8 yr old son has a real bad attitude at home and school what do i do please HELP?

Question

my 8 yr old son has the worst attitude,hes mean to his little sister if hes asked to do something and doesnt want to do it he stomes off throwing whatever he can slamming doors hitting walls and it doesnt seem to be getting any better no matter what i do.he does real well in school but over the past month has been getting in trouble there too,he has no problem looking you in the eyes and lying right to you.im lost and dont have a clue what else to do.the way things are going im afraid of what might happen years down the road . and now his little sister thinks the way to fet what she wants is to be rude and mean.if anyone can help please let me know

Answer 1

children is so kind. some time children have some problem thet's why thy do like this and some time children is scare so thet's way they are speak lying. some time we not understand to children's problems. understand to your children why he do like this.

you do always happy and love nurture with children he is do rong you sey my boy it's bad bad boy's do like this if you are not bad boy so you not do like this again. ok and sey you are my great son. not a bad boy.

then he's do like a good boy.

Answer 2

I have a ten year old son and two years ago I went through the same thing. It could be just an age thing, or there could be a serious problem going on. With my son it lasted for about two months and he straightened up. His problem was I wasn't home enough with him. I worked the evening shift and couldn't be with him until the weekend. When I was finally able to switch shifts and spend more time with him he was better. Now don't get me wrong he still has his moments, but nothing like it was. Look at your living situation, what has happened for the change to happen. Talk to other parents that have children the same age and see if the behavior is the same. Speak to your child on his level, but as the adult not a friend, and find what he thinks or is the problem. Have a family speak to your child to find out what the problem is (a adult that your child looks up to). And the final result should be the doctors. Before you spend a lot of money on doctors try some these suggestions first.

Answer 3

honestly seek some "REAL" professional help for him. I have a 8 1/2 year old who has HAD to be hospitalized 3 times put on meds for behavior a lot LIKE YOUR SON'S. I WON'T TOLERATE it in my home. She became a danger to herself and others. She has kicked holes in walls broke things hit and pulled hair screamed ON PURPOSE fell down steps. She was diagnosed as ADHD WITH A DEFIANT DISORDER AND BI-POLAR. She every so often still needs to be inpatient in a hospital she sees a counselor for 1 hour 2x a week. Without the meds i honestly think she would cause real damage to herself. Right now she has 12 stitches in her arm she was up at 4 am climbing a dresser and fell off cut her arm. THANK GOD your kid is not as bad off as mine my guess he just acts out maybe a little defiant a touch of ADHD.prescription drugs saved my daughter from herself. The people posting spank or don't seek pro help ....HAVE NEVER SAW A CHILD WITH A TRUE MENTAL DISORDER "it is a real thing". it was clear by age 3 my daughter was not all there mentaly.

Answer 4

speak with a doctor.He may have ODD or ADHD and i dont care what anyone else says, if your child has ADHD...use the damned meds.Only someone w/o a hyperactive child would tell you not to give them to your child.But,with ADHD comes learning disabilities and that child w/o treatment will suffer and begin to lack behind by the time he gets to Jr high.He will misbehave, act out in frustration...anything to try and tell you that he isnt understanding what is going on in class or around him.Could you understand the teacher or listen to your mother if 15 people were screamimg at you at the sametime while you worked on 18 different math problems at the same time? Doubt it.lol i wouldnt.But that is what it is like inside of an ADHD child's mind..a billion thoughts spinning around like crazy and not being able to stop on just one.And sometimes they become angry,frustrated or violent while trying to deal with this.And if he is and they give him meds...if he acts like a lush for more than a month while on these meds...talk to the doctor because they may have given him too high of a dose.ADHD meds should not turn your child into a zombie,they should just calm him down to a lvl that is normal to the way boys act at his age.
Im not saying your child has HDHD, i do not know what the situation at home is.Children can act out for many,many reasons.You may try speaking to your son,maybe something is troubling him very badly.
Again speak with a specialist, fill out a questionaire on your son's behavior and see what the doctor recommends.
By the way ODD is a disorder common to children as well, they have a hard time controling their temper and often refuse to listen to authority...rebelion.ODD children can become VERY violent if not handled correctly.There is no medication treatment for ODD.Just family theraphy.
I wish you good luck though.

Answer 5

My son has some behavior problems and I took him to a psychiatrist. She said I should try fish oil. I'm not certain why, but is has had an effect. Look it up on the internet. It's true, and it's better than the alternatives (ie prescription drugs).

Why all the low ratings? It's just a supplement, and my son has been taking it for over 6 months. I'm sure there could be other things wrong with your son, but fish oil is healthy and deserves a try. She also said to develop a shedule for him, and as much as I try I can not stay consistant. It is a great idea, but with my 2 jobs and school, it's not really possible. My schedule changes every term and it affects everything.

Answer 6

You might want to start off by taking things away from him that he really likes. T.V. privledges, remote control car,his favorite toy,etc. Let he know that you are the boss and you refuse to take his ugliness anymore. And that there are consequences for bad behavior. When my daughters use to slam their door when they got mad over something I would make them open and close the door 10 times and I didn't want to hear it either. If I did hear it they would start over. The next time they slammed it they lost their privacy. I took the door of the hinges. That one broke them real fast.

And don't just threaten. Give them one chance and then follow through with the punishment. Because you are right to be afraid of what might happen down the road, especially if you don't stop it now.

If following through doesn't work, then talk to his Dr. But watch out for Medication. Too many drs. are trying to give parents an easy way out by putting kids on meds to correct their behavioral patterns.

My daughter took her youngest daughter to a therapist and the therapist told my daughter she didn't need therapy. What she needed was a good old fashioned butt whipping. My grandkids don't act out around me as bad as they do their mothers, because I follow through with what I tell them I am going to do.

You might also want to try putting them in a corner. One minute for every year of their age. Works wonders with my 11 yr. old grandson, and my 8 yr. old one too.

The main thing is to be persistent in what ever you decided to do. If you ground him to the yard for 3 days, make him stay in the yard for the full 3 days. Day 4 he's off restriction. If mine get grounded at 3 P.M. on a Monday for 2 days, then by gosh, they are free birds on the 3rd day at 3 P.M. The full 48 hrs.

And there should also be rewards for good behavior. A trip to get ice cream, if they clean their room when told once, getting to watch their favorite program if they take out the trash. Just a few examples. You might want to try a chore and rewards chart, also. Let them see the progress they make when they behave themselves and hopefully they will straighten up and fly right.

Good Luck, Sweetie.

Answer 7

Time for a good talk to find out if something has happen in the last month. After that if he tells you nothing has happen then it is time for punishment. He is a child and you are the adult. Take away anything he likes doing (watching TV, playing with his friends etc..) and if that does not work then take him to see a doctor... And for your daughter stop her before she gets out of hand.... Just remember you are the adult and the boss not your children.

Answer 8

My answer is from my medical background --- From what you have described it seems that some incident has occurred in your son's life and he is indirectly trying to get your attention. I can't give you a specific reason because the info is limited, but sit down with your son and calmly ask him if why he feels so angry. I know it sounds like a simple answer, but with children (and teens) talking to them calmly lets down their guard and they become more willing to let you in. You may have to do this a few times, if you feel you aren't getting anywhere I suggest talking to a child therapist/psychologist especially if you feel its just getting worse. Some possible reasons based on your info could be a bully at school maybe; he may be feel that you're giving his sis more attention. Just talk to him calmly and hopefully you'll know what's bothering him. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

i'm an atheist or maybe i think of this is out of line for them to do this. faculties should not be coaching or advertising any faith, yet your son is legally allowed to envision the Bible if its for the time of inner maximum analyzing time and he's no longer disrupting the class. seek for suggestion from the ACLU for help. or in simple terms tell the college which you have contacted a criminal expert...in the event that they hear the word "lawsuit", they're going to supply in.

Answer 10

OK I HAVE A CHILD. SHE'S 5.. SHE ONLY ACTS LIKE A BRAT WHEN MY PARENTS R AROUND. BUT WHEN ITS JUST US. SHE'S GREAT. MY GRANDFATHER TOLD ME HOW IT WAS BACK IN HIS DAY. AND I STRONGLY STAND BEHIND THAT. I KNOW WHEN I WAS LIL IF I DID ANYTHING OUT OF PLACE I GOT A SPANKIN. AND I KNEW NOT TO DO IT AGAIN. KIDS THESE DAYS R SO OUT OF CONTROL. AND THEY MOSTLY NEED A GOOD LESSON IN TUFF LOVE.. AND MY GIRL KNOWS I LOVE HER, BUT SHE BETTER BE GOOD. OR I'LL TAKE EVERYTHING FROM HER AND THEN SPANK HER ONLY ONCE TIME (NOT 2 OR 3 OR SO ON). THEN TIME OUT FOR AS LONG AS I SAY. THEN SHE HAS TO HELP W/ THE CLEANIN (LIKE PICKIN UP THE LIVING ROOM NOTHING HARD). SHE HAS DONE SO MUCH BETTER THEN SHE WAS BOFORE I HAD THE TALK W/ MY GRANDFATHER. BEST OF LUCK

Answer 11

first of all sit him down and talk to him tell him nicely but stern that if he does not stop this rudeness and behavior, that you are going to take his favorite stuff away. tell him he will lose any previlage he has, don't let him go out and play with his friends, and i would see if he could talk to one of the counsler at school. maybe she can get something out of him why he is acting like he is, in school and out of school. but show him that you love him and tell him. but when it comes to his behaivior tell him , you are disappointed in him. but that you do love him good luck.