I have been married quite sometime now .My wife is spanish and very emotional.For the longest time there has been things going on in the family and she gets really emotional and really gets into extreme distress or yelling.I used to just ignore it and not worry about it ,and then I would try and console and talk logic to her later and she would then be ok.Lately this has been an everyday thing,something happening here or there.She gets into a yelling mood and or depresed mood and its a family communication drama.I mean worse than any on tv.Its gotten to be so much that it really bothers me.I hate the phone ringing because its one family member after the other rehashing and rehashing.It gets on my nerves to know end and bothers me alot.I dont want to hurt her feelings but lately it really troubles me .I can feel the blood pressure rising when all this happens and it happens alot.I have tried to be patient but its everyday thing.I don't know what to say to her to let her know how I feel.
2006-12-25 21:01:18 · 5 answers · asked by LL B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your wife. Do not criticize her, simply mention that you have noticed that this is happening much more frequently.
Gently suggest to your wife that maybe she would benefit from talking to a therapist, because it sounds like she may be on the edge of depression, and even if she isn't, she sounds like she would still benefit from talking through everything with a professional.
I've had my own issues in the past, and a therapist at my school really helped me work through everything.
2006-12-25 21:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently and so gently take the phone when these troublesome people call and say ever so politely , My wife can not take this call . Please call back when you have something pleasant to say. My wife nor I will be in the family drama anymore. Then hang up.
Turn to your wife and hug her and tell her how much you love her and tell her as her husband you can not allow these phone calls to upset her and will not allow them to do this anymore to her. Make sure you tell her that you dont mind her family calling . But , they better have something to say other than to upset her .
You might have to do this several times with these family members .
My husband did this for me. At first I was very upset . Then we got to laughing cause it would stop those women in my family that seem to have nothing to do but keep a feud going. Trust me there is another man most likely Spanish thinking the same thing as you.
2006-12-26 05:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very tricky situation. Wel u need 2 talk 2 ur wife alone n directly. Explain ur thinking 2 her. If u don't have an idea 2 start the talk tell her dat u luv her n from someday ur not in stable situation. Then wen she asks tell her the whole thing. Also listen 2 her n try 2 console her. N say her dat ur always wid her.
I hope it will help u.
2006-12-26 05:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to let this occur when I was married to my first husband. Your wife's family is abusing her and all of the rest of the relatives and they don't realize it. Change your phone number and don't give it out. Fix it so it wont show up on caller ID. Take your wife away for a few days before you do this and explain it to her while you are away. Let her see how peaceful life can be without the interference of her family. She is supposed to put you and your marriage first. It took me years to learn to hang up on my family and to put my own family life before their invented (most of the time they were freaking out on me regarding something really stupid) crisis.
2006-12-26 05:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by graff_monster@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her? Tell her that she's over reacting.
2006-12-26 05:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋