My mother-in-law is starting to get on my last nerve!!! But i am keeping my mouth closed for the time being, out of respect to my fiance....
How is your relationship with your mother-in-law..?
2007-03-05 05:02:36 · 24 answers · asked by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I met my boyfriends mum last night for the first time!
I was so scared, but it was good at them same time as we got on really well!!
2007-03-07 02:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been very luck on this front - my first mother in law is an angel - her son and i split up 10 years ago but his mum and i are still the best of friends (i got on well with him too!!) Nothing is too much trouble for and she treats my daughter ( with my current husband) like her own grandchild! My second mother in law sadly dies 3 years ago - again she was lovely and was delighted that her son and i were together and happy. My husband and my mum get on so well that she cooks his dinner every night, they are drinking buddies and we all go on holiday together - infact they even have a joint vredit card. Sadly my sister is not so lucky and has the MIL from hell but she is also very good freinds with my ex mother inlaw! If there is a problem it is bast to raise it and clear the air - i am sure your fiance will understand - at least try to discuss it with your finance as they may well feel the same way.
Good luck
2007-03-06 00:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by bevflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're amazing to have such control and love for your fiance. I love my husband more than anything, but my mother in law absolutely hates me. We got married kind of suddenly, and when I came to meet her all she had to say was that it was too soon and her son wasn't ready for another wife. Then we had our daughter, when he told her I was pregnant she got all happy and wrote to me every other day. When I had the baby it went back to hate. We started having marital problems a while back and she wrote many rude letters to my husband telling him what she thought of me and her advice to him. Of course I intercepted them, but did nothing. Now it's pretty much like I don't exsist again...she told my husband's brother not to invite me to his wedding, etc. Now I'm pregnant again, and I don't want her to know. She tries to be so involved in my 1 and a half year olds life, but I try to keep he out as much as possible. I think that if I let her have an active role in my daughter's life that would teach my baby it's ok to respect some people and not others. That is not how it should be.
2007-03-05 08:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jennah C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law CAN be nice, but she can also be two faced and mean. SHe talks about her own daughter and son in very negative ways around me, so I can only imagine how nasty she talks about me when I'm not around!! I hate gossip but I really hate gossip about family members.
I don't hate her, but I don't really "love" her either. Anyone that can talk hatefully about their own children is not cool in my book, I find it disgusting.
However, there has been times she's been nice and helpful. I can't figure this woman out. SHe can't decide whether to be a crazy gossip or a nice woman. I guess they are just both parts of her personality that I have to deal with.
I don't hate her, I don't love her.
I do care for her as a human being and because she can be nice at times, but the other part of her I cannot stand.
2007-03-05 06:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by yomama23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate, Hate, Hate... Well she hates me. I just dont care anymore. Mine told me that i should get sterilised as two kids is enough. She comes in my house ignores the children her grandchildren. and then criticises them. One thing I can say about myself is im a good mum. im firm but fair. I have very good kids the kind you can take anywhere. People comment on how polite and lovely they are. She could find fault in perfection, yet she is so far from it her self. Stand your ground with the old bag. Let her know she has to respect you and your partner and your relationship. She doesn't have to like you... but your marrying her son. Good luck
2007-03-05 05:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Psycho Chicken! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep your mouth shut completely. When you are on your own with her, put your foot down and tell her how it is. But when in company smile sweetly and let her get on with it. She is the love of your life's mother - she may respect you for standing up to her.
2007-03-05 09:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by lynn a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do know the feeling because my ex mother in-law was an interfering busy body, who criticised me at every possibility.. My new mother in law however is a gem, she has never judged me never gets in volved with mine and my husbands relationship and i believe we have become friends.
2007-03-05 05:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never had any complaints about my Mother In Law, she is the best, I get along better with her than I do my own parents.
2007-03-05 05:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iv been with my husband nearly 8 years and married for 3, personally my mother in law is a pain the ***!! im a bit like you i bite my tongue with her but sometimes il tell her what i think. it has to be done sometimes plus my father in law is an arrogant pig. so yeah i love them to bits!! i dont call them in laws i call them my out laws!! i only see them now again which suits me fine personally never would be even better.
2007-03-05 23:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by allymc2001uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law she has her moments she tries to take over in our home, but I remind in a respectful way that I am queen in this home. Overall she is an okay lady.
2007-03-05 06:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by chyna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex mother-in-law was an interfering old busy body. I named her Mrs Bucket as in the tv comedy "Keeping up Appearences" she was just like her.
Put your foot down now it will only get worse.
2007-03-05 05:11:35 · answer #11 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋