My mother in law is horrible. What should I do? Please Help.?

Question

My husband lost his job and we were forced to come live with my mother-in-law in the meantime until we get back on our feet. She keeps charging us, and threatening to throw us out on the street if we don't give her money. we have a 1 year old baby which by the way it makes me cringe every time she picks him up. she made my pregnancy a living hell. she has a good pension and a more than healthy bank account but she still wants the little we have. she feels her kids owe her. no one can resist her, she's done so many horrible things to everyone. she's always been disrespectful to me and to everyone around her. she has no manners. she's always trying to tell us how to raise our child, asking us about our phone conversations, our financial issues, and many other personal things. she's so rude, and cruel. she charges us for the food we eat, even when the baby is sleeping, she wakes him up and says she doesn't care but then picks him up? one time we asked her to look after the baby for 5 minutes while we got some things out of the car and she said she wasn't a babysitter. she's just psychotically cynical. she doesn't get the baby a gift for christmas, not even when he was born. she always wants something in return for everything. she never says please or thank you, so unappreciative. she's told me the nastiest things and i've always been polite to her since day 1 yet she tells everyone in my husband's family horrible things about me, trying to make herself look like some type of victim, she is such a liar. I have better manners than she does! it's crazy, I feel like I'm more of a mother to my husband than she is. and the irony of it all is that she thinks she's the best and most deserving mother/person in the world. she's driven me to losing it. what type of mother/person is this? why? what should I do? if I can get some advice I'd really appreciate it.

Answer 1

put a gun to her head. word of advise, if youre gonna ask something on yahoo answers thats really impotant and you need a lot of answers. this time of the day is the worst time to ask. 2 in the morning, no one is on. so far from what i have read, just get a job and move out if possible

Answer 2

Honey, I know it is a horrible situation, but just try to make the best of it until you can move out. I know you don't want to hear this, but you should pay her a part while you are staying there because when you add three more people to a household, all the utilities are more, groceries are more expensive, etc. I am by no means taking up for her because I would never charge my children unless it was an absolute have to. I know my daughter and her three children moved in with me for awhile and everything did skyrocket. It is expensive, but your mother-in-laws is just nosy and she is going to stay in your face all the time. Just work harder to get out of there. I would not want my child around a woman who doesn't want to babysit her own grandchild.

Good luck and I will praying that you can keep your sanity while you are there.

Answer 3

When did she being like this? If she was like thAT WHEN YOU WERE BORN, dn't dare to even eat but there is one thing you can do. Try an get all your friend s and try and get the money. borrow and promise that you will give the money back. never break promise. If your mother finds out, bad luck.

If your mother has be that mean for a just a few weeks or months or just been like that for one year, she has a mental illness and you will need to wait about 2 years to wait until she gets better

Answer 4

Well the bible says when the man marries he is supposed to leave the mother and cleave to his wife. so i could imagine how things would not work out ,but until you get enough money to move out on your own you have to abide by all the rules and try to stick it out just remember whatever does not kill you will only make you stronger. and as of the baby he will grow on her as all children do so i wouldn't be to worried about that you never know maybe down the road you 2 will become best friends i know lol now but it could happen it almost always enemy's before friends good luck and Merry Christmas.

Answer 5

They are all like that.Some more refined than others in their bad behaviour,thats all.All I can say is that may god bless you and give you the patience to cope up with this.The saving grace in your case is that at least you have hope that at soon enough your husband will find a job and you may be able to move away from this mess.Think of us lesser mortals who are stuck forever with our monsters-in-law and you will feel much better.For example me.I have both the male monster and the female monster dancing upon my head.And if I go on to narrate what all theve done to me we will run short of space here.I had a miscarriage due to them to say the most and tension along with sleepless nights to say the least.They are all like that as far as the bitching goes.No matter how good you are they will only spread bad words among relatives.Whatever.
God bless you and may you and your husband and your baby get out of this soon.
P.S-You and your husband can discuss how each spent his/her day and it will prove a ventilation of sorts.

Answer 6

It really sound like you would rather be without your MIL. Well, behave as if that were true. Live your life as if she does not exist. Move out of her house and don't take a penny from her in support. Your husband will be much better able to look for a job without all the pressure from her. You've got nothing to lose.
As long as you are under her roof you will be subject to her rules. The only way to be free is to liberate yourself.

Answer 7

Look, you're living at her house for FREE and she's feeding you and you want that for FREE also along with babysitting services. It's her house. You're both grown enough to make a baby, so, get your collective butts out there and both of you get jobs and get out of her house if you don't like how she treats you. It is HER HOME. If and when she is rude to you in your own place, your husband should be the one saying she's stepping over the boundaries. As long as you're under her roof and she's supporting you, you'll not have a minutes peace. You did this to yourself, honey. Now, get out of the house! Godloveya.

Answer 8

You are right in not ruffling her feathers. Make up your mind that you need to earn enough money to get out from under her.
Maybe you can take in ironing or babysitting or something to add to the income.
This lady is your husbands mother. There needs to be boundries with this lady. He is a man, he should write this down what those are. He needs to make it clear that she is to respect your wife and that whyenthe baby is sleeping it can't be disturbed. Tell her that your wife is the mother to your child and that the wife is in charge/

Most of all.........earn money adn get out asap

Answer 9

Oh My God..

My sister-in-law leaves with us and she is pregnant. She doesn't have to pay anything.. My mother is really nice to her and my brother too. They leave on my moms money. My mom always buys gift for her.. Gold rings and everything else..People go crazy.. My mom is doing that because she had a bad MOTHER-IN-LAW.. so she is trying to be a nice mother-in-law to her daughter-in-law.


I guess your mother-in-law wants the whole world for herself. i know those people. Maybe she is jealous of u b/c u got her son.... or she is just a greed person.. also check her pass.. maybe something is bother her from the pass... If u can talk to her.. i wish we had a bigger house i would let u come leave with us.. we don't mind.. Believe me i would treat u guys good..

I hope it help..


Happy New year..

God Bless u and your Husband and Your son..



I hope everything works out...


Love Delo....

Answer 10

It sounds a lot like my EX Mother in law. All you can do is hurry and save fast to get out of her house. Just deal with it. If your husband can agree with you, tell her off. But then you'll be even worse of a bit**. It's her house so there isnt much you can do... Good kuck.