Does anyone have a 10 year old going on 16?!!!?

Question

My 10 year old has the biggest attitude problem I have ever seen in a long time!! I'm not quite sure how to make this short but because I am the only one who does the disipline I get stuck with the arguing, the talking back, the mouthing off, the dirty looks, the slammed doors, walking away while I'm talking etc. etc.... Can anyone relate? Does anyone have any solutions or anyone who just wants to compare stories. My son lives with me and my boyfriend and see's his dad 2 or 3 times a month "IF" that! so I know that may be a part of it but to disrespect his mom everyday is no excuse, I've tryed everything to fix this, my last resort is probably counceling or some sort of boot camp. He's not a "bad" kid who gets into trouble or starts fights with other kids or anything like that it's just he thinks I'm soooo mean and uncaring because I do the disipline, not only that he doesn't take anything seriously at all, everything is a joke to him, it seems.
Please help, or share stories??

Sorry but I guess I left something out.
for 1: my son absolutely LOVES my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years!!!! and 2: my boyfriend says he will help as much as possible but to do the disipline thing is not something he is used to and that will take time which is very understandable.
Thanx!

Answer 1

Doesnt it seem like kids are so much harder to handle these days? If I behaved ANYTHING close to what my daughter does, I would have gotten the crap kicked out of me....Kids are going thru puberty at an earlier age. My daughter was 10 was she got her period. Now she is 12 and although she still has attitude sometimes, I have gotten it down to a minimum. What I did was call the school first to make sure her grades were up to par. She was struggling in math and hated her teacher which was a big part of it. I also call the school therapist who talked with her every week until she started to feel better. Ends up between the divorce, her fathers girlfriend, her little brother, math class, & acne some of it was just more than she can deal with., And she took it out on me because she knew no matter what, I would love her and help her whether or not she wanted it. She has lost the computer and her cell phone more than once. When that doesnt affect her, she isnt allowed to go to school dances, visit her friends etc. I take more time working on her with her homework. Constant contact with her teachers, friends parents. i dont allow her all of the freedom that her other friends have and that sometimes bothers her. But, she does understand that I am trying to keep her safe, but she does think I am over protective. I get a weekly report from each teacher telling me if she is missing assignments, test grades so I always know what the report card will be. I offer encourement and praise when she does try harder. I also gave her chores. Which was a battle in the beginning but she is getting better. I talk to her which does wonders. Maybe there is a big brother organization you can look into for him. or maybe your boyfriend can help where his father is lacking. Although it isnt his responsibility, your son may be alittle jealous of him, so, maybe he can put forth and spend some time with him. My boyfriend bought my 6 yr old son a fishing pole and takes him fishing. He also took him sled riding. He has also convinced me to lighten up my daughter alittle bit. She recently went to the movies with her friends (without me) for the first time. She came home, called my boyfriend and thanked him for talking to me. Its not easy, but if you pay attention to the signs and help him it will get easier.

Answer 2

Part of it is normal development of a pre teen. The other part is you are living with a man who you probably allow to discipline him or whatever but this man is nothing to him. You are not showing him any structure by living with a man you are not married to nor showing respect for yourself so why should he respect you? Show him some true morals and values and perhaps he won't look at the world as a joke because that is what you are showing you live your life like.

Good luck!

Answer 3

My 10 year old daughter does to. It started recently. I think she is in training to be 15. She has lost alot of her privileges and been grounded. She even received a spanking for one of her smart comments. She was a model child until recently. She still behaves at school, but at home, she is trying to push to see how much she can get away with. She is finding out, I push back alot harder.......

Answer 4

You have to sit down and explain things to him. (1)
Tell him what the consequences will be if he continues misbehaving.

Ground him from everything (2)

If the above 2 don't work, take him over your knee
and giving him an old-fashioned spanking.

Answer 5

He sounds like a child going through puberty to me. Kids are going through puberty earlier now than in years past. Start removing privileges such as tv, computer, video games until the mouth quits getting him in trouble. Its hard and they dont really like you a lot while you are going through it but if he is like this now what will it be like when he is 16?

Answer 6

Wow girl sorry!! can't help you... my daughter is no 10 yet and besides when she notice I start getting mad she starts changing her actitude and do everything I say. Maybe you need to take him to a councelor or talk to his teacher at school maybe something happen there and he is not telling you... Good Luck!!

Answer 7

1 donot work so much she is trying to get you attention aif u don`t work alot and have other kids a nd spend time with themat this age u treat you are now putting responsiblities it is probably

Answer 8

my nephew, he's the next Hugh Hefner