its a big deal their mother won't let my boyfriend see his kids cause of me we have been together for 1 year
2007-03-05 03:32:25 · 14 answers · asked by giliani g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has rights. he should go to family court. that is all you can do. if the two of you want to be together. he needs to do this to show her he does have rights. and that she is not in control of his life. because that is what this is about. but she is hurting the kids in the process. he needs to put a stop to this.
2007-03-05 03:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being with a partner that already has a responsibility is never easy, but inspite of that, all he needs now is understanding and as much as possible try to protect him in anyway that you can, I'm pretty sure he is somewhat depress for what had happen, maybe (just maybe) you can talk to your b/f to discuss things with the kids mother to let them see them and spend some quality time together, cause the kids need him as well, if it doesn't work, why don't you take and make a move in behalf of your b/f but of course with his permission (to pay respect for his feelings) try to talk the kids mother and compromise with whatever condition she would ask. If she still refuses to let the kids father see them, well i guess it's time to file a legal action against the mother... (to ask the court for visitations rights)
2007-03-05 03:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad situation for him as a dad, but sadly, this sort of thing happens a lot. In my opinion, the mothers are pitting the children against the fathers and using the children to hurt those men who left them all behind for one reason or another. Children need both parents and it really hurts them most as well, teaching the kids to grow up and do the same and then it becomes a cycle. It is selfish manipulation. That's all it is! If he is on their birth certificates, he could take her to court and get visitation. It could get quite expensive. Maybe you have a free legal service in the area who would handle a case of that sort. You could inquire at the office of the Clerk of Court at the Courthouse where you live and just see. He needs to see those kids and they need to see him and know he is there for them in this life. It is a cause worth fighting for! Good luck to you both.
2007-03-05 03:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man have I been down this road.
1st. you are still new in the picture are you ready to play step mommy? is that what you really want? Time with his kids is time with HIS kids you shouldn't be involved anyway. It is simply too soon.
2ND. Cant be mad at the baby momma drama she is doing it for two reasons (A) she don't want to see him happy they never do. and (B) she does have to worry about her kids. you might be in the picture today but will you be there tomorrow?
I don't know you nor am I judging you but the first year is always good she was there before you and she is going to be there after you if you cant handle the dirt she dishing out know and its early in the relationship you should really consider how much further you go with it!
good luck
2007-03-05 03:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by a_bug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother is just using you as an excuse. If the father has visitation rights he needs to use them. If he doesn't he needs to get them. If your a good person (you know the answer) the mother is just using the children as a pawn. The father needs to be a man and do what he has to (leagally) to see his kids, but then again he too might be using the kids as a pawn. Good luck!
2007-03-05 03:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she knows she's breaking the law. My brother is a judge and you can't deny a parent visitation rights. Perhaps if he makes her aware of the fact that he can file charges against her, she'll stop acting like an adolescent. That's so silly. Those kids have a right to see their father, and if he is not a convicted felon or child abuser, he has a right to see them.
2007-03-05 03:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfirends baby mama is just jealous of you. She's a hater. Don't worry meeting his kids unless you plan on marrying him. Do you really want to be a step-mother of 3 kids?
2007-03-05 04:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother needs to grow up if you have done nothing to the kids to make her feel this way than she is just jealous. If he really wants to see them he can take it to court.
2007-03-05 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Priceless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And...what is the problem? You thought he and his wife were best of friends? Are you shacked up with him? I wouldn't let my husband have the kids with a woman in his bed either! She was pregnant longer than you two have been together.
2007-03-05 03:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been involved with a guy with two kids also and i got two kids of my own.i know how you feel,my ex is really upset casue our daughters call my fiance daddy.his ex dont care if the boys call me mom.it sounds like ur boyfriends ex is really insecure,maybe sheas afraid his kids will like you better than their mother
2007-03-05 04:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by marines_sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋