Mainly son or daughter, but for those without kids assume your brother/sister. Would you speak to them, disown them, encourage them to be happy...?
2006-12-25 21:24:23 · 32 answers · asked by Mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would deal with it and be supportive.
2006-12-25 21:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All parents are different. Parents are just people, and like all other people, their opinions of homosexuality vary widely. You should know your own parents better than we do! If you're not sure what they think about homosexuality, trying bringing it up in a casual conversation. Look out for a news story that you could use as a natural conversation-starter. Or lie and say one of your friends/classmates came out at school, or you caught two of them kissing. Or say it was mentioned in a class (if your school does classes with thinks like discussions on social and moral issues). Let that progress into a 'so what do you think?' kind of discussion. That might give you a better idea. Personally I'm lucky. I knew my parents wouldn't mind, and they are totally cool with it, didn't bat and eyelid.
2016-05-23 07:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard for older parents or parents that had no clue or even parents that are a bit nieve to homosexuality.
Children usually only tell their parents if they feel they can trust them. I would be greatfull my children trusted me enough with their personal life. I have 6 children from 19 yrs to 1 yr old.
If one of them ever tells me they are gay or they think they might be gay and need support. I will hug them so tight and say " No matter what you are my child" I will love them till the day i die.
I have lost 1 child ( he is an angel in heaven) and i tell you this...
To have your child alive and well is more important than who they love!!!!!
I would also get them all the info i could if they wanted any and i would treat their partner with respect also, if they had one.
To add to my comment..
I hope none of my children are Gay as it is a hard life for Gay people out there and i want my children to go to heaven.....
But it is their choice and all i can do is love them and respect their choices
2006-12-25 23:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by mummy to 6 ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in that position, but if I were (I have 2 sons) I think that I might try to be understanding. He or she is still the same person that we have always loved. I hope that I would be able to support them no matter what.
For example what if they announced that they had cancer, woulld you think different of them? Think about it.
So they have a different preference to us when it comes to a partner. So what, if it makes them happy I think that is all that matters.
If you truly love your son/daughter or brother/sister what matters. Are they any different to you?. They are still your son/daughter, brother/sister.
2006-12-25 21:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by jojammum48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave them alone for sometime without being too worried. Let him / her have some fun for sometime & if he / she is really gay then theres no way stopping someone who was born with it. If he / she isnt then they would respect you for being silent (even though he / she might know that you know about it) & not embarassing him / her. So just keep your fingers crossed & hope for the best. In the mean time try spending more time with your children & go out with them more often, that way you might get a chance to talk to him / her & understand his / her feelings. Maybe you could give some informal advice related to gay or lesbian sex from a social & religious viewpoint, which might be a good influence on him / her.
2006-12-25 21:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by mustafa_burhani52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wish them happiness. It is not MY life, it is theirs. Any time a relative, or friend, makes a decision for future contentment, I support them completely.
Homosexuality does not carry the same stigma that it used to, but that person is definetly on a tougher course. Anything you can do to help them, even if it is just a hug, will be welcomed, I guarantee.
2006-12-25 21:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by shaclare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would and have toldmy daughter that it's okay with me.My 15 yr old Daughter told me she was Bi sexual, and I told her when I was in my 20's I too had a few Bi seual relationships.Though thru time I realized for a long term relationship my chioce was hetro sexual, My best friend of 16 yrs was my "girlfriend".Give yourself a chance to know what you really are and want. My brother is gay and I love him for who he is, I think that's the reason I too was able to express my intimate feelings with another female.I still think that women are incredible intelligent and sexy creatures! Be grateful that your Child trust you and believe that you love them to be honest enough to know my mom/dad loves ME for ME no matter what!! I know I want my children to happy and I always want to be part of their lives and their partners lives.
2006-12-25 22:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say I would encourage it-there are alot of hardships out there forr gay people, and of course I wouldn't want my daughter to endure that. But obviously, if she could be straight, she'd probably choose that instead of dealing with all the crap society can put gays through, so I'd be supportive of her life and relationship(s).
2006-12-25 21:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hug them, tell them that it is good that they are being honest with everyone and sit them down and talk to them about the journey that took them to opening up to me about it. I am not sure how to encourage someone to be happy in this type of circumstance. While I would not condemn them, I would not want to say to them "go out and practice homosexuality". This I couldn't do. Nor, would I allow the person to stay with his/her partner in my home. I would accept it, but not just open the doors wide open to it. I just couldn't do that. I
2006-12-25 21:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by graff_monster@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that I still love them and would never stop loving them.And then tell them how I feel about the situation weather they like to hear it or not. You and only you know how you feel about the subject so let them know how you feel and if they don't like what you say and decide to stay away from you then they made that decision not you. Remember , your not in the wrong and don't let anybody try to change your conscience.
2006-12-25 23:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by papa G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive. If you love someone, it should be unconditionally. You don't have to agree or disagree. For them to even come to you and tell you means they respect you, don't take that for granted. They are either happy about it or they are struggling with it. Either way you can just be there to listen to them or support the decision that is thiers and only thiers to make.
2006-12-25 21:35:54 · answer #11 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋