Family - December 2006

I live here in iloilo city,philippines. I am only twelve, my dad stays in manila for a living, and my mom here in iloilo. its a long story why they are apart. Anyway, i just came back to iloilo today. My grandmother and grandfather, with my tita, and dad live in manila, and i miss so much. Even though i call them, i still feel the same way.

2006-12-25 23:40:37 · 7 answers · asked by northtop_blackbird 2

okay i have a 3yr. old that will be 4 in april. anyways me and the dad were off and on for 10 yrs. finally im 18 and pregnant, he's addicted to drugs and broke up with me for another girl when i was 6 mos. prego. i was devistated. i got over it and met my now husband when my son was 3 wks. old(the dad wasnt there 4 the birth)we started dating when my son was about a month and a half old. he still wasnt there. my husband tought this baby everything! my husband fell in love with my baby before in love with me!he calls my hubby daddy, i got scared at first cause i dont want my little boy being hurt by him too. well the "dad" went to prison for 3 yrs. in that time he actually contacted me and wanted to get in my son's life. my son met his real dad for the first time last august. my hubby was hurt. now the"dad" is out and was around barely,went back in. out now and is demanding if he doesnt see him that he's taking me to court!? i have sole custody.he wants joint.dont know what to do.help?

2006-12-25 23:35:44 · 13 answers · asked by chica 23 1

threatens her life, breaks in her house....she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker's license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.

2006-12-25 22:54:23 · 8 answers · asked by janie 7

My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years and we just got engaged! The thing is, my sister can't stand him & keeps telling everyone how I can do better & that me & him aren't meant for each other. He's a good guy & treats me well and is always polite to my sister. How do I get her to quit badmouthing him??

2006-12-25 22:26:54 · 31 answers · asked by Happy go Lucky 4

ruining all our lives..he's addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother's attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother's heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom's house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..

2006-12-25 22:15:15 · 6 answers · asked by janie 7

2006-12-25 21:49:31 · 20 answers · asked by f.g.h 1

My best friend of 9 years are no longer talking and it's been 4months now since we haven't spoken. But her sister keeps calling my cell phone and we were never friends. When her sister calls i never pick up and she leaves me voicemail messages asking me to call her back but I never call because to me that's weird. Why her sister calling me instead of her? What do you think she wants to say???

2006-12-25 21:40:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mainly son or daughter, but for those without kids assume your brother/sister. Would you speak to them, disown them, encourage them to be happy...?

2006-12-25 21:24:23 · 32 answers · asked by Mo 1

2006-12-25 21:05:19 · 18 answers · asked by Richard S 1

It seems that every guy i date turns out to be a complete idiot... I need a date

2006-12-25 21:01:35 · 8 answers · asked by SunShineBabe 3

I have been married quite sometime now .My wife is spanish and very emotional.For the longest time there has been things going on in the family and she gets really emotional and really gets into extreme distress or yelling.I used to just ignore it and not worry about it ,and then I would try and console and talk logic to her later and she would then be ok.Lately this has been an everyday thing,something happening here or there.She gets into a yelling mood and or depresed mood and its a family communication drama.I mean worse than any on tv.Its gotten to be so much that it really bothers me.I hate the phone ringing because its one family member after the other rehashing and rehashing.It gets on my nerves to know end and bothers me alot.I dont want to hurt her feelings but lately it really troubles me .I can feel the blood pressure rising when all this happens and it happens alot.I have tried to be patient but its everyday thing.I don't know what to say to her to let her know how I feel.

2006-12-25 21:01:18 · 5 answers · asked by LL B 2

How can I better like my son's girlfriend that he says he will probably
I have met her three times on Christmas. She is not my type at all..seems like businessy and not warm (not rude just kind of cold and not really that friendly. First meeting she spent most of time talking to my snobbier sisters and didn't say much to me even though I tried to engage her in conversation. I would have thought most girls would try to at least get their bf mom to like them but maybe that is just me. Today she gave me this cold fish hug where your bodies are real far away and not a warm hug at all.
We only got to talk about three sentence. My son told me they have never had a fight which amazed me. He said they have so many interests in common. I can't invite her to my home as I am ashamed of it as I am poor. I asked my son several times to go on a picnic or dinner so we can get to know each other better but he doesn't saying he will but not following through as he is "too busy. I rarely see him

2006-12-25 20:11:03 · 8 answers · asked by janie 7

2006-12-25 19:55:31 · 4 answers · asked by girl_20 1

My husband lost his job and we were forced to come live with my mother-in-law in the meantime until we get back on our feet. She keeps charging us, and threatening to throw us out on the street if we don't give her money. we have a 1 year old baby which by the way it makes me cringe every time she picks him up. she made my pregnancy a living hell. she has a good pension and a more than healthy bank account but she still wants the little we have. she feels her kids owe her. no one can resist her, she's done so many horrible things to everyone. she's always been disrespectful to me and to everyone around her. she has no manners. she's always trying to tell us how to raise our child, asking us about our phone conversations, our financial issues, and many other personal things. she's so rude, and cruel. she charges us for the food we eat, even when the baby is sleeping, she wakes him up and says she doesn't care but then picks him up? one time we asked her to look after the baby for 5 minutes while we got some things out of the car and she said she wasn't a babysitter. she's just psychotically cynical. she doesn't get the baby a gift for christmas, not even when he was born. she always wants something in return for everything. she never says please or thank you, so unappreciative. she's told me the nastiest things and i've always been polite to her since day 1 yet she tells everyone in my husband's family horrible things about me, trying to make herself look like some type of victim, she is such a liar. I have better manners than she does! it's crazy, I feel like I'm more of a mother to my husband than she is. and the irony of it all is that she thinks she's the best and most deserving mother/person in the world. she's driven me to losing it. what type of mother/person is this? why? what should I do? if I can get some advice I'd really appreciate it.

2006-12-25 18:59:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I sometimes have to get them to watch my little girl {16 months} and my mother -in -law does not follow my instructions. We asked that our child not be rocked to sleep, she does it; we asked that she talk to her in a normal voice- she insist on"baby talk". My wife will not stand up to them even though she says she agrees with me. Any advice?

2006-12-25 18:40:54 · 12 answers · asked by Roll_Tide! 5

My wife and my mother do not get along at all. I tried to help my mother by letting her live with my family but my wife just couldn't let things go and make life with all of us liveable. Everything got on my wifes nerves. First it was my mothers cat my wife hates cats so i told my mom to keep the cat in her room. Then my mother smokes my wife hates cigerette smoke She claims my son has asthma and i know my wife has lung problems but only affects her when she is sick. My wife wanted my mother to smoke outside my mother wanted to smoke in her room the door closed and the window open my wife complained everyday until my mother left about the smell and she said it was hurting her lungs. My mother tries to help my wife and give her some wise advice on how to handle our children my wife takes it as an attack on her parenting skills. My mother left the house the night before christmas because my wife made her feel so unwelcome. Should my wife try harder to get along and respect my mother?

2006-12-25 18:22:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

You will miss your family more often.I sure miss my dad and others.

2006-12-25 18:13:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, so my Christmas was pretty horrible. Well, not horrible just lonely, see this year (I know it sounds shallow) I didn't get ANYTHING that I wanted/needed, no one in my own family gave me anything, but then again I didn't give them anything. I didn't spend Christmas with any of my friends, all I did, was sit in bed, get out of bed momentarily and eat dinner, then I went back to bed and resumed watching T.V. now Christmas is over, and I'm feeling really sad/angry. Partially because I know for a fact that a lot of my friends are doing amazing stuff for Christmas, and getting tons of gifts. I know it doesn't mean that they are happy, but still, what am I supposed to say when they ask me how my Christmas went, "Oh I sat in bed and watched that 70's show."

2006-12-25 18:11:48 · 24 answers · asked by LalaLola 2

Okay this is going to sound so weird, but it is honestly a true story. Our family doesn't get together as a whole but one time a year, today. At this get together will be my mother, my sister Kay, and her bf, my other sister Alexa, her bf, and her 4 children, and my husband, daughter, and myself. Alexa and I got into a HUGE fight (i am talking the pies went flying through the house). She was mad at me for telling her that she needed to grow up and make her children wear seat belts and not allow them to ride to someone that was drunk and that I didn't want to be the one attending a funeral for my neices or nephews. She said she wanted to be the "fun parent" and the kids' dad could worry about seat belts and then takes her kids to look at christmas lights around the area. I told her that she needed to grow up and think about her kids over herself all the time. She proceeded to look at me and tell me that I am the one that needs to grow up. I work full time and a mother to my 6 year

2006-12-25 18:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Someonesmommy 5

2006-12-25 18:06:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

But he wont stay over at my house, and this morning he wont answer his phone? Am I in the right to be suspicious?

2006-12-25 18:03:35 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa 3

Is it bad that I dont know all my family members and couldn't care less? My parents brought us up without really letting us see our cousins and aunts, and etc. Now i dont know all of them and now that I am 20 I really dont care becasue I feel like its to late to just pick up the phone and say hi aunte what are you doing for new years u know. I mean it is bad but I dont know what I would say and its aqward. My boyfreind takes it as a shock and sort of a turn off. But its not really my fault. He grew up with his family by his side and I haven't. So i feel like he wouldn't understand my situaion unless he was me. I feel its like you not talking to your aunt u havent seen inten years and saying hi whats up.

2006-12-25 17:46:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-25 17:37:11 · 10 answers · asked by lisaluvv9 1

I was molested often by an uncle as a girl. My little girl is now the age I was when abused, 6. The problem is she goes to stay with grandparents, and, I have been having recurrent nightmares that my father sexually abused me. Not just one dream, but about 50.
I also ran away often as a teen cause I feared he may rape me. My family all blames it on my uncle. They say that I am imagining my dad because he was the closest male to me besided my abusive uncle. But, every time my girl and son go there, even though I call, and make sure my mom is in charge, and all, I still am nervous. I also, dont know what to do, I have aske dmy daughter to always tell me if anything is wrong, over and over she says nothing. Is her recent sggresiveness a phase?
Am I like my family says, "Being paranoid because I have mental illness?"
I am so confused, that i am planning to move , just to get away from the possibuility of anything happenrning. Can anyone relate?
I need help. Weh Weh

2006-12-25 17:30:04 · 20 answers · asked by wehweh 2

i used to shut my self away from the outside world..but not any more....now accidentally i know a lot about the outside world..now i'm scared, confused... don't know what to do..
i feel like a stranger lost her way home... now i wanna get out...get a job... discover who i'm..what i want..i don't know how to start or where....can you help ?..... i'm 25 is it too late to start..?
also i'm engaged and i don't wanna lose him in the mid of all this...he cares a lot for me but i can't ask him for help in this one because i really need to know who i raelly am....do you what i mean..?
thank you for your help...Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

2006-12-25 17:21:14 · 10 answers · asked by D Mar 1

my 8 yr old son has the worst attitude,hes mean to his little sister if hes asked to do something and doesnt want to do it he stomes off throwing whatever he can slamming doors hitting walls and it doesnt seem to be getting any better no matter what i do.he does real well in school but over the past month has been getting in trouble there too,he has no problem looking you in the eyes and lying right to you.im lost and dont have a clue what else to do.the way things are going im afraid of what might happen years down the road . and now his little sister thinks the way to fet what she wants is to be rude and mean.if anyone can help please let me know

2006-12-25 17:09:22 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom always is hollwoing at me..and its 4 nothing.i dont know what to do and its making me stressed out. she told me i was crazy because she lost her key. she told me i was crazy because i wonted 2 go out with my boyfriend....i dont know what to do everytime i ask her a question she goes off at me. sometime i just be wonting to cry.is it something im doin? help

2006-12-25 17:08:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband has tryed for years to talk to his kids...should i talk to them....its very hard for him to talk to them and they dont come around only to get something...they holidays they only come to get gifts....they were suppose to be here on christmas and christmas eve. but they said they wanted to spend it again at there other familys...we spent alot of time and money to make it right and they dumped us again....its hard for my husband to talk to them or his ex...he has visitation rights but his ex does what ever she wants..and takes advantage of him and hes not a very good comuticator and they dont care what he says they do what they want...i think my husband is very sad and cant take much more and see's how much fun we have with my kids and how my kids are not rude or selfish....and i think he wants his kids around and wants the same with his kids but like his step daughter said last night which is a lie dad i told you we werent staying and im missing a party at mom to be here

2006-12-25 17:04:33 · 11 answers · asked by shelby8687 2

Have you ever had to tell someone to back off just to have them not 'get it' So you got more and more direct. Finally you had to snap at them and hurt their feelings before they took you seriously... Then they just sat around crying and wondering what happened and how you could be so dispresectful. They put guilt trips on you for hurting them and they act almost scared of you?

I had this happen with my family and all I asked for was some space because they were extremely invasive in my life.

Has anyone else had bounderies back fire?

2006-12-25 17:00:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't let my kids get to know my mom to well because she thinks that I live an awful life and she thinks I am raising my kids all wrong. She is convinced that I am on my way to hell and is constantly hoping that I will change and I won't mess up my kids beyond repair. So when she does see them she is so huggy and full of gifts and hangs all over them, being as fun and cool as she can. I don't blame her really, I know it is hard for her that I keep things cool between her and her grandkids (I have talked to her, but I obviously can't change her beliefs).

So my question is:
- am I really pushing my children towards her because she seems so fun right now and they look forward to their visits with 'fun grandma'
- as the years go on, will they see (WITHOUT me grandma bashing), that I didn't want religious grandma making my kids choose between their mommy and their grandma, because grandma says that she has the only truth and mommy is living in sin?

2006-12-25 16:46:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous