinary science graduate & presently unemployed.My father is 80 yrs old & is a retired telecom employee.My mother is a housewife.I am from my childhood a shy introvert person & till date i have very few friends.I know that's strange but presently i have no friends.In my locality the local club controlled by CPI(M) party has mobilized everyone so that wherever i go out someone or the other is calling me a behen****,pagal(mad person) i dont know why...i have a sister who is married for last 10 yrs & till date has no children.
Now i depend on them bcz her husband had given me a salesjob in the company where he was GM.i worked there for 1 &1/2 yrs.But i left the job bcz i felt very insecure as they were harassing me when my brother-in-law joined a new company.They started saying slangs very dirty way in front of senior managers which they used to do even when my brother-in-law was there. Then i begged for a job in his new firm.He offered me a clerical job with 15k salary in mumbai.I went there but i found uncomfortable there bcz of high cost of living & other reasons & i came back.But again last month(6 mths after i came back)i went to sister's house again in mumbai after they offered me again the same job after much request.But agai i came back bcz i felt demoralized & insulted by the fact that i am so much dependent on my brother-in-law.Now b4 i went to mumbai,recently a girl's mother came with a marriageproposal to my mother.but bcz i am unemployed my parents refused to the proposal.Now i feel that they r planning to marry that girl to my sister's husband bcz he need a son.Also they are telling me to get out of their house & beg in the street.I dont know who to seek help from..plz someone help me

2007-03-05 06:26:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my little sister is 8 years old and has one of the worst tempers in the house excluding my dad and it is a family of 6 my brother is 17 i am 15 my sister is 9 and the other is 8 and she will freak out after you you say like 2 word and anytime you are being serious and tell her she really needs to calm down it just gets worse

please help she is only 8 and gets out of hand fast

2007-03-05 06:17:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

For me it was (blushing)... winky, or pee pee, boobies, and cracker. I don't think I need to tell you which means what!

2007-03-05 06:16:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

possibly in san diego or san bernadino counties in Ca., or Las Vegas

2007-03-05 06:13:59 · 5 answers · asked by Alphonso T 1

When I'm happy when everything seems is fine he always finds something negative to say. It saddens me a lot.

2007-03-05 06:13:58 · 5 answers · asked by sfangelsfangel 3

my fiance' was recently sentenced to six months in prison. his mother moved here to Minnesota from Alaska and was only here for a week and started asking me for money. i have been telling her that i do not have any extra money to give to her, so she told my fiance', her son that i am going to break up with him while he is prison. i have no intensions of doing this to him because i love him and his mother is causing these problems. so why do in-laws like to start trouble?

2007-03-05 06:12:06 · 6 answers · asked by cassie j 1

well about a month ago i woke up in the living room and my sister and her bf where having sex and my little brother was sleeping too but he did not wake up and he is only 12! she is 17 and he is 20 and in the navy and so i woke up and he jumped off her and pretended ha was sleeping oh! and my sister looks up at me and smiles!??? and anyways my parents are in the other room sleeping so i wait for them to get up and when my dad goes into the bathroom i tell my mom and she tells me she'll talk to her. and asks not to tell my dad and i said i wouldn't but i think he should know right? what should i do?.........do you think he is a good person for that or no?

2007-03-05 06:11:34 · 17 answers · asked by ginger 1

My ex left me 8 months pregnant. Moved to better our lives with a higher paying job..I was moving there with him..he called and broke up with me..saying that he is tired of my bullshit and drama..well he tells me this now..never said a word of it before..I'm emotional because of the pregnancy..I really love him, was together for almost a decade..got together very young. I don't think he knows what he wants. I'm seeing more stories like this everyday..He says he loves me but doesn't seem to want to make it work. He says there is no other woman...I don't want to give up..I can't wait to see my lil son and I hope that will open his eyes..maybe he is scared? He says he isn't..

2007-03-05 06:09:00 · 2 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2

oh my gosh my mother is so hard to buy for, she doesnt like flowers, jewelry, chocolate, perfume and she is over run with bath smelly's what on earth can i buy her!!??

2007-03-05 06:02:09 · 33 answers · asked by BscHons 6

Is it just me, or are they requiring more money nowadays aren't they?... From lunch money, to bus money, to movies.. what is everybody giving for allowance every week??
What's reasonable??

2007-03-05 05:50:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Web detectives...i found out what town my father is living in and i need to locate him...please help me!?
k...heres the deal...my father took off when i was a baby..we always knew he was in florida, and now that my mom is all over the news "magically" he comes out of the woodwork to talk to the papers(article below)... then he can't even admit that he's my father...i have struggled with abandanment and everything else due to him, and thought that i had done well in therapy, but now i am completely unraveling...due to the fact that my mom is all over the news, i absolutly cannot contact the newspaper, not that i even think those vultures would help me...i know that theres public records and all that, that i can look into, but i dont even know where to begin...please help me, i feel like i'm crumbling to pieces with whats going on with my mom, and now that my dad is back on my mind, i need to find him. thanks in advance.
'S&M' MARRIAGE FROM HELL
'DOMINATRIX'S' EX ADMITS HE WAS ABUSIVE DRUNK
By JENNIFER FERMINO and LORENA MONGELLI
BUSINESS IN A BIND: Sandra Chemero (above) ran an S&M brothel in this Bedford mansion, cops say. Her ex says she wasn't into kinky stuff during their marriage.
March 5, 2007 -- Years before she allegedly began using whips and chains on eager clients of her S&M business, kinky Westchester mansion mistress Sandra Chemero endured the real thing in five stormy years of wedlock, her ex-husband admitted yesterday.

Christopher Chemero, 52, owned up to being "somewhat abusive" during their marriage, which lasted from 1979 to 1984.

He was nonetheless shocked to learn of his ex's arrest on a prostitution charge and her efforts to earn a living off S&M sex games, which, he insisted, played no role in their marriage.

"I wasn't into that . . I'm really surprised to hear that about Sandy," Christopher Chemero told The Post at his home in Daytona Beach, Fla.

The marriage was the first for both. Sandra was 18 and Christopher was 24.

Christopher, who is now single, said he was an alcohol abuser when he wed, although she "wasn't much of a drinker."

He said he gave up drinking long ago.

He said he hasn't heard from his ex in more than 20 years and, "I really don't know what's going on in her life."

"It was a vicious breakup," Christopher said.

Although divorce records say the couple had two children, "I'm not sure one of them is mine," he said.

"I could never say for sure if she cheated on me."

Christopher Chemero said he lives off disability payments, and is waiting for heart bypass surgery.

"The men in my family don't live very long," he said.

Meanwhile, Bedford cops pressed ahead with their investigation yesterday as a woman who used Sandra Chemero's rented house as a place to sell makeup and clothing to cross-dressing men said the accused madam had a female partner in the S&M business several months ago.

After an argument with Sandra, the other woman moved out of the house in September, the makeup artist said.

Asked if a second woman was involved, Bedford Police Lt. Robert Mazurak replied: "I'm not going to say no, but I don't want to mislead you . . . It's under investigation."

Sandra Chemero, 46, is the only person charged thus far, and police have said that they believed she was working alone.

The makeup artist also said she believed Sandra had a boyfriend from Manhattan who worked on Wall Street. But that could not be immediately confirmed.

A number of Westchester County men are named in Sandra Chemero's records, Mazurak said.

"We are continuing to investigate. Where it's going to end, I don't know," he said.

Sandra Chemero, who is free on bail, was nowhere to be found yesterday.

She's due in Bedford town court next week to answer misdemeanor charges of prostitution and possession of a stun gun.

The rabbinical school that owns the $3 million home has evicted Sandra under a clause in her lease barring illegal activity.

Her Web site advertised the "century-old stately manner" as "The Sovereign Estate," describing it as a "female-led household, headed by an elegant, attractive dominant woman."

Additional reporting by Patrick White and Bill Sanderson

jennifer.fermino@nypost.com

2007-03-05 05:47:33 · 6 answers · asked by stephaniech24 3

Hes a good kid(man now 23) but getting him to do anything is like asking him to jump down a volcanoe for me .hes driving me mad at times.Love him to bits but wish hed hurry up n get married or something.LOLOLOL.

2007-03-05 05:43:19 · 5 answers · asked by patsy 3

2007-03-05 05:39:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister is moving in with us for the summer. My sister is 18 and will be living with us until she gets an apartment for college. I live in a three bedroom, two bath house and have two kids. My kids are 2 and 10 months right now. My sis will be moving in in June. Should I have her share a room with my daughter (10 months) or son (2 years) or put the two babies together in one room and give her a room of her own? Moving the kids into our room isn't an option since the dogs sleep in our room. They tend to make noise and I'm not kenneling them overnight. And NO I'm not putting the dogs ahead of my kids.

2007-03-05 05:32:22 · 9 answers · asked by Sara 2

he and his freind went to the mall and put on womens jeans, and asked the cashier if it made them look fat!
P.S. he is not an alcoholic!

2007-03-05 05:25:55 · 6 answers · asked by jacob a 1

My 10 year old has the biggest attitude problem I have ever seen in a long time!! I'm not quite sure how to make this short but because I am the only one who does the disipline I get stuck with the arguing, the talking back, the mouthing off, the dirty looks, the slammed doors, walking away while I'm talking etc. etc.... Can anyone relate? Does anyone have any solutions or anyone who just wants to compare stories. My son lives with me and my boyfriend and see's his dad 2 or 3 times a month "IF" that! so I know that may be a part of it but to disrespect his mom everyday is no excuse, I've tryed everything to fix this, my last resort is probably counceling or some sort of boot camp. He's not a "bad" kid who gets into trouble or starts fights with other kids or anything like that it's just he thinks I'm soooo mean and uncaring because I do the disipline, not only that he doesn't take anything seriously at all, everything is a joke to him, it seems.
Please help, or share stories??

2007-03-05 05:14:36 · 8 answers · asked by Jamie 2

how many aunties, uncles and first cousins do you have in total include your parent and siblings, just wanna know to see if ive the biggest........frm both sides.xxxxxx

2007-03-05 05:14:30 · 4 answers · asked by natashas 2

she was sexually abuse 2 times by a family friend and its been 9 years but she never told her parents and she scared what should i do?

2007-03-05 05:06:18 · 12 answers · asked by airplanes 3

My mother-in-law is starting to get on my last nerve!!! But i am keeping my mouth closed for the time being, out of respect to my fiance....

How is your relationship with your mother-in-law..?

2007-03-05 05:02:36 · 24 answers · asked by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5

My husband's grandma said some mean things to me. My mom got remarried in Vegas in January and I went for the wedding. Before the trip, gram went to the hospital and found 2 abnormal growths. they scheduled one surgery for testing for when i was out of town. so i was telling her that i was going out of town and i hoped everything went well and she laid into me. she said i was a bad mother to leave my 2 year old with my husband and if something happened to her (the baby) it would be on my head. then she said to tell my mom that she is stupid and bet the marriage would only last 2 weeks. i told her that my step-dad was also being tested for cancer and she said that was the only reason they were getting married. i couldn't even defend my mom even though it wasn't true. gram said this in front of other relatives too. i am really mad at her for it. we used to be really close. i lived with her for a while.

2007-03-05 04:56:46 · 24 answers · asked by saveit 4

I know this can be a hard to choose from ? but i would love to have a simple day with my sister when we were kids playing out in our front garden on christmas eve it was snowing lightly ,and it was dark,but their was a brightly lit lamp post just outside our gate that lit up our little garden were we ran around a large shrub called a fusia tree (i swear it still had purple flowers on it which is odd)we were so exited about santa coming and we were singing christmas carols whilst looking up at the snow,and still running around the tree .one of my most beautiful memories.i will never forget that feeling ,we were so close .just us 2 no other siblings. she died at 41 last september and i miss her soooooooooo much.I would love to just have that 1 day with her again.(sniffle, sniff).

2007-03-05 04:56:30 · 7 answers · asked by patsy 3

I chose to be a working mom because I wanted to give my girls everything. I did not want them to ever know hunger or what it was like not to have heat or a place to live. My mother was extremely abusive and I left home at 14. I got my college education and went on to have children. My marriage didn't work out. My ex got into drugs and I put him through rehab twice to no avail. So, I divorced and raised my girls alone. All I wanted was for them to get an education and not be distracted by boys. I am proud to say that both my girls did just that. My oldest went into the Airforce. She married a year later and now has three children..a daughter and twin boys and she is only 23. I couldn't be more proud. But then she decided to get close to my family. My mother and sister have put a wedge between us with gross fabrications. And now my daughter has decided to put me out of her life. She claims I abused her..when the fact is I never touched her. I couldn't..I was afraid to become my mother.

2007-03-05 04:43:01 · 18 answers · asked by shawn t 1