threatens her life, breaks in her house....she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker's license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
2006-12-25 22:54:23 · 8 answers · asked by janie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn't or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
2006-12-25 23:07:24 · update #1
that should be grandson not nephew
2006-12-31 00:54:48 · update #2
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don't think they will call police due to how they are...siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
2006-12-31 00:58:58 · update #3
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help...it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom's intense suffering as she is in real pain.
2006-12-31 01:01:38 · update #4
listen all of you need to stop thats first of all,this idiot has all the power .what are you kidding me?he is a damn low life junkie and you all need to start treating him like one hey you wanna be a junkie than i';ll treat you like one thats my motto.i have had to much experience and i have felt sorry for them there is no feeling sorry for these assholes you all need to call the cops.and then the next time he sows up CALL THE COPS! then the next time call the cops i am telling you you cant be nice he will kill someone eventually you can count on that i have been stabbed ,beat up and robbed by the people i was close to and they were also family members they dont care get rid of him call the cops and get a restraining order so if he does come back now he'll go away for a good long while just do it please morgana
2006-12-25 23:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters let me say he is a scumbag.You need to intervene and call the police or get someone else involved like social services.Is your mom under hospice care?Your mother is going through enough without putting up with his BS . Dont worry about what he is gonna go through losing his license and such your mom is trying to find peace ,comfort and acceptance within herself so she can pass on. My mother just passed away 2 months ago and I would have taken care of anyone trying to take advantage of her. You will never forgive yourself if you do not take care of this situation. It is hard enough just dealing with the guilt of not being able to save your mom from death much less something that is in your control.DO SOMETHING NOW!! If not give me his address ill take care of him!!
2006-12-25 23:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by llittle pee wee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a junkie. But if your dying mom forgives him every time he comes around then their is not much you can do. But tell your mom to be careful. Because if her nephew is a junkie, And the day she tell him no, That's the day he just might take her life from her. Because junkie don't care about anyone. They only care about the high.
2006-12-25 23:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by omegarussell42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was my mother, he would have to go through me to see my mother. He'd find out I'm one of those that isn't afraid of him and I'm more controlling than he is.
2006-12-26 00:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suplex him through a wooden table. That'll teach him.
2006-12-25 23:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
restraining order, keeps him from your mom and a trespass order will keep him from the house, violation of these and jail will keep him away from everyone
2006-12-25 23:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order or have him arrested for domestic abuse.
2006-12-26 00:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you and the rest of your family do something about this situation?
2006-12-25 23:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋