I sometimes have to get them to watch my little girl {16 months} and my mother -in -law does not follow my instructions. We asked that our child not be rocked to sleep, she does it; we asked that she talk to her in a normal voice- she insist on"baby talk". My wife will not stand up to them even though she says she agrees with me. Any advice?
2006-12-25 18:40:54 · 12 answers · asked by Roll_Tide! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You wife needs to have a talk with her mother. You both are suppose to be united, but by not saying anything, your wife is making it look like she wants it to go on and is also making you look like the bad guy.
If your wife won't talk to her mother alone, why don't you try going to your MIL together? You both can support each other when you both tell your mother-in-law to obey your wishes.
Rocking and baby-talk is not the point. The point is that by not following your instructions, she is telling you that you do not matter, that your methods are unimportant and that her way of parenting is the only correct way. Your MIL had her chance at raising children and doing it her way. She should not be undermining you as a parent and interfering with how you want YOUR daughter to be treated.
Be careful. If you let this continue, it will escalate and soon you will have no authority over your child. She will see grandma as the person to go to when she wants something and she doesn't get her way.
2006-12-25 19:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
oh man, i know that right now at your daughter's age of 16 months...gandma's spoiling can be a........frustration.
lol cause when you get her home, she is going to want you to spoil her that way too,she will want you to rock her and she will not pronounce her words the way she should because she is learning the wrong way from granny.
But, dont worry.Soon enough your lil one will learn that only grandma is going to treat her this way.And grandma is just being a normal loving grandma.She will be who your daughter runs too when she thinks mom and dad are too rough and when your daughter hits those teenage years..she isnt going to listen to you..and not because of grandma but because she will be a normal teen.....and you will be thankful that your daughter will atleast confide in someone who is mature and can point her in the right dirrection.
Grand parents are going to spoil their grand babys no matter what,lol..there is no way around it.
I say pick your battles with your mother in law.Choose only the things that are REALLY important to argue with her about.But, do NOT allow her to over step you.
If your are getting on to your daughter or telling your daughter not to do something and grandma steps in and changes your ruling...by ALL means...unleash the beast on granny. lol Dont let her lead your daughter to believe that she doesnt have to listen you and that grandma will save her everytime.But,rocking and baby talk, thats not too bad.
Maybe you can talk to her politely and explain why you do not like this behavior.Or if your daughter wakes up at 3am and wont go back to because she needs to be rocked by nana........lol call granny up and have her come over a few times.After a few nights of that mess, grandma may just change her mind on her own.lol
lol good luck to you.
2006-12-25 19:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dream 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being petty. Why can't a child be rocked to sleep? Why can't granny talk baby talk to the kid? She LOVES the baby! If you want free babysitting services from the in-laws, these are not reasons to get your panties in a wad. If you have to be in control of everything the kid is exposed to, get yourself a sitter and pay her for her services. Geeze...you're daughter is being loved here. Show some appreciation! Godloveya.
2006-12-25 20:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They sound like normal, loving grandparents to me. They are doing you a favor by watching your daughter. Be grateful and shut up about how they are doing it. Rocking and talking baby talk are ways of showing affection. What could be wrong with that?
2006-12-25 18:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Move out as fast as you can. Not that in-laws are bad news but the bad news is that you live there under their roof... How would you feel if someone was living under your roof. Wouldn't you feel the same since of authority?
Seems like it's trivial...but wait intill you get there!
2006-12-25 18:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the inlaws a break the only get to enjoy their grandghildren for a short time you have them all the time what is wrong with grandparents being alowed to showing a little love
2006-12-25 18:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by LISA A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!! tell them to treat your child as per your instructions or not babysit for you when you ask them to..
how dare they show your baby love and affection in that manner!! it could ruin her for life
after all your grandmother probably rocked you to sleep and talked to you in "baby-talk" and just look at how you turned out..
2006-12-25 19:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by mother of teenagers 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd leave it alone...don't take being a grandma away from her. She wants to love her and rock her to sleep. Your daughter will have a special bond with her for it.
2006-12-25 18:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a damn job and a life.
Those folks rocking your daughter and talking baby talk to her aren't hurting a damn thing.
Get a friggin job.
2006-12-25 19:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Quit letting her watch the baby until she gets the point. When she ask why you haven't called her to watch the little one just be polite and tell her!! She needs to respect what you want.
2006-12-25 18:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by LSD 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋